Teacher Liu's lecture outline:
Unit 1: Overview of Emotion and Emotion
Unit 2: Dimensions and Bipolarity of Emotion and Emotional Change
Unit 3: Types of Emotions and Emotions
Unit 4: Will
Emotions can't get out, and reason can't get in; When emotions come out, reason can go in.
When the mood is blocked, we can't hear other people's voices, whether in a good mood or a bad mood. Once some people succeed, they become bloated and hot-headed, and he can't hear anything others say to him. When a person is sad inside, he is immersed in his own pain and won't listen to other people's persuasion. What should I do at this time?
? To follow his vein, stick to him and enter his emotional world, without pulling him and trying to make him do something, his emotions will not come out. Therefore, we must first accept his emotions, and when they come out, the truth can be heard. For example, a child has some problems at school, and he has many emotions. At this time, parents should keep up with their children's emotions. If you can't keep up, you can criticize him, accuse him, blame him and persuade him that the child may be hurt twice, and then he won't talk to you and you won't hear the child's voice. Just like you were criticized by the leader at work, go home and tell your lover that his lover is still accusing you of being bad. How do you feel at this time? What do you want your husband to say? How come?
When a person has emotions, if he has the opportunity to speak out and get the support and understanding of his family, his emotions can be alleviated. If family members don't understand, they should express their hopes and expectations.
Men and women are different. Men like to hold back when they are emotional, and men will not give up easily when they encounter difficulties. Women like to vent when they are emotional, so women live longer. However, women should help their husbands to ease their emotions. A woman is like air. Without her, she is invisible. Without her, she is the soul of the family.
Speech is healing, and the listener should be able to understand the speaker and accept his emotions in order to achieve the healing effect.
Who hurts when the knife is cut?
Immersed in learning, you should also remember your initial heart.
? Unit 1: Overview of Emotion and Emotion
First, the definition of emotion and emotion
Emotion and emotion are the experience of people's attitude towards objective external things.
Comparison between emotion and cognitive process: 1. Emotion and emotion are psychological activities mediated by people's needs.
Where there is emotion, it is often the most important point and very valuable. When consulting, you should stay more and find the points he cares about, which is more likely to bring about changes. With the scores we care about, we will be more motivated. If you don't care, you may have no motivation.
? If a person is angered by something, he should dig deep into what he cares about. What makes him think so? How does he feel? What is his hope? What do you think makes you feel this way? For example: What bothers you? What may be behind the trouble? Let's try and see how much we can think of. What factors may be behind the troubles? Have you thought about it? If not, let's take a look now and let him know more about himself.
There are positive expectations behind complaints, and behind anxiety and irritability, they are often to make themselves better. Emotional places should be interpreted and discussed. Care is one aspect of need.
? People's growth often comes from adversity. For example, when they are in pain, there will be many struggles in their hearts. After the struggle, there will be a lot of thinking and consciousness, and then it may grow.
2. Emotion and emotion are subjective feelings of the subject, or inner experience.
3. Emotion and emotion can see the change of expression, but not the cognitive process.
4. Emotion and emotion can cause physiological changes, but the cognitive process is not accompanied by such changes.
? Some people are physiologically sensitive, and emotions can cause physiological changes.
Our bodies are affected by emotions and emotions. There is a book called "The body will never forget". Do you eat well when you are in a bad mood? Often unable to eat, there will be many physical and mental diseases, physiological diseases caused by psychology, or physiological diseases caused by psychological influence, for example, stomach pain when angry. There are also headaches, digestive diseases, high blood pressure and so on. Many physical diseases are related to emotional state. Therefore, we should learn to make ourselves happier and happier.
Even though there are many responsibilities and obligations, we should see some sunshine in our life. If we can't see the sunshine, we should also see the starlight at night. It's called dancing in chains. No matter how miserable life is, we can still have flowers and sunshine in our hearts, and we can still have flowers, people are in trouble and our hearts are flying. A good emotional state is very important to people's health.
? The best state of health is to cultivate the mind, plant the seeds of happiness in the heart, let it take root, sprout, grow and blossom, and bear fruit. For example, some cancer patients overcome the disease with the sunshine in their hearts.
? The highest realm of learning psychology is self-cultivation and self-cultivation.
5. Emotion and emotional structure consist of three parts: subjective experience, physiological activation and external performance.
