A couple who have been married for nearly 10 years have recently started to have frequent conflicts with their husbands.
? It won't be long before their relationship is good. They will quarrel for various reasons, then make up in the cold war, and then they will quarrel for no reason next time … endlessly.
? The wife works hard for the family, but the husband seems to be doing nothing and doesn't want to make progress.
? The wife wants to change each other, and often can't help but say that he wants him to be better.
But her husband didn't cooperate, but responded in the cold war. Over time, two people talk less and less, and the relationship is getting worse and worse.
? Through consultation, I found that the root cause came from her.
When she was a child, her parents were very strict with her. As long as her exam results don't meet her parents' requirements, she will be severely criticized and even punished.
? So she formed a deep-rooted belief from an early age: you are only good enough to be loved. ?
? After getting married, she subconsciously projected this request on her partner, feeling that only when the other person becomes like herself can two people work hard for this family.
? However, her husband's incomprehension and non-cooperation made her feel disappointed and angry frequently. She couldn't help feeling suspicious and unworthy.
? Over time, their relationship was repeatedly hurt and consumed under such circumstances.
? Even more deadly, they only know how to quarrel on superficial details, but they don't know how to solve and repair the problem from the root. The result is naturally a quarrel cycle, but there is no real solution to the problem.
Therefore, only when you learn to return to your inner self, see the root of the problem and why you are suffering, depressed and repeating the same mistakes in your feelings can you really solve the problem.
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