Some people say that love only has a shelf life of three months. When the passion fades, everything will return to dullness, and then there will be long-term burnout and exhaustion.
In fact, in a long-term intimate relationship, we will inevitably encounter staged mental difficulties.
Love itself is a beautiful word, a spark between two lovers, and a little beauty caused by the collision of two tacit souls.
"Love is a gift in an instant. I think it takes courage, tolerance, selflessness, compromise and innocence to turn a moment into a lifelong companion. 」
Love never needs to be wronged. It is the best respect for the word love that two excellent people share and pay equal love together.
You can add a hobby for yourself because of the other person's preference, but if you suppress your needs and interests just because you cater to the other person's preference, then this is a compromise, and you must have your own position and social circle at all times.
Recently, my friend was lovelorn and cried to me: "I have been with my boyfriend for two years, and I will go back to cook dinner immediately after work every day and wait for him to come back." My new salary will help him buy his favorite sneakers, clean the house every day, wash the clothes, and leave all the time for him to cancel his friends' party. " No matter who is right or wrong in every quarrel, I will always be the first to bow my head and apologize. "
Faye Wong sang in "Love Letter to Yourself": "If you don't love yourself, how can you love each other and benefit your lover?" .
The love between two people is not to fill the gaps of others or themselves.
I can't live without this man. I can't eat well or sleep well! Is it affectionate? Yes, it is, but it's a little scary. The so-called "deep affection does not last long, but strength is humiliating."
My friend said that even if I meet a better and better man in the future, I won't be kind to him without reservation or bottom line, because the other person won't cherish him at all and even think I love him, so I take it for granted to be kind to him.
I know there are many cases like Friends around me. If you really love someone, you should learn to stop yourself from taking him as everything. Don't invest too much. If you invest too much, you will gradually forget yourself. People who have no self have no place in love. Love is both sides, and no one can stay out of it.
The wronged perfect love will not last forever, but will only hurt. In other words, it is no longer called love. Shouldn't the so-called love be between two people?
Zhang Ailing, a talented woman, wrote on the back of the photo sent to Hu Lancheng: "Seeing him, she became very low, as low as dust. But her heart is happy, and the flowers are dusty. "
Later, Zhang Ailing's love really bloomed in the dust, but this flower was not charming and could not attract Hu Lancheng to bow his head and admire.
Although they have become husband and wife, they have no time to be quiet and have no secular stability. When the wind blows, their flowers wither.
Hu Lancheng was Zhang Ailing's first love. In a turbulent society, a 24-year-old literary young woman met a middle-aged literary uncle Hu Lancheng.
The gifted scholar and the beautiful woman soon started a love affair. Although Hu Lancheng was married at that time, Zhang Ailing didn't mind, as long as Hu Lancheng loved her, it was enough.
Later, when they finally got the right result, they didn't have a good time. During Hu Lancheng's recovery, he became entangled with Zhou Xiao, a nurse.
After Zhang Ailing learned of Zhou Xiao's existence, Hu Lancheng didn't feel guilty for cheating. She just told Zhang Ailing that it was Zhou Xiao's care day and night that made him feel grateful and made Zhang Ailing accept the existence of pigs to repay Zhou Xiao's kindness to him.
At that time, Zhang Ailing still believed that Hu Lancheng loved herself and that Hu Lancheng was just as grateful to Zhou Xiao as he said. Although her heart hurts, she still struggles. She wanted to have a showdown with Hu Lancheng and let him choose between them. So I set out to look for Hu Lancheng, but when I arrived at my apartment, I found a younger sister named Fan.
A woman was born a sensitive detective, and she soon found out that Hu Lancheng was having an affair with her sister. She couldn't stand them flirting in front of her, so she turned and went back to Shanghai.
Later, Hu Lancheng returned to Shanghai, but did not bring the answer that Zhang Ailing wanted. Instead, he blamed her for not knowing how to deal with the world.
However, Zhang Ailing's forgiveness again and again did not get Hu Lancheng's exclusive consent. On the contrary, he just wants to enjoy the happiness of the people and the three beautiful reunions.
