Awei, 27, plans to marry his girlfriend who has been in love for a year. Like most unmarried men and women, she worries about the house and the bride price, but her girlfriend doesn't embarrass him because of the bride price.
According to local rules, the man's family should give the woman a part of the bride price. As for how much, it varies from person to person. Girlfriend is very considerate. She only asked him for a bride price of 80 thousand, and said she would bring some. Awei is also very grateful for this.
Just about the house, awei didn't want to compromise from beginning to end. They live in second-tier cities, and any house is worth millions. Awei's house is very small, but it is also worth more than 654.38+0 million. He spent a full 600 thousand down payment.
Awei's family is not rich, so the down payment on this house almost spent all their savings. He doesn't want to add his girlfriend's name. After all, 600,000 is not a small sum.
When his girlfriend met him, she didn't want to mention it, only two conditions were mentioned.
The girlfriend said, "The house can be built without my name, but you have to promise me three conditions." The man silently added his name after listening!
"First, I don't pay for the decoration, and I don't buy any furniture and appliances. Because my name is not on the real estate license, I have no reason to pay."
"Second, the cost of living after marriage is four or six points. 60% for you and 40% for me. If you are a man, you should bear more. As for your mortgage, it's your own business, not mine. I will not allow it to affect our lives. "
"Third, all housework should be shared. I know you are tired from work. I should have been considerate of you, but since you told me so clearly, I can't be vague. "
At that moment, awei suddenly fell silent. He doesn't know what to say, because he thinks what his girlfriend says is very reasonable. 600 thousand is really a lot, and my girlfriend's family has no money. Naturally, he has no reason to add the other party's name to the real estate license.
But after buying a house, he will soon face matters such as decoration, furniture and home appliances purchase. If he doesn't add his girlfriend's name to the real estate license, his girlfriend will naturally not bear the corresponding expenses.
What's more, he and his girlfriend will always be equal without a name. In this case, what reason does he have to ask his girlfriend to take on more housework? He really works harder and busier, but since he doesn't understand his girlfriend, her girlfriend naturally won't understand him.
He suddenly found that the relationship between husband and wife is the most important relative of money, and knowing it too clearly will affect the quality of their marriage, so he decided to add his girlfriend's name to the real estate license. His girlfriend finally agreed to bear the cost of decoration and purchase of furniture and appliances, and they lived well together from then on.
Bian Xiao has something to say:
At first, awei's idea was not wrong. After all, 600,000 yuan is a huge wealth for any family, and their family spent almost all their money to make up the down payment. It is understandable that he doesn't want to add his girlfriend's name to the real estate license.
But everything has two sides. If his girlfriend is willing to pay for this house, and bear the corresponding decoration costs, as well as buy furniture and home appliances, then he will naturally add his girlfriend's name to the real estate license.
As for who pays more and who pays less, there is no need to care so clearly. After all, it is too clear that husband and wife will live together in the future. Paying too much attention will affect their feelings.
Many marriages are unfortunate for two reasons: husband and wife distrust each other and guard against each other; Couples care too much to pay for marriage.
Before they got married, they made various calculations and calculations. How can they live a good life after they get married? The so-called husband and wife are one. Since both men and women have decided to get married, they should treat each other as a family. Only in this way can they have a happy marriage.
If you are about to enter the marriage hall and want to get real happiness, please remember the following two points.
The relationship between husband and wife is more important than property.
Some people value property more than the relationship between husband and wife, which is a big misunderstanding. You have to understand that nothing is more important than people in this world.
Everything has a price, even the most precious things can be clearly marked, but people are different, people have feelings, and feelings are priceless.
If you can live in harmony and love each other, then your marriage will be extremely happy and no amount of property can be bought.
In marriage, the relationship between husband and wife is necessarily more important than property, so it is not necessary for everyone to put property above the relationship between husband and wife, and it is not necessary for property to affect feelings, which is very unworthy.
Giving is mutual.
Some people just want what they want from marriage, but they don't want to pay at all. People with this idea can hardly get a happy family, because people are mutual.
God is fair to everyone, and you get as much as you pay. Life is like this, so is marriage. Only when husband and wife give to each other can they get the most satisfactory marriage.
If you don't understand this truth, you just want to take it and don't want to pay it, then in the future, it will definitely lead to a steady stream of contradictions, and such a marriage will be difficult to last.
Everyone must understand that there has never been a real gain for nothing in this world. Even if you get it, it will only be short-lived. If you want to have a happy and long-term marriage, you must know how to pay in marriage.
Marriage is extremely important to everyone. Some people can get enviable happiness in marriage, while others end up making a mess of their lives. The main reason is not fate, but whether they have the intention to manage this relationship.
The real way of management is not a variety of routines, but a sincerity. As long as you are willing to treat your lover sincerely and pay for this marriage, you will eventually get happiness.