One reply said: it's not greasy bowls and pans, nor dirty toilets, nor flustered children splashing water everywhere, but the changes of boys before and after marriage! Perhaps, boys haven't changed at all. They just hide well before marriage and show the good side to girls, but they can't hide for a lifetime, and gradually restore themselves to their original colors in oil, salt, sauce and vinegar. While this lady was beset with housework, her psychological state gradually changed to that described in Wang Anyi's Jin Yong novels: In the past, I admired a man like Gao Cangjian, who was tall, burly and resolute, and never laughed, as if shouldering human pains and obligations. But slowly, my understanding of men is becoming more and more common. I hope he can tolerate women, even a small worker who washes dishes can put pressure on them.
It seems that there are few opportunities for boys to save women in the den, and daily life is more and more full of trivial matters. Only after I survive can I figure it out. _ Softness is more important than intimacy. Modern women with two emotional lines are no different from men's investment in the field of work. They expect to have a healthy marriage relationship, and expect their husbands to pay attention to their wives and shoulder the obligations and responsibilities that boys should do.
In fact, there are countless examples in the post.
When Koizumi and Amon divorced last year, many people were surprised! The relationship between husband and wife _ has _ all the problems, how can it suddenly not last long? The difference is that after the children go to school, they move from their parents' home to the degree room and live independently. Only after living independently did Koizumi know that Amon was so lazy. Every day after work, Ge You collapsed on the sofa watching TV series or watching mobile phones, and shouted several times when eating. There are too many housework, and Koizumi is simply too busy. She asked Amon to wash the dishes, but he often broke them carelessly. Let him wash the sheets, the collar is always dirty; Keep him clean, there will always be blind spots abandoned? Koizumi is too tired and too wronged. She makes it a rule that it is rare to treat people on Sundays. For a long time, she called each other selfish and lazy in front of her parents. In Amen's view, Koizumi made up a lot of things, and the wooden floor was not so dirty. Why do you want to delay? Why do boys have to do it if they can't? Why are you angry when your clothes and pants are not cleaned? Koizumi is even less confident. He is a nurse and works very hard. He is still busy at home, cooking, washing sheets, cleaning and tutoring his daughter after class. It is a very bitter thing for her after a tiring day. She feels that if Amon is kind to herself, she will undoubtedly pay attention to her and share the housework. I didn't expect him to look like a spoiled child. Besides complaining, he just avoided it. He can't bear the obligations of a husband and father at all. He insisted that his parents were eager to protect their calves, which led to deeper and deeper differences and finally parted ways and went to court!
Always observe the girlfriends around you and find a rule. However, if the husband has a good habit of sharing housework and taking care of the baby, most families show a very harmonious way of emotional growth, while the husband never does housework, the wife complains a lot, and the ratio of quarreling between two people is also high.
Steig Boehlmann once analyzed that when a wife takes on all or most of the housework, her marital life satisfaction is negative, and only when two people take on the housework balance, the marital life satisfaction is mainly manifested as coincidence. According to statistics, the risk of divorce is 97% higher in a family where men love to do housework than in a family where men do housework. Men do housework, which is especially critical to family and husband-wife relationship!
On the hot search list that day, I found a video of the variety show "Teenagers Say". The girl Liu is standing on the roof. Just as she said "I think I'll talk to my mother", she began to sob. Her appearance startled her parents standing below, and she suddenly shouted to her mother under the stage, "Can you stop being cute to your father?" The audience laughed for a while, and their parents were ridiculous. The host asked her, "How does mom sell cuteness to dad?" ? She followed: pig face, give me cupping! Pig face, help me peel the fruit quickly! Pig face, go and help me cook! Although it is the child's complaint to his mother, I don't know why I always feel like eating a wave of dog food. Among thousands of comments, one netizen said, "That kind of home looks so happy, and my mother's eyebrows are full of smiles." It is said that children are the mirror of yin and yang in marriage, and parents' feelings are reflected in children. Just look at this girl and you will know that her father must spoil her mother. A boy who is willing to share housework for his wife is a good husband!
Liu Huan once thought he was a worthy husband. He said: "My hero must have a very strong sense of mission at home. I do housework, it is my job to wash the sheets, and I also help the children to manicure. "
_ can prove feelings, but also can destroy marriage life. As eat drink man woman, everyone can't get rid of the smoke of cooking, but true love is to pour happiness into a simple and piecemeal life and bear each other's burdens.
Why do some women have low satisfaction? Endless housework needs account for the vast majority of the reasons. Beautiful women who work hard in broad daylight also have a mountain of housework after work. Who will continue to be satisfied? Understand that in more than 70% of families, wives take on more housework than husbands, and spend twice as much time on housework as husbands on average.
Some men say that I want to support my family, because of my sexual advantage, I have the right to "manage the vinegar bottle at home, regardless of the whole grains." They think that housework is just washing dishes and can be easily taken down. But I don't understand _ a warm and comfortable home, a lovely child with healthy body and mind, can't be separated from his wife's investment bit by bit. Most boys who can solve the parent-child relationship have high emotional intelligence. They understand that the meaning of marriage depends on the intimacy of small details, so that women can feel warm, their daughters-in-law can be happy and their families can be harmonious. In a harmonious parent-child relationship, housework must not be crossed off. What are the emotional counseling?