My friend Xiao Chen recently complained to me about such a thing.
She and Xiaoke are colleagues who joined the company together. Because both alumni and friends, they soon became good friends who talked about everything. After working for half a year or so, Xiaoke feels that there is not much room for development in this company now, so she wants to take the civil service exam. She bought a lot of preparation materials for this and even signed up for a training class outside. Because of spending a lot of time on the civil service exam, Xiaoke's attention to work is naturally not as good as before. She gets off work early every day and seldom plays with other colleagues on weekends.
One day, Xiaoke's boss was chatting with Xiao Chen at dinner. The supervisor casually asked, "You have such a good relationship with Xiaoke. Do you know what she's been up to recently? Why come home from work every day and seldom attend everyone's party? Is there anything at home? " ?
Xiao Chen didn't think much at that time, and directly told the supervisor about Xiaoke's examination of civil servants. She didn't expect that since then, the supervisor will no longer let Xiaoke take charge of some important cases at ordinary times, and sometimes embarrass Xiaoke because of small things, and even talk to her directly later, suggesting that Xiaoke can leave at any time. However, Xiaoke finally had to resign. Later, she learned that Xiao Chen told the supervisor about her civil service examination. Xiaoke is very angry and hasn't spoken to her for several days. She always thought that Xiao Chen did it on purpose.
Xiao Chen is also the best place? Regret and grievance. She said that she really didn't mean it, and she was used to honesty at ordinary times, and she couldn't make up any lies to make up the scene for a while. Of course, I know her. The girl was nervous when she told a lie. She always tells the truth when she gets a phone call to sell any house and insurance. It is often a long time before the other party talks nonsense and hangs up the phone.
Although we often think that honesty is the right choice, sometimes we have to admit that lies can often solve problems and reduce troubles more than the truth. Just like you don't want to go to a boring party, you will always make up some lies that you can't go because you have something to do; After quarreling with my girlfriend, I always say it's my fault, but in fact you may not think so in your heart; Seeing that your best friend is disheartened because he can't find a suitable job, he always says that you are so good but just a little unlucky, even though you may not think so in your heart; Rejecting a person and saying that he already has someone he likes, whether or not, is often the most effective way; What's more, some professions are born to take you to lie. Most salesmen can only say that the products they sell are the best, and they may keep silent about some information that is not conducive to the products (covering up part of the truth can also be regarded as lying); The doctor always says that you will get well soon after taking this medicine; Politicians always say that everything we do is for the people. I also heard a saying, "When everyone speaks frankly, hell will come to earth." It's a pity that teachers and parents only taught us how to be honest since childhood, but they didn't tell us how to tell a good lie.
I remember that I didn't know which famous books I had smoked before, and I always forced my deskmate to tell me his advantages and disadvantages. It really embarrassed him to think about it now. Although I said at that time that I wanted to hear the truth and would not be angry, I finally argued for his truth.
Sometimes, I often struggle to tell the truth about some things. I always feel that it is said, but I always have to explain it for a long time, which may involve some unnecessary troubles. Don't tell me, I don't think it's right to lie. There is always another self accusing you in my heart, reminding you that honesty is a virtue. Only then did I find that the most difficult thing is not telling the truth or lying, but judging which one is appropriate; If it is a lie, you need to know what kind of lies can make the ending more complete and hurt the least.
So honesty is a virtue, but lying is a kind of wisdom.