Divorce is common every time I visit my child's ex-husband. Divorce is a sad regret for most people, because some situations in marriage are not so happy and perfect. Let's take a look at every time my ex-husband goes to see the children.
Every time I go to see my child's ex-husband, I have to be 1 28 years old. Ms. Liu: I often go to nightclubs, but my ex-husband doesn't like me to go to nightclubs. When I go, I will call me crazy, make a hullabaloo about and ask where I have been fooling around. At that time, I didn't like being bound and liked freedom, so I divorced. Later, I found out that life was really a little lost and lonely without my ex-husband's greetings and care. I took the initiative to find him after half a year of divorce. Because of his old love, it will naturally spark. But I don't want to be bound by marriage. Although my ex-husband and I have passion, I don't want to remarry.
Ms. Wang, 40: After the divorce, her daughter was awarded to her ex-husband. But when you look at a family of three happy colleagues, you will miss your daughter very much. So I usually go to see my daughter once every two weeks. But every time I leave, my daughter who just went to elementary school will cry and won't let me leave. I don't want her to spend the night, because she is too young and lacks maternal love. Although I only sleep in the guest room next door, after all, at my ex-husband's house, my ex-husband can't help showing up at midnight. With a child as a link, it is inevitable that you will be broken.
Ms. Xu, 36: I divorced because I was caught fooling around with another woman at my ex-husband's house when I was pregnant. What is even more irritating is that the woman is wearing my underwear. Now that they are married, I and I take the initiative to find my ex-husband, but more are still unwilling. S's ex-husband may be guilty. Now my role has been interchanged with that of the hostess at that time. I actually enjoy such tension and excitement, but I can't get rid of contradictions and enjoyment.
These three ladies are difficult to get along with. Although divorced, they all have unusual feelings for their ex-husbands. Even sleeping together is based on self-love, not casual. But marriage is not a child's play, so we should carefully consider the choice and outcome.
However, since they chose to get married, both men and women should live an honest and clean life and be considerate of each other, even if the excitement of their wedding has faded. Fate and love are hard-won, please cherish them.
Every time I go to see my child's ex-husband, I have to do 2. Li Rui first mentioned divorce in the summer of 20 17.
At that time, I was sitting on the bus from Yantai to Linyi, and my bag contained a month's dose of Chinese medicine.
I have been taking these drugs for infertility for four years.
From a slim girl to a bloated woman, but still not pregnant.
02
Four years ago, the doctor diagnosed me with premature ovarian failure and it was difficult to get pregnant, but I never gave up and sought medical advice everywhere.
Going to Yantai was introduced by a patient. The patient said it was good to have a doctor there.
Li Rui was going to go with me, but her in-laws are from their hometown.
I can't get pregnant. I've been hiding it from my in-laws. In the face of the birth of the old man, Li Rui always said that he was still young and was not in a hurry to have children.
As an only child, his pressure is no less than mine.
Sometimes, I feel sorry for him and don't want to involve him.
However, considering that we love each other so much because I can't have children, I really can't give up this marriage.
03
That day, Li Rui called me from the cancer hospital, and my father-in-law accidentally found out about gastric cancer. This time, I came to Linyi for reexamination and was diagnosed.
He cried on the phone and said, "Ann, I can't stand it. Let's divorce! " "
Such a sudden sentence is like a bolt from the blue.
I feel like I've fallen into an ice hole and I'm shaking all over.
We have been in love for ten years and have overcome so many difficulties.
Finally, because of infertility, I came to the point of divorce.
What exactly is marriage?
04
When I met Li Rui, I went to college in Jinan. He has been working in Yunnan, doing water conservancy projects.
We are fellow villagers. We met in a local post bar and chatted online for more than a year.
On the same topic, the same event, our opinions are always surprisingly consistent. In his words, it is almost a heart.
Later, he came to Jinan on business and said he wanted to meet me.
I fell in love at first sight.
Li Rui is my favorite type, with good popularity and high eq.
He never describes how wonderful the future is, but tells me what kind of hardships a long-distance relationship will suffer in the future.
He said, "Ann, we will bear a lot together, but I will work hard to give love a happy future."
I believe this honest boy deserves my love all my life.
But love was opposed by parents.
05
I am an only child. Li Rui's hometown is in rural Linyi, and he works in Yunnan.
My parents said, "It's unrealistic for you to be together. Don't waste your time. "
But I have identified him and want to carry this long-distance relationship through to the end.
