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0 1 We live in this world all our lives and can't be lonely. On this long road, we will be accompanied by family and friends. As the years go by, we will have our own lovers and newly formed families.
For women, getting married is like a big gamble in life. We don't know what we will meet on this road. The chip is just the man around you. If you are wrong about him, you may lose the game.
When in love, women often take a fancy to the man's personality, thinking that it can be foolproof, but they don't know that there is a family with a history behind the man.
A woman said that I married him because he was filial to his parents. I think filial people are kind and responsible. But he didn't say whether his so-called filial piety was foolish.
In marriage, many men will say to women after marriage, I don't want anything from you, as long as you are good to my mother, who has suffered too much in her life. As a daughter-in-law, you should be filial to her.
Is there a problem with this sentence?
Of course there is.
First of all, your mother's hardships in this life are brought to her by your family, and the main responsibility lies with your father. Daughter-in-law has just joined this family. What obligation does she have to pay for the unhappiness in the first half of her life?
What a daughter-in-law does is to respect her after marriage. The people who make up for the first half of her life should be her son and husband.
Unfortunately, Xiao Na met such a filial person, Xiao Lei, and her marriage was completely in crisis.
When Xiao Na was in love, she found that Xiao Lei was obedient to her mother. Naive Xiao Na thought it was just pure filial piety.
However, what she didn't expect was that on the first night of their marriage, her mother-in-law gave Xiao Na a duel. She called her son to the room and talked for half a night.
Xiao Na didn't know what they talked about, except that she fell asleep in the middle of the night. Her husband woke up and said to her, "You should be nice to my mother in the future. When I get married, I will share my love for my mother with you. It's not easy for my mother to raise me. You can let her. "
Xiao Na slept in a daze at that time, and thought he had a dream the next morning.
Mother-in-law always likes to find fault with Xiao Na, and Xiao Na tries to put up with it. If relatives and friends visit at home, her mother-in-law will tell Xiao Na to make tea and pour water, and she will brag about her son's success in front of Xiao Na, as if Xiao Na had accumulated a lot of good luck for her son's marriage.
Xiao Na works in a hospital, but he is not a doctor but a cashier. My mother-in-law did everything for her relatives to see a doctor without Xiao Na's consent. I'm coming to see a doctor this month, and that aunt needs your help to jump the queue tomorrow.
Xiao Na and Xiao Lei said, let him convince her mother-in-law, the hospital has its own rules, they don't have that much power. Besides, they are not incurable diseases. Just queue up for registration normally.
As a result, Xiao Lei is still that sentence; "My mother raised me so hard, don't you have the heart?"
Xiao Lei's mother is really not easy, because Xiao Lei's father lost badly in gambling and disappeared after losing all the money at home. Xiao Lei's mother raised Xiao Lei on her own and paid off her father's debts. Life has been very difficult, which is why Xiao Na put up with this mother-in-law.
However, people's patience is limited. This time, when her mother-in-law kept talking, Xiao Na didn't hold back. Mother-in-law immediately cried and wiped her tears.
Xiao Lei immediately accused Xiao Na: "It's not easy for my mother to raise me. Can't you be filial? Xiao Na looked into Xiao Lei's glaring eyes and said, "Your mother is not easy. This is your father's fault. If you want to make amends, you and your father should make amends. What does this have to do with me? "
Xiao Na once thought that love is the most important thing in marriage, but after this experience, she realized that marriage is not as simple as she imagined.
As a son, it is human nature to sympathize with and be filial to his mother.
But the most basic thing to be a man is to distinguish right from wrong. His mother has a bad attitude towards his wife, which makes it difficult. He still wants her to compromise and seek perfection in exchange for compromise and so-called filial piety. This is not what a responsible man should do.
It's not easy for a mother As the younger generation, we can care for her and take care of her, instead of being so-called filial to our wife.
Besides, it's not easy for him, not because of his wife. If you want to do justice for your mother, please find someone who caused her misfortune in the first half of her life.
And your wife should not be wronged by your mother's misfortune in the first half of her life. As a man, the relationship between wife and mother in marriage is much closer than that of mother, and blindly defending mother and accusing wife will inevitably cast a shadow over this marriage.
How can unmarried women distinguish a silly and filial man?
This is an in-depth discussion topic. Let me teach you three words that can be used to simply distinguish between ignorance and filial piety. Stupid and filial men often habitually say the following sentence:
The first sentence, "No matter how bad they are, they are all my parents";
The second sentence, "It is not easy for my mother to raise me so much";
The third sentence, "If you marry me, you will treat my parents well in the future".
I hope that women can polish their eyes before getting married, and they can use similar topics to test the man's attitude in order to avoid falling into hopeless marriage.
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