Zhang ailing, who was heartbroken, couldn't sleep all night. After learning from a painful experience, she finally made a decision. Send a farewell letter to Hu Lancheng: After I leave you, I won't die, and I won't fall in love with others again. I just fade away. "
After that, Zhang Ailing cut off her love for Qingcheng. After being sad again and again, she finally understood that falling in love with Hu Lancheng would only lead to a quagmire, not secular stability.
In a healthy relationship, you never need to be modest. The more humble, the less you know how to cherish.
I like a sentence in "Best Attitude" very much: "Love life with people who like you; See the world clearly in people who don't like you. "
In love, you should be what live high wants. You can become better in order to match each other, but it is doomed to be a tragedy if you wronged yourself for each other and humbled yourself in order to please.
I still remember Hans Zhang and Zheng Shuang. He used to be a couple on the screen, but later he became a real couple.
But Zheng Shuang is a humble gesture in love. She said, "Hans Zhang is so handsome that she feels inferior." So she changed her face for love. So obsessed with love, this love didn't last long and ended in failure.
These are gradually lost because they are too depressed and continue to pay without asking for anything in return. Paying unbalanced attention belongs to abnormal love.
The best appearance of love is that two people sit together without feeling embarrassed. No matter when they are in the most comfortable state, there is no grievance or deliberate flattery. We can quarrel about a little thing or be happy about a little surprise. This effortless getting along is love.
There is a lyric in Why Did He Leave You: Men will always despise you and never leave.
For his sake, if he is like a slave and a busker, then tragic has lost power, and lovers should be treated lightly and get along naturally.
Otherwise, the other party will not only fail to appreciate you, but will think you are useless.
This is like the bridge we often see in real life. The husband and wife started from scratch and made their career bigger. The woman became a full-time wife for her family and devoted herself to her children and husband, which made her feel ashamed. The man has a successful career and can't stand the temptation outside. He tore up the original story with Xiaosan.
Therefore, as a woman, I want to remind women again not to give up their careers easily and live by men. Even a full-time wife should be irreplaceable and not lose her value.
No one will like a "pendant" that will only be attached to their own existence, and there will definitely be equal appreciation in true love. If you don't want your partner to get tired of yourself, you can only keep improving yourself, keep opening up your life circle, become beautiful and strong, and never stop getting better, let alone losing yourself.
Only in this way can your partner always have a sense of crisis and have the motivation to be positive and try to keep up with your pace.
When your feelings are full of such positive energy, you won't have negative emotions like "fatigue".
There is a saying in the Zhihu: "I love you, but you are free and I am free." I really hope that everyone can stay true to themselves in love and then find true freedom.
Love is a part of life and a spice of ordinary life. What I fear most in feelings is "imbalance". There is no doubt that a lasting and stable relationship must be healthy and balanced.
There are many people, especially girls, who easily turn around each other after entering a relationship, regard each other as their whole life and put all their attention on each other.
This kind of behavior seems to be "love" and "giving", but in essence it is a kind of "taking" in disguise, because once she doesn't get reciprocal feedback from the other party, she will be psychologically unbalanced and emotionally collapsed immediately.
Even some people will put the details of the size infinitely, looking for evidence that the other party doesn't care enough about themselves from all kinds of clues. They love themselves and give up themselves, but forget that true love only happens to complete people. Love is self-based, and the essence of love is self-expansion. Without self, love is irrelevant.
Love too much, lack of security, be swayed by considerations of gain and loss, which will only make your other half feel tired and push ta further and further.
Diamond cut diamond will look good and appreciate each other for a long time. We often say that the most comfortable relationship is that two people are not tired, but actually close. You are good, and I am not bad. We appreciate each other and make progress together.
Every soul is independent. Good love is to respect each other's independence and not regard each other as accessories.
There is nothing worth learning about love. Love yourself first, make a living first, as long as we all have the ability to love ourselves.
Loving a person is simply love and appreciation, without sympathy, redemption and superiority.
Love is fair, everyone has his own bright spot, everyone has his own field of expertise, and neither of them will be a burden to each other, nor will they hinder each other's Excellence.
Love is head-up, I won't look up to you, and you won't look down on me. We're all fine.