After graduating from college, I returned to my hometown and was admitted to the Municipal Construction Bureau.
My parents have more reason to persuade me to break up and keep asking people to introduce me, trying to find me a suitable person.
As a result, I always screw up
My willfulness made them helpless and had to turn a blind eye.
06
Although Li Rui is in Yunnan, he will come to see me as soon as he has a holiday.
Every time he comes, he comes to the door in a big bag and a small bag. My parents didn't see him, so he left the gift at the door and quietly left.
Sometimes, I can't stand it myself. He comforted me in turn: "My parents are not wrong. They did it for your own good. "
His good temper gradually won the recognition of my family.
My dad let him go first and praised him for being impeccable in all aspects, except for the bad ones.
My dad said, "You don't think so when you are in love. What if you get married later?"
Li Rui said he would find a way.
07
Li Rui's idea is very direct, and he wants to buy a house and settle down in Linyi.
In those days, we searched around and finally chose a set close to my home.
His mobility and carefulness moved my parents. Later, when I paid the house, my family offered to pay half down payment.
Love and family reconciliation, parents accepted Li Rui, the happiest thing is that I finally don't have to continue to do multiple-choice questions.
So, after the house was installed, we got married.
It's just that there are always waves in life
We won the blessing of our family, survived long-distance love, but failed to survive infertility.
08
I have been pregnant for half a year and have been very quiet. Li Rui accompanied me to the hospital for examination, but got the saddest bad news.
I have been crying since the diagnosis.
After a while, he wiped my tears and said, "I won't tell my parents in advance." It is really impossible for us to treat the disease first and then think of other tricks. "
I believe Li Rui, no matter how difficult things are, he always has a solution.
However, during the reexamination, when the doctor told us that in my case, it was even difficult to check the tube, Li Rui was silent.
After that, he changed
I became quiet and went back to Linyi less and less.
In the meantime, actively cooperate with the treatment, eat western medicine and Chinese medicine, every weekend, either in the hospital or on the way to the hospital.
But whenever there is a little hope, I don't want to miss it. I wait for good news every day.
But Li Rui doesn't want to wait. He wants a divorce.
I once naively thought that having no children would not be an obstacle to our marriage. Now it seems that I overestimated human nature.
09
I really don't want a divorce.
When I got home that day, the atmosphere at home was very heavy. In-laws sat in the living room staring blankly, and Li Rui frowned and didn't talk.
I called him into the study and asked him if he really didn't love me.
He shook his head.
Then, bury your head between your knees and lift it for a long time.
He said, "Ann, my father has only one son. I can't let him leave with regrets. He dreams of having grandchildren. "
What can I say in the face of reality? Only a deep sense of powerlessness.
I let Li Rui go back to work in Yunnan with peace of mind and give my father-in-law to me. We'll talk about other things later.
10
During that time, I contacted many experts to consult my grandfather.
Because of early detection, experts say there is a great possibility of cure.
When I am busy alone, my in-laws tell everyone that I am a good daughter-in-law, but when they ask about having children, I will change the subject.
A month later, my father-in-law was discharged from the hospital and Li Rui came back from Yunnan.
He looked at me and said, "Wife, you have worked hard."
My eyes hurt and tears rolled down.
After that, he didn't mention the divorce.
He also took the initiative to tell his parents-in-law that it is not my problem that we have no children, because we have been away from home.
In-laws urged him to go back to work in Linyi.
He said yes.
I am very grateful to Li Rui for her responsibility in front of her in-laws.
Just thinking about my body and the delayed child makes me feel flustered.
I don't know what to do in the future
1 1
Fortunately, Li Rui Group has a branch in Shandong, and he quickly applied for transfer back.
And I, for the convenience of treatment, also quit my nine-to-five job and opened a women's clothing store.
However, our reunion was not as smooth as expected.
After my parents-in-law returned to their hometown, they called every so often to say that they were going to have a baby. We have said all the excuses we can, and every day is like baking on a fire.
On Li Rui's birthday, we all drank some wine. He cried and asked me, "Why did you have children? Why? "
I held him and sobbed.
After waking up, we have to return to the cruel reality.
The next morning, Li Rui received a phone call from her mother-in-law, saying that her father-in-law had fainted and told him to go back to his hometown immediately.
I didn't even think about it, so I packed his bags.
Two days later, Li Rui came back and filed for divorce again.
He said, "I have resigned. Let's get together and have a rest. "
It turned out that my in-laws knew the truth that I couldn't get pregnant and forced Li Rui to divorce by death. Or my father-in-law will give up treatment.
