But even so, the expectation and yearning for big cities still exist in my heart, just buried deep in my heart, and it needs an opportunity and an instant to make it erupt. It happened that the company was on a business trip, and it happened that it was my turn to work in Beijing for five days, which made me lucky enough to know the city of Beijing and this group, which is mostly young people born after 90.
Speaking of the pace of work in first-tier cities, 996 is everyone's impression of the giant companies standing in Beijing. Of course, these companies also represent a large part of Beijing office workers. It is almost impossible to go to work at 9 am and get off work at 9 pm. According to the data published in previous years, the average off-duty time of giant companies in Beijing, such as Baidu, Netease and Sina, is around 10:30, and so is the industry unicorn. You can imagine other ordinary office workers.
A very vivid scene, if your station happens to be not far from the smoking room, when you are working, you can always see three or two employees go in for a fixed period of time to smoke, and when they are busy smoking a few mouthfuls, they immediately put out their cigarette butts and continue to go back to work. These people are not smokers, but luxuriously enjoy the freedom and relaxation of smoking for a few seconds, because they know that once they put down their cigarette butts, they will continue to bear all kinds of burdens.
Every time I go to work in Beijing, I want to know the difference between the life and work income of young people in first-tier cities and second-and third-tier cities, so I will chat with my brothers and sisters in the dormitory before I leave. "How much can you earn a year?" "Can you save money every month after renting water and electricity?" Do you usually work hard? Do you sometimes have the urge to resign? The answer they gave me was: "less than 65,438+10,000 yuan", "6,000 yuan a month" and "about 8,000 yuan a month, and the rent is big. Counting all kinds of expenses, there is basically no way to save money and no money. " "In your opinion, no one who works hard in Beijing is relaxed. The idea of quitting comes up every day, but why don't you quit? Because there is no money. "
When my colleagues and I lived in Beijing, they set the alarm clock for two hours every morning. They get up before dawn and clean themselves up. They go out for half an hour, take the bus for half an hour, transfer to the subway for one hour and buy breakfast for 20 minutes. Finally, they arrived at the company by bike 10 minutes, and after 10 in the evening, the office building soared. I really thought it was the next day, and I couldn't take the bus after work in the early morning. I'd rather take the last bus of the company than spend a few more dollars on a taxi. When I got home, I fell asleep after washing, and I didn't have the energy to socialize or overdraw myself to do other things, because if I don't cherish these hours of sleep, the next day will come soon, one day, two days, three days, one month, one year.
Even I myself will doubt for them, is this life really what they expected when they came to Beijing?
I always thought that after coming to the first-tier cities, my life and work would develop as expected, which would bring me hope and motivation, but the real situation is: a chicken feather in one place. My emotions may erupt in a criticism from the leader, an incomprehension from my parents on the phone, and a naivety from my friend, without warning, but timely enough and unexpected enough.
Why is this happening? Because many times, we think too much about ourselves and first-tier cities.
0 1 It is a kind of self-deception to regard the platform as a capability.
Give an example of a friend. Most people come to first-tier cities to struggle for nothing more than two goals: "realizing their dreams" and "making money hard". Everyone's motivation is good, but many people may not have a good attitude to look at and admit the cruelty of reality and the gap between reality and ideal.
Peng Peng, a college roommate, went to Beijing to work hard despite his family's opposition after graduation. He wants to use his own efforts to prove to his family that his choice is not wrong. After working in Beijing for five years, the monthly salary rose from 3000 to 1 000. Indeed, just from the perspective of salary increase, his choice is not wrong, and his efforts seem to have paid off. But even so, he can't afford to buy a house or even a toilet in Beijing.
In the eighth year of work, Pumbaa's parents advised him to go back to his hometown to develop. After all, it is impossible to buy a house in Beijing, and it is only a matter of time before he can go back. He also knows that Beijing is becoming more and more dreamy for him. Even if his salary goes up, he seems to be one step closer to his dream, but he feels that the city is leaving him. In the end, Pumbaa chose to return to his hometown.
I thought my sales in Beijing were good, and I felt that my ability was ok. It shouldn't be difficult to find a salesman with a monthly salary of 7 thousand in my hometown. After all, I was hit by my self-confidence and cruel reality. Don't mention the job with a monthly salary of 7 thousand, and the job with a monthly salary of 5 thousand, people have to think of you. In the end, I submitted dozens of resumes, but few people were willing to take him. I thought I would have enough choices, but now it seems that I will have enough choices.
This is a misunderstanding of taking the platform capability as its own hard power. You always think that your salary increase in first-tier cities is like meat growing on yourself, but it is not. To a large extent, your view of growth is just the advantages that the platform gives you in a specific environment.
Your monthly salary in Beijing is 1 0,000 yuan. You have good resources and a large number of high-quality customers. Usually you come with a big bill, and there are many rich people around you. But once you arrive in a third-tier city, will your customer resources follow you? Can you really hold it in your hand?
For sales, what are the platform advantages and capabilities that a city like Beijing can provide? Beijing is the city with the highest average wage in the whole country, which means that there are relatively more rich people here, their spending power is stronger, they are your potential customers, and you can have a higher wage starting point; There are many elite circles here, and you can meet outstanding elite talents from all walks of life, which is a network resource for you; There is a fairer and more transparent employment environment and business environment here, which means to a great extent that you can get what you want through your own efforts.
All of the above, you think that a monthly salary of over 10,000 yuan is a manifestation of ability, but for Pumbaa, it is impossible for him to take away all the customer resources, contacts and relationships he has accumulated in Beijing after returning to his hometown. Back home, he wants to start from scratch, and the sales with a monthly salary of 3,000 don't necessarily need him. In fact, your so-called hard power growth is only the advantage that most platforms give you, and you can't take it away without you.
