Will you be moved by their beautiful love story?
Romeo and Juliet are in love,
The feud between the two sides, that's not bad,
Love is blocked!
Where there is oppression, there is resistance!
They didn't break up,
Both of them died of double suicide!
The feeling of "playing mandarin duck" is deeper.
It can be seen that such a thing,
Really invincible!
In fact,
Not only Romeo and Juliet,
Such sincere feelings,
The world knows everything:
Jia Baoyu and Lin Daiyu in A Dream of Red Mansions,
Cui Yingying and Zhang Sheng in The West Chamber,
Liang Zhu,
The beautiful love story of Cowherd and Weaver Girl,
……
These love stories,
All show loyalty to love,
At the same time, there is not enough support system, and in the face of family and external resistance,
Only through emotional reinforcement can we prove each other,
In order to test the feelings of both sides,
Seek an extreme solution-double suicide and death.
In fact, the phenomenon of "hitting mandarin ducks" often leads to some tragedies in life.
Let's take a look at the psychological laws related to "playing mandarin ducks".
How is it analyzed? Are you curious?
1. Nouns and explanations
"Romeo and Juliet effect" means that the more things are forbidden, the more people want them. The more you want to hide some information from others in your life, the more you can arouse others' curiosity and prying desire, and on the contrary, it will prompt people to try to use all channels to obtain hidden information.
The rebellious phenomenon caused by this unilateral prohibition and concealment, that is, the psychological "forbidden fruit effect", fully shows people's curiosity and rebellious psychology.
Bram, an American social psychologist, did an experiment: let a subject face two choices: A and B. Under low pressure, another person told him "We chose A" and told him that he should choose A under high pressure.
The results show that under the condition of low pressure, the proportion of subjects actually choosing A is 70%, while under the condition of high pressure, the proportion of subjects choosing A is only 40%.
From the relationship between the freedom of choice and the degree of love of the selected object, it can be seen that if the choice is free and voluntary, people will tend to increase the degree of love for the selected object, while when the choice is forced, it will reduce the good impression on the selected object.
2. Cases and stories
Don't peek: in front of the hotel, there is a big bucket, which says: Don't peek. Someone stopped to watch, curious to see what was in the bucket. As a result, he shouted "cheated". The original barrel said: We have a good beer, a glass of 5 yuan! Some people's desire to drink has also been mobilized and go directly to the store for consumption.
In this way, the business of this hotel is booming. This is the marketing strategy that the hotel uses rebellious psychology and curiosity to complete.
Sit tight: a client came to the consulting room and her husband cheated on her. Although the whole family, including her husband's family, stood by them and accused her husband, her husband did not repent, but seemed to be closer to a third party. (This is the "Romeo and Juliet effect") The visitor was in great pain. She didn't make trouble, and she didn't want to.
I asked about the situation and gave her some support and emotional counseling. I gave her an idea, first pay attention to yourself and care about yourself.
After a while, this customer gave me a feedback. She said that after she came back, she was much quieter and only focused on her life and work. Her family also put this matter aside.
A few months later, her husband broke up with a third party, because the third party didn't want her husband to go back to his parents' house, and the husband of the client was a very filial person. Because of this contradiction, her husband and the third party broke up completely.
When her husband is free to choose, he doesn't feel the pressure from family. On the contrary, the probability of returning to his home is high.
3. Inspiration and understanding
This is human nature. The more forbidden or not allowed, the more people will be inspired to resist and attack.
People like to choose freely. The more you feel free, the more you can respect yourself.
I remember once going to Kejia Temple in Aripulan County, Tibet, and seeing people consciously changing change, a paper box was full of convenient change. I took out 20 yuan money from my wallet and changed it into change of 1 yuan. Everyone is free to choose the changes they need, without any rules, prohibitions or tips, such as "Please respect yourself and don't change any more".
Free choice is human nature. People can choose their favorite movies, books, food, daily necessities and so on. The more movies, books and articles are banned, the more people will flock to them and form unexpected hot spots. Therefore, people's spiritual freedom is very valuable.
Especially on the issue of educating children, we should be calm in the face of any problems. The deliberate prohibition of parents will easily lead to rebellious psychology and curiosity because of the immature mind of children.
Especially when dealing with so-called "puppy love" and "internet addiction", the more forbidden and tough, the easier it is to cause resistance and silence.
Especially in the face of children's sexual problems, parents take an evasive and forbidden attitude, which stimulates children's curiosity and rebellious psychology, and even takes risks.
Therefore, it is much better to learn to use the psychological principle of "Romeo and Juliet effect" to let people learn to be responsible for their own needs under free choice than to intervene and prohibit them artificially.