First, the body must not have zero-distance contact data.
According to the research of American psychologist Hall, if the distance between men and women is less than 46 cm, it will be regarded as flirting or intimacy; 50-60 cm is the distance of private space, which is equivalent to a small world of self-activity; 60 cm away is the normal distance to communicate with people. In view of this, the body distance should be controlled outside 60 cm, because we can't feel the speed of the other person's breathing and the subtle changes of skin texture and color. It is better to keep the idea that men and women are not close to each other when opening up again. The most important thing is zero distance contact.
Second, there should be no psychological attraction of opposites.
As the saying goes, like-sex repel, opposite-sex attract. This sentence is especially applicable to men and women in the office. There is often competition between the same sex, while the opposite sex can often help and cooperate with each other. Didn't you see that many policemen in police films are partners of a man and a woman, and the detection rate is extremely high? If they are both male policemen, one of them will definitely die young. This way of working has a nice name: men and women are matched, and work is not tiring. I think everyone knows whether you are tired or not. This is just a beautiful excuse for their greed.
Haven't you heard that love grows with time? Why is the divorce rate high in literary and art circles? This is not just an act. If a partner comes to find a partner, he will pretend to sing. There is a scientific basis for opposites to attract, which is said in physics, but it is a stubborn disease in psychology. Didn't someone say that if there were only men or women in the world, they wouldn't even wash their faces? This is a bit harsh, but this assumption is not necessarily false. Therefore, men and women should reduce their psychological fit and increase their rejection, especially don't compare their lover's shortcomings with each other's strengths, otherwise it will be dangerous. Immunity to the attraction of the opposite sex attracts more people of the same sex and is not called homosexuality.
Third, emotion is not beyond the scope of friendship.
Men and women in the office are normally just colleagues and then friends. However, due to the limitation of interest, few colleagues can become friends, so friendship is much more precious. Whether there is a true friendship between men and women has been discussed for several years, and there is no result in the end. But what confidante, confidante, has been arguing for quite some time, which has been accepted by many people and opposed by many people. This package does not include the relationship between men and women in the office, and it is difficult to verify. But we believe that no matter how good a colleague is, feelings should stop at "friendship".
After all, it's not good to hurt anyone because of the small circle. As the saying goes, rabbits don't eat grass beside their nests. If they want to develop what kind of emotions, they shouldn't make fun of the people around them, should they? Therefore, the relationship between men and women in the office should be limited to "friendship" and should not be allowed to break through the levee of reason. If a colleague wants to develop a perverted friendship with you, you should give him a way out, and you won't appear wherever he is; Or simply introduce your lover to him, show your love in front of him, and tell him that third parties are not welcome in your family.
Fourth, don't talk beyond the scope of work.
Men and women in the office can't compare with classmates and friends, and the conversation at home can be wide or short. The topics of men and women in the office should be work, work, and work again ... Topics outside of work can only be skimmed, and they can't be expanded at will. In particular, don't let the other person help you end some private affairs in your family life and social life. Always tell your family to the opposite sex, and the other party will think that you are deliberately seducing. Even if there is no misunderstanding, you will have the feeling of giving people a handle, and even doubt that the other party will "betray" you. Over time, you lose each other's trust and your work becomes more and more embarrassing. Children's songs say, "Do your job well …" Then, you should solve your private affairs. If you meet someone who confides in you, you just "listen" to it. You only console yourself with no comments and no suggestions. When it comes to emotional matters, I think it's better to take 36 measures.