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After formally filing for divorce, Li Rui moved to a hotel and said that the divorce agreement would be sent to me by express.
I didn't even have the courage to stay. I didn't even dare to tell him. I went to see a famous expert, and I will get the result in two days. Can you wait a little longer?
After two days, the expert confidently told me that after three months, I can do egg donation surgery and have a great chance of having a baby.
Hearing the news, I cried like a fool.
I called Li Rui the first time and begged him not to divorce.
Li Rui said in a faint tone that he would discuss it with his parents.
13
The next day, Li Rui came back and her mother-in-law was connected.
My mother-in-law made me promise that the operation must be successful.
This kind of thing, even the doctor can't guarantee, how can I guarantee?
Mother-in-law said, "We can't go to it runs in the family. After three months, if the operation is successful and you continue to live, we will say nothing more. "
I asked her, what if it fails?
Mother-in-law didn't speak and looked at Li Rui and coughed.
Li Rui said, "My mother means that if we fail, we are doomed to have nothing."
Say that finish, Li Rui dare not look up at me.
I feel like I've been stabbed by the closest person, and it's killing me.
14
Li Rui may think this is fair, but for me, this scene, this condition, this threat, is really humiliating.
I just can't have children, but my self-esteem is still there.
I refused to talk again and immediately agreed to divorce.
There was no quarrel, and I felt that the second boot finally landed.
At this point, my ten-year relationship with Li Rui came to an end because I had no children.
Li Rui gave me the house, and the deposit was divided in half.
If there is no later story, our breakup is decent.
15
After the divorce, we didn't hack each other, but tacitly stopped contacting each other.
I try to keep myself busy and play down the pain of divorce.
I blocked Li Rui's circle of friends, out of sight, out of mind, and pretended to have forgotten him.
Later, Li Rui began to come back to me.
Because the lock at home hasn't been changed, he casually went to the supermarket to buy food and cook jiaozi, and then asked me to have dinner together.
This gives me the illusion that there is no divorce.
However, he stopped spending the night.
He has rented a house and lived with his parents.
He said, "Ann, wait for me. I'll be back soon. "
At that time, I was naive again, thinking that he was waiting for his father to get better before coming back to me to remarry.
Two months later, I waited for the news of his remarriage.
16
On the New Year's Day of 20 18, everyone was busy turning over a new chapter in life.
Only I, still stuck in the past, live like a walking corpse.
Li Rui called me and said that I was his most sorry person.
Said his new wife was introduced to him by relatives.
Said he didn't love her at all: "Ann, the person I love most in my life is you!" " "
If you really love it, how can you remarry with others?
A word "love" made Li Rui's image in my heart collapse instantly.
I don't want anything to do with this man.
After hanging up the phone, I changed the lock at the first time and blacked out all his contact information.
17
After that, Li Rui began to haunt me.
He stopped me in the shop before I opened the door for him.
I asked him what he really wanted.
He said, "Ann, we divorced because you can't have children. It's hard for you to get married again. Why don't we stay together? You have to trust me. I only married her to realize my parents' wishes. "
I sneer: "Who do you think you are? I have a wife at home, so what am I? Shameless mistress? Or your lover? "
He continued to advise me: "Can you take it easy? Divorce is just a form. In my heart, the person I love will always be you. "
I asked, "Since you love me so much, let's remarry!"
He faltered: "It's too late, she is pregnant with my child."
At that moment, I was as sick as eating a fly.
18
If I used to be full of nostalgia and reluctance for Li Rui, now my love for him has disappeared.
I finally see that he is just a selfish and cowardly person.
A man who doesn't even know what he wants and what he wants to defend.
How can such a person give me the life and love I want?
That day, I slapped him and drove him out of the shop.
Then call his parents and ask them to take care of their son and leave me alone.
After a while, Li Rui turned around and said angrily, "Yang, you'd better leave yourself a way out. You will die alone like this. "
I smiled and said, "Even if I die alone, it's much better than being your lover and a junior three." Don't worry, you can't be my future in this life. From now on, I will never contact you again. "
19
I heard the news of Li Rui again on the National Day of 20 19.
When I was eating out, I met Li Rui's cousin and told him that he was having a bad time. My sister-in-law has a hot temper and her family is restless all the year round.
They gave birth to a daughter, and now they are eager to have a second child.
Li Rui's father recovered and has been in hospital.
When an old man speaks, he must have grandchildren. If he continues to have daughters, he must have three children.
