Children are the future of a family. Everyone in the family wants their children to develop in a good direction and have the same goal. Why is there such a big difference?
From the perspective of the elderly: I can bring up children, and I am definitely experienced. Young people have no experience in parenting, and they are all on paper; I have the absolute right to speak, and I must be right when I encounter contradictions.
From the young people's point of view: the old people's parenting style is out of date, and many parenting concepts are not consistent with what they have learned.
This is actually an unavoidable contradiction. Since we need the help of the elderly, we always have to solve contradictions, and the old people's thoughts are not easy to reverse, so we still need to make more changes from the young parents themselves:
1. First, ensure a good family relationship. Since parents entrust their children to the elderly, they should trust the elderly. They shouldn't turn against each other because of certain behaviors. Old people also have their own lives. They don't have to take care of their children. They should be grateful to the elderly, be more tolerant and communicate, and praise more.
2, give the elderly more patience, unreasonable points should be euphemistically pointed out, no one wants to be ruthlessly pointed out mistakes. Create more learning opportunities for the elderly. Usually, you can share the easy-to-understand concept of parenting, and you can also help the elderly learn parenting knowledge through popular forms such as short videos.
If parents don't care about anything at ordinary times and suddenly see something they can't stand, they jump out to criticize. The old man will be sad, and he can't figure out why he works hard, but the young people don't feel good.
Parents should be responsible for their children. After giving birth to a child, you should control the major events in your child's growth, do the key things yourself, and interact with your child more after work every day. If you turn a blind eye to children and give them to the elderly, it is to treat the elderly as servants. The time to take the baby is clear, the old people take it to work, and the parents take it after work, staggering the time and reducing differences.
4. Practice gives you real knowledge. Whether your parenting concept is correct or not can only be tested by taking care of the baby yourself. Try to take the children with you when you are on vacation or when you don't go to work in the morning and evening, so that the old people can realize that you are the parents of the children, and the children's affairs should be decided by you, not by grandparents. Be an expert with a baby, let the old people see your parenting ability, so that they will have more say when there are differences.
It is the most wrong behavior to encounter contradictions and quarrels. Trust the elderly more, communicate the bottom line as soon as possible, and it is better to explain in advance than to quarrel when encountering problems.
Children need to grow up in a warm family and feel the bad emotions of their families. If the child is left in an environment where chickens fly and dogs jump because of the problem of bringing a baby, it will not be worth the candle.