First-tier cities can really make people grow up, but the most terrible thing for young people is that they don't realize that it is their own growth, and always regard the help brought by the outside world as their own strength. I always feel that as long as I go to a place like Beishangguang, I will definitely have a higher starting point and better career growth than others. I always feel that working in a city like Beishangguang will have an advantage over others in any way.
People who think they live to 20% are still ordinary people.
The workplace is like a pyramid, just like the law of social wealth distribution. 80% wealth is always in the hands of 20% people, and the remaining 80% people are fighting for the remaining 20% wealth.
For most young people living in cities like Beishangguang, even if they have no great achievements in their careers and work, the commuting time is only 3-4 hours every day, and the company at home is 2: 00 and 1: 00 every day. I feel very tired and can't see the future, but I still despise those seemingly glamorous and decent jobs in second-and third-tier cities. Compared with working and living in big cities, second-and third-tier small cities give them the impression of "supporting the elderly", "work is not challenging" and "seeing the future at a glance". Even in terms of quality of life, they may not be as good as institutions and civil servants in second-and third-tier cities, but there is always a sense of contempt for the work and life in small cities.
Strangely, this feeling is not innate, but a "far-sighted" urban disease developed after staying in a big city for a long time. Even if I live in the basement of Beijing to eat instant noodles, I don't want to go back to that place that makes me physically and mentally exhausted.
Self-confidence in oneself is actually a disadvantage brought about by urban development. You always think that living in a big city can live to the top 20% of people you expect, but looking back at your feet, the ordinary can no longer be ordinary. You stand on the shoulders of giants, but when you leave this city, you are still humble.
Everyone thinks that big cities will have opportunities, but after careful observation, in recent years, except for first-tier cities, second-and third-tier cities have developed rapidly, and some second-tier cities have even squeezed into the ranks of new first-tier cities, and the gap between urban development is gradually narrowing. Some second-and third-tier cities are also introducing talents in the form of real money subsidies to help urban development. Compared with cities like Beishangguang, cities with high housing prices and some emerging first-tier cities, in terms of wages and infrastructure,
Access to social information has become more diverse and open. In this era, there is no need to be a first-tier city. In the future, for young people, cities that are developing rapidly and gathering development potential will bring more opportunities and choices for young people to find jobs and find jobs. There is great competition pressure in the north, Guangzhou and Shenzhen, and it is difficult to survive. Rooting is almost impossible. For many people, the price and survival pressure will eventually be passers-by in this city. When I feel compelled to leave, maybe many people have entered middle age. How can I compete with those young people who have just graduated when I go back to my hometown at this time?
03
For many people, going to first-tier cities is nothing more than trying to earn more money. If you can, you can buy a house there and settle down, but it is not easy to achieve these goals in first-tier cities, because you can save a little money every year, which has surpassed many people. Many people work hard in the morning and evening, seriously overdrawing their health, but when they come back, they find that they have finally ruined their health and still have no money. What's the middle question?
I thought I could earn money by working hard, but after a year or two, life is still the same. I work to earn money and continue to work. While overdrawing my body to make money, I continue to overdraw my body with the money I earned.
Busier and poorer, poorer and busier. Why do you feel this way?
In fact, the real reason behind it has nothing to do with whether you are first-line or third-line. Let's give a simple example. If your salary rises from 3000 yuan to 6000 yuan that day, although the salary increase level is nothing in Beijing, I believe that on the first day after the salary increase, many people will consider renting a house in another place, even if the distance from the company can make them sleep for half an hour, from the initial rent of 138.
Theoretically speaking, wage growth means an increase in disposable income. If you are satisfied with your original living conditions, you can certainly save money. However, human beings are animals that yearn for a better life and a quality life. For many people, although the ultimate goal of coming to Beijing is to make money, many people will do so if they can properly improve their living standards within their own capabilities.
The reason why I feel that I have been wandering between work and making money is because many times, we leave the opportunity to save money to enjoy the present, and our satisfaction with life is constantly improving, and our requirements for ourselves are constantly getting higher. A monthly salary of 3,000 is thinking about the life with a monthly salary of 5,000, and a monthly salary of 5,000 is thinking about the life with a monthly salary of 65,438+100,000. We are constantly enjoying the pleasure and satisfaction brought by the improvement of the quality of life.
With the increase of income, the fundamental purpose of not making money is that many people use the extra money to enjoy the present without considering the long-term life in the future. Of course, the price you pay is that although you are living well now, you still can't leave a penny in your pocket from 3000 to 5000 to 1000 a month. The development of your career has not given you any capital to resist the risks of life. In a simple sentence,
In essence, saving money is a manifestation of delaying satisfaction. Saving money may take a month or two, or even a year or two, and it won't have much impact on your life. But after a long time, you will find that the difference between saving money and not saving money is huge. People dedicate their wages to landlords and their usual quality of life, but they are building a wall to resist risks for their own lives. Learning to delay satisfaction is much more important than learning to enjoy the present. The former has a long-term and developmental vision and can
The final conclusion: For most people, going to first-tier cities is to make money, not to enjoy it. Don't expect too much from the city and yourself. Sometimes the greater the expectation, the greater the disappointment. Since you have made a choice, it must be the most normal way for you to suffer. Don't give up the weight of your future life in order to enjoy the present. Many of us take the initiative to pass by in a hurry, and the future life will accompany us all our lives.
If you want to make money through work, you have to restrain your satisfaction, lower yourself and lower your expectations, so that you can make money in first-tier cities, and maybe you can work and live better.