? Emotion and emotion are the external manifestations of inner feelings and reflect a person's attitude. Like some people with emotions, they are happy. With the growth of age, we may be more mature than happy, and many emotions will be suppressed, which will easily lead to problems after a long time. If there is no place to talk, you can find a professional partner to practice consulting. When you look at the problem from all angles, your attitude will change and your mood will change. When cognition changes, feelings and intentions will also change, and cognition is the most critical. Cognition hasn't changed, but emotion and meaning seem to have changed, probably superficially.
? No matter what role, the role of the consultant is only in the consulting room.
(2) Expression
? Expressions are generally divided into facial expressions, body expressions and verbal expressions. (It is the easiest facial expression to hide when you are insincere. )
Facial expression: the pattern of facial muscle activity is the main symbol to identify people's emotions and emotions.
Couples who have lived together for a long time will have husband and wife, but in fact they are more like gods, with similar temperament and mental state and similar values, but their personalities can complement each other.
? Body expression: changes in body movements other than the face, including gestures and body postures. (Body expressions can be trained deliberately)
Micro-expressions are understandable, but don't study them too deeply. In life, it is not bad to see flowers in the fog and the moon in the water. Don't be too serious, and you can't see through them, otherwise happiness will be gone.
Speech expression: it is the expression of emotions and feelings in the tone, rhythm and speed of speech.
Second, the difference and connection between emotion and emotion? The two are inseparable, emotion expresses emotion, and emotion restricts emotion.
Our love for our motherland is emotional and deep. Where there is emotion, there must be emotion. For example, when we hear the national anthem, we will feel excited and shallow.
Emotions are presented through emotions.
Difference:
1. Different objects, emotions are unique to people and animals, and emotions are unique to people.
2. Different needs, emotions are related to biological needs, and emotions are social needs.
3. With different characteristics, emotions are situational and unstable, and emotions are profound, stable and long-term.
4. Strong emotions, impulsiveness and obvious external characteristics; Emotion is generally weak, less impulsive, and the external performance is not obvious.
Contact person:
1. Emotion and emotion are interdependent and inseparable.
2. Stable emotions are formed on the basis of emotions, and the accumulation of emotions forms stable emotions, which can be expressed through emotions.
? 3. Emotion is inseparable from emotion, and the change of emotion reflects the depth of emotion, which contains emotion.
From falling in love to getting married, two people are from liking to loving, from feeling to moving, from shallow to deep.
? Third, emotions and the role of emotions
? (1) Adaptive function:
1. In the early days, infants and young children conveyed information through emotions, expressed their needs, and gained the concern of adults.
2. In adult life, communicate with people through emotions, smile and nod, and maintain normal interpersonal relationships.
We will send some messages through emotions and emotions. For example, children need to be taken care of when they cry. Of course, crying expresses many different needs and different meanings.
Speak with your heart, not with your mouth. Only when there is love and appreciation in your heart can you convey it through words. When listening to others, you should feel with your heart. That kind of feeling is the most real, it is something in his heart, and words are from the heart.
We can adapt to this society through emotions. Different situations have different expressions, and emotions sometimes protect us.
(B) Incentive function
1. Emotion and emotion are the basic components of the incentive system.
2. Emotion and emotion play an amplification and enhancement role in the internal drive.
Emotion affects people's motivation. If a person is in a bad mood, he will have no motivation and strength to do things. For example, if you criticize him every day for not studying hard and being a bad reviewer for his children, he will not communicate with his parents if he is in a bad mood and extremely bored. How can he have the motivation to study? Therefore, parents should lower their expectations and be critics of their children.
? Open your eyes to see each other clearly before marriage and narrow your eyes after marriage.
(3) Organizational function (influence)
Emotion and emotion pair activity: the coordination of positive emotions and the destruction and disintegration of negative emotions. Moderate intensity of happy mood is beneficial to people's cognitive activities and operational effects.
Happiness is easy to cause sadness, and moderate intensity of happiness is beneficial to people's cognitive activities. The matter itself is not a problem. If you care too much and want too much, it may become a problem.
The influence of emotions and emotions on memory: for example, some painful things may be forgotten, while things with deep emotions may be remembered for many years.
The influence of mood on behavior: I am more willing to do things when I am in a good mood, and I don't want to do anything when I am in a bad mood.
(4) Signal function
It has the function of transmitting information and exchanging ideas-through expressions.
? Similarly, different emotions have different expressions, such as "hate". Girls in love may say it lightly, and people who don't like it may say it is disgusting.
It doesn't matter what you say, what matters is the information and emotion you say, which is the most important thing. Cultivate your mind and cultivate your nature, and speak with warmth.