Cousin said, "It's a pity for you two. If you hadn't divorced, you wouldn't have done it. "
What a pity!
I don't think so at all
I just feel out of the mud and refreshed.
20
There is a good saying, never wrestle with a pig, because whether you win or lose, it will make you covered in mud, but the pig enjoys it.
In the past two years of divorce, I was really desperate and depressed. Fortunately, I survived the most difficult time.
Those who don't beat me will eventually make me strong.
Now, I open a favorite shop with three or two friends.
During the break, I practiced yoga with my friends, and my figure returned to ten years ago.
I lost my marriage, but I also rewritten my destiny.
I believe that happiness will come one day.
Every time I go to see my child's ex-husband, I have to do 3 "After the divorce, I can't find a better one, and I feel that my ex-husband is not so bad."
Probably only when people lose each other's advantages will they find each other's advantages. I used to think that my ex-husband was inferior to others, had no money, couldn't talk, wasn't handsome, didn't talk and didn't coax me every time I quarreled. At that time, I felt that such a married life was gloomy and hopeless.
Later, I met a good talker, and he always cared for me. At that time, he felt that he had met love and made up his mind to divorce, thinking that he could marry love after divorce. Later, he discovered that sweet words can't compete with reality after all, and I have been thinking about my ex-husband's kindness to me. Although he had no money and couldn't speak, he tried his best to leave all the good things to me.
I still decided to go back to my ex-husband, but he didn't agree to remarry. Although I slept in the same bed with my ex-husband, I lost my former intimacy. I'm actually very upset, afraid that he doesn't really want to make up with me.
"For the sake of children, I don't want to affect their study."
I can't stand betrayal in marriage. From the moment I learned that my ex-husband was cheating on me with a lesbian, I decided to divorce. I don't want to live with him anymore. I was disgusted at the sight of him and insisted on divorce.
However, I am a mother. I can't just think for myself, but also for my children. In the eyes of my child, he has a happy family. He can't stand all this. He is about to take the college entrance examination. I don't want adult affairs to affect children's study and his future. I still have to sleep with my ex-husband for the sake of the children.
But this life is a kind of torture for me. I looked in front of the children and pretended as if nothing had happened. In fact, I cried like a dog in the middle of the night, especially watching my ex-husband openly love another woman in front of me, and my heart seemed to be torn open.
"The house price is high, and the house is originally half of one person."
At the beginning, for him, I wanted nothing and married him without a bride price. The house was also created by our joint efforts. But men are all the same. If they have money, they want young and beautiful women. They feel that their wives are not good enough for them. He filed for divorce because of emotional discord. I didn't agree, so he gave me the cold shoulder. When I don't exist, I don't want to live like this anymore, so I have to agree to divorce.
I thought I could go my own way after divorce, but the reality is very helpless. Where will I live after the divorce? Now that the house price is so high, I want to live in an environment similar to my present house, but I can't afford it. I don't want to live in a slightly worse environment. The house was half occupied. Why should I leave my home? So, after the divorce, I slept with my ex-husband.
Do you know that feeling? This is a very close relationship I have ever loved. Now I'm lying in bed, but I'm stranger than a stranger. I am sad and want to leave, but I am unwilling.
"After the divorce, I found it more comfortable to be a lover than a wife."
I used to think that the best state of feelings was that two people who loved each other had children together. In fact, marriage is more like a test Having children can make two people's feelings better and better, and can also make two people go to strangers. After fifteen years of marriage, the two people who once loved each other so much have already worn away the warmth of the past.
I once talked to him, but he always ignored me. No matter what I tell him, he won't change. I was disheartened and didn't want to be like this all my life, so I filed for divorce. After the divorce, he regretted it and proposed to remarry. I was afraid to go back, so I agreed to move back, but I didn't remarry. Probably because of this, he was very nervous about me and took the initiative to care about me.
Now with him, I can feel love, not as indifferent as before, perhaps because I don't have the paper engagement, and I am always afraid of losing it. Men cherish what they can't get.
Conclusion: Most of the reasons why a woman sleeps with her ex-husband after divorce are very helpless, because the reality is cruel to divorced women, especially those who are in a hurry to divorce before they are ready to start their personal life. Many things in marriage, even after divorce, will still be entangled in themselves and it is difficult to start a new life.
Marriage should not be an obstacle to us. If a woman wants to get a new life from a bad marriage, the first thing she should do is not divorce, but to improve herself. Only when she has confidence can she be reborn and embrace a new life!