There is an old saying that "the snake swallows the elephant with its heart but its strength is insufficient". It is said that once people are greedy, they will eventually be harmed by their own desires. A reader told me his story, which made me realize this truth more deeply.
The reader's name is Xiaojun and he has been married for 6 years. He briefly talked about the relationship between husband and wife. He has a good relationship with his wife, but once her family is involved, this relationship becomes complicated.
It can be said that after six years of marriage, he and his wife struggled for six years and endured their "six years of hair loss." Now he really doesn't want to put up with it, and finally he can't pass them.
When Xiaojun got married, his parents bought a relatively small house, and the property owner was Xiaojun. Although Xiaojun had planned to add a name to his wife, he was happy that not only did his wife not propose to add a name, but their family did not ask for it, which made him a little moved and felt that he had found the right person.
Unexpectedly, what happened after marriage surprised him and regretted his original choice.
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It turned out that his parents heard that his wife had a younger brother, and they didn't quite agree with their marriage, because they asked for it. Brother-in-law Xiaojun is a little idle, and his father-in-law is a little greedy.
However, because of the performance of his wife and their families adding their names in the wedding room, Xiaojun felt that what his parents asked was one-sided and unreliable.
At the beginning of marriage, everything was quite normal. After his wife comes back, Xiaojun often tells his parents that they are sometimes wrong. But later, I don't know when, my brother-in-law began to borrow money from them slowly, and the more he borrowed, the more he never paid back.
Although after a long time, Xiaojun still complained about it, but because of face, he still gave everything he wanted.
Actually, this is not a problem. The problem is that after Xiaojun changed his big house, his wife understood and discussed with him and gave her old house to her brother.
The reason is simple: her brother is talking about his girlfriend now, and it is always inconvenient to bring it home. Besides, the house is temporarily idle and there is not much money to rent. Two years later, her brother got married and bought a new house, either renting it or selling it.
Xiaojun didn't want to agree at first, but he really couldn't think of a reason for refusing, so he agreed with his wife and agreed to get the house back when he got married.
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However, it is easier to ask God than to send him. My brother-in-law has lived in their old house for three years, and he has no intention of getting married at all. What makes Xiaojun even more unhappy is that his brother-in-law lives in a house, but all the expenses are paid by his wife, and what is wrong with the house is also repaired by his wife.
In this way, there will be no rent for the old house, and it will also bear the cost of the property of two houses. My wife seems to have completely forgotten that her new house is still paying the mortgage, but no matter what Xiaojun says, her wife still goes her own way.
Xiaojun felt a little sorry for his children when he divorced his wife, but he really didn't know when the day would end.
As a result, what he didn't expect was still behind. Just as he was thinking about telling his wife a showdown and letting his brother-in-law move out, he suddenly found that his brother-in-law and his wife began to decorate the old house over there with great fanfare.
I didn't know my brother-in-law was getting married until I asked. The news startled him, and he expressed firm opposition, because he knew that once his brother-in-law got married, he could never move out.
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Soon, Xiaojun received a phone call from his father-in-law and invited him to dinner. Of course he knows what medicine his father-in-law is selling, but he can't refuse. He just wanted to take this opportunity to clarify the problem.
My father-in-law didn't beat around the bush. He touched a glass of wine and said straight away, "Jun, dad called you here for nothing but your family's business. Look at your brother-in-law's getting married. Now the house price is too high to afford, and it's not worth much to rent out. If you meet a tenant who doesn't pay attention, the house will be destroyed by you. It is better to let your brother-in-law live for a few more years. "
Xiaojun refused directly after listening, saying, "Dad, I'm really sorry. It's not that I don't want him to live Because this house was sold by me the other day. I thought that my child would have a school district in the future, so I sold the house and prepared a school district for my child early. "
Before his father-in-law could speak, Xiaojun's wife quickly asked him, "Why didn't you discuss selling the house with me?" We have almost arranged it, and the money is wasted. "
Xiaojun smiled and said, "Can you sell it after discussing with you? Besides, you didn't tell me about decorating the house. "
Taking advantage of their family's hard work, Xiaojun said, "The house is sold, but it will take about a month before they can go through the formalities, and there is still plenty of time."
Having said that, Xiaojun obviously felt the distrust of his wife and family. Xiaojun actually said a month, but also to give himself time, he tried to sell the house within a month.
Later, Xiaojun heard that his brother-in-law's girlfriend was clamoring to break up, and his father-in-law's family was in a mess, so his wife had a cold war with him for several months and even threatened to divorce.
However, Xiaojun is determined not to compromise, because he knows that once the bottom line begins to decrease, there will be no bottom line.
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