If parents are insincere to their children, they are faking it, and children can feel it. Some people say that children are the best cinematographers, and their parents can imitate everything they say and do, but they often imitate your bad behavior.
Unit 2 the polarity of emotions and emotions and the dimension of change
First, the polarity of emotions and emotions (two extremes)
Bipolarity: Every change of mood has two opposing states.
Dimensions of emotional change: mainly refers to motivation, excitement, intensity and tension.
Emotions and emotions are the best, but in daily life, emotions and emotions will be high and low, and it is normal to repeat them.
Second, the dimensions of emotions and emotional changes
Motivation: increase strength-decrease strength (improve or reduce people's activity ability)
Excitement: excitement-calm
Strength: medium strength is best.
Nervous: Nervous-relaxed
Life is mixed, and you can't be happy forever, but it depends on what the main color is and pay more attention to the good exceptions. Accept the reality and learn to face the problem. The problem itself is not a problem, but an improper solution. It's okay to care, but don't overreact. Overreaction can lead to reinforcement and become a problem. For example, children don't want to go to school.
Unit 3? Types of emotions
First, basic emotions and complex emotions
Basic emotions: Happiness (joy), anger, sadness and fear (joys and sorrows) exist in both humans and animals. Learning without skill is also called primitive emotions.
Compound emotion: It comes from different combinations of basic emotions.
Hostility = anger+disgust+contempt
Anxiety = fear+guilt+pain+anger
A crying child
What emotions do you have when you see a crying baby?
Second, emotions, passions and pressures.
From the emotional state:
(1) mentality
A weak, persistent and diffuse state of emotional experience, usually called emotion. Long duration (weeks, months)
(2) Passion
A strong, explosive and short-lived emotional state.
? Three months in love is not short. If you are too passionate, it is easy to have problems.
(3) Stress (coping with excitement)
? A nervous state in an accident or dangerous situation.
? It's not a big deal in itself, it depends on how we look at it. If you can see more perspectives, it may not be a big deal. If you only pay attention to the bad aspects, it will easily become a major event and a problem.
Unit 4? will
First, the definition of will
Will, commonly known as perseverance, is a psychological process of consciously determining (owning) a goal, regulating behavior, and achieving a predetermined goal by overcoming difficulties and setbacks.
Will action: Action governed by will.
For example, if you want to get good grades in the exam, you must have the support of will.
In order to make a person more determined, it is related to a series of factors. First of all, we must have a goal, which is relatively easy to achieve, and we must be clear about the significance to us after the goal is achieved. We must adjust in time, constantly strengthen, and look at what we have done. Only when we have peers can we make better progress.
Second, the basic stage of will action
(1) Preparatory stage
Establish the purpose of action, choose the action plan and make decisions.
Some children don't know why they study, and they are prone to hollowness, aimlessness and nihilism. Therefore, children should be educated to set long-term goals.
(2) Implementation stage
Firmly carry out the established plan, overcome the motives and behaviors that hinder the realization of the established goals, and constantly review the established plan in order to correct the plan in time and ensure the realization of the goals.
The clearer the goal, the more specific the plan, and the easier it is to achieve.
Motivational conflict
Lei Wen believes that motivation conflicts generally have the following types:
1. Two-way conflict (you want two, you can only choose one). You can't have it both ways.
2. Avoidance-Avoidance of conflict (don't want both, choose one)? choose the lesser of two evils
3. Avoid conflicts (both want and fear): such as sweets and obesity, and the psychology of remarried people.
4. Multiple avoidance conflicts: avoidance conflicts are formed for multiple targets.
If anyone wants to eat something.
Game: palm painting-there are five kinds of life, and these five kinds should be abandoned one by one, leaving the last one. Learn to give up and cherish in life.
Third, the quality of will.
(1) Consciousness (self-consciousness): I have a deep understanding of the purpose of action, and I can consciously control my actions to make them obey the purpose of the activity. On the contrary, it is implicit and arbitrary.
(2) Decisiveness: Make a decision quickly and don't waste time. (On the contrary, it is indecisive and reckless. )
(3) Resilience: Persevere in overcoming difficulties, never back down. (On the contrary, it is anticlimactic, vacillating and stubborn)
(4) Self-control: the ability to manage and control one's emotions and behaviors. (On the contrary, willfulness and cowardice)
The world is diverse and has its own reasons. As long as you adapt to your own situation and feel comfortable, it's OK.
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