The question is, how can two people who were originally independent come together, get familiar with each other, be similar to each other and move forward hand in hand?
Aristotle put forward: "It follows."
It was originally used to explain how to combine two unrelated things in the process of development.
And this can also be applied to falling in love.
But it is not a philosophical concept that can help you fall in love, can help you lock in the object of love, and then he will have feelings with you and even fall in love. Love, first of all, is the opportunity to meet the person you want. This is not to say that philosophy is a machine through which people can like you. At the same time, it doesn't mean to talk about a Platonic love through philosophy, because Platonic love is pure in concept and there is no possibility of getting along with each other.
Falling in love is meeting someone you like, hoping that he likes you and you like him. Philosophy can help this.
First, the concept of "companionship" emphasizes the process. That is, before you know anything, such as wanting two people to become lovers, there is a process of change. For Aristotle, this process is that you have the potential to become lovers, and then gradually become lovers through the development of "companionship". This change is a process. In this process, you should be able to enjoy every step of the process.
Second, keep going up and down. Aristotle has an idea that before anything happens, there is a potential possibility, so that this potential possibility can happen. Just like you want to pursue a person, you should at least have contact and make yourself feel concrete.
Third, we should completely forget the goal of pursuing the opposite sex. Why forget the goal? Because only by forgetting the goal can you simply keep in touch and enjoy the process.
Fourth, because you forget the goal, you don't care about success or failure, and then enjoy the process. It's like playing ball. During the game, you must enjoy sports. You will win the best, and it doesn't matter if you lose. Why? Because everyone has worked hard, this is the process of enjoyment. If it is to win, just want to win and don't want to lose, the pressure of the game will be great. In the same way, when you pursue a person, the purpose is to pursue, that is, too strong a purpose will scare the other person.
Falling in love itself is a process, from a stranger at the beginning to a couple at the end. In retrospect, every step of the whole process is the direction that should be worked hard. In fact, whether there is this result is not so important in the process of enjoyment.
The ancients said, "There is another village with a bright future."
In addition to love, you can't do anything without the concept of "companionship". Therefore, we should internalize the concept of "companionship" into our lives.
The viewpoint of this article comes from the attachment of Professor Yuan: Philosophy can teach you to fall in love! 》