These are different versions of the popular "boss and employee have the best relationship" in the workplace. When should the boss and employees become one? Can the "distance" between boss and employee produce beauty? Do employees want to get promoted by integrating into the boss's life circle? How to grasp the intimacy between employees and bosses? The reporter interviewed some white-collar workers, and according to their different views, they were divided into two phalanxes: "Intimacy" and "Distance". At the same time, invite career consultants to comment.
Yes, I like intimacy.
Boss: I like pure harmony.
▲ No one is perfect. If some bad problems in your life are known to employees, what is your first reaction? Will it affect your relationship with this employee?
Ms. Wang, president of a fashion club: In fact, bosses occasionally make such jokes when they get together. For example, a boss has hemorrhoids and is found by employees; A boss had an affair, was accidentally caught by employees and so on. Personally, I am in favor of living in harmony. Therefore, I made these psychological preparations before I let my employees integrate into my life circle. In the past, the boss was a little mysterious and so on, but now he doesn't pay attention to these things. They are all people, and my employees don't have to worry about these problems. People, if there is nothing wrong, are not people.
▲ Do you want employees to enter their own life circle? Why?
Mr. sunshine, Chairman of Future Culture: Yes. I am in favor of mutual care and help among employees. At this time, I am also the most ordinary employee in this team. First, only in this way can there be cohesion; Second, having the warmth of home is an effect that no high salary can achieve.
▲ What do you think is the relationship between boss and employee's private life?
Mr. Wang, president of a foreign-funded enterprise: maintaining non-utilitarian personal relationships. I don't like those employees who sneak into my life circle with ulterior motives. In that case, it will be counterproductive. Half a year ago, I invited my assistant to my wife's birthday party and did some help. Afterwards, an assistant trumpeted the details of hearsay in my wife's and my life, embellished it, and used it to show his unusual relationship with the boss in order to raise his position in the world. This is actually stupid.
Employee: Intimacy makes me feel safe in the workplace.
▲ Are you willing to take the initiative to enter the boss's private life circle? Why?
Xiaoyun, an accountant in a chemical enterprise: Yes. If the boss can accept it, I will be happy to integrate into the boss's life circle and feel very lucky. Because at least it means that I have a good relationship with my boss. Many friends around me leave their jobs because they don't get along well with their bosses, not because their salary or development prospects are not broad enough. Not talking about it at ordinary times is not good for your career development. Suppose you go to work with an unhappy mood every day, you might as well kill me. Therefore, I attach great importance to the relationship between the boss and the employees. I don't have to get any utilitarian benefits from it. I can enhance mutual understanding and promote running-in. I will get a sense of motivation, which is enough.
▲ If you apply for a new job and find a boss warmly inviting you to many of his private life parties and activities, will you be happy to accept it? what do you think?
Cai Yiqing, human resources director of a Japanese company: I'm happy to accept this job. I will feel that this boss is more approachable and closer to employees; The boss took me into his private life because he thought I was nice. This boss is very open, and his work may be more direct and smooth in the future.
▲ If you and your boss participate in a sports activity that is of mutual interest, you will accidentally find that your boss has "Hong Kong feet" and attract criticism from others. The boss looks embarrassed. What will you do at this time?
Editor of Hunan Publishing Group: If I am busy changing clothes or something, I will pretend not to know. If I can't avoid it, I will be indifferent. Find some treatment prescriptions afterwards and give them to the boss in an appropriate way to show concern; Or at that time, I just smiled generously and said that I had a "smelly foot" once, and now I have recovered. The boss's attention will certainly be attracted by the following words, because I will tell him (her) how I was "cured" at once. Of course, the premise is that you also need to know a little.
▲ Please summarize the status of your favorite boss-employee relationship with the name of a song or sentence.
Allen, Network Manager: It's like two grasshoppers in the same boat.
No, stay away from me.
Boss: I'm afraid of exposure
▲ Please list the reasons why you don't want employees to enter your life circle.
Boss of Shanghai Audiovisual Culture: Who can guarantee that there is no ugliness in their lives, even if it gets out?
Private chairman: I don't want to give employees the illusion that there are improper ways to show their talents besides performance.
Lawyer Yang, Director of Guangzhou Law Firm: The so-called shopping mall is like a battlefield, and the information that is accidentally leaked is likely to be a big mistake.
Chen, General Manager of Shanghai Foreign Trade: I am the boss and he is an employee. Of course, there must be a distinction between high and low, and we can't mix them together, especially in a big enterprise like me.
Ms. Yiduo, owner of Sanlitun Bar: I can accept a small number of activities that I have scheduled in advance. For example, barbecue on the grass in front of my house, discuss with the human resources manager, and have fun with labor and capital. But I can't let employees do activities at home every day, so I can't stand it.
▲ Please summarize your favorite boss-employee relationship in one sentence.
Fan Ze, President of Private University: How deep love is, how deep hate is.
Employee: I don't want to work all the time.
▲ Are you willing to take the initiative to enter the boss's private life circle? Why?
Xie Zhu, Commissioner of Foreign Enterprises: No, it's too much trouble, and it will also affect your private life. I'm tired enough at work, and I have to work 24 hours after work. I can't stand it.
Cai Yiqing, HR director of a Japanese company: I don't want to. Because, originally, people from two different environments or two classes have no common topic or friends and hobbies. I'm not interested either. Moreover, there should be some mystery between the boss and the employees. If it is completely transparent, it is not very useful.
▲ If you apply for a new job and find a boss warmly inviting you to many of his private life parties and activities, will you be happy to accept it?
Xie Zhu, Commissioner of Foreign Enterprises: I'll try to accept it first. But I will observe the boss's behavior style, whether he or she does this to me or to all new employees. If you do this to all new employees, I think the boss is a little too enthusiastic; If it is only for me, I will doubt his (her) motives.
▲ Describe your favorite employee-boss relationship in one sentence.
Xie Zhu, Commissioner of Foreign Enterprises: Take proper care, intervene cautiously and never participate.
▲ To what extent do you think bosses should care about employees' private lives?
Cai Yiqing, human resources director of a Japanese company: Not far from it, if you don't feel it. Let you know one side of his life, but you don't fully understand it. Everyone's private life should not be completely open, it belongs to them. The working face is for colleagues, and the life face and personal face are for friends or family. Different worlds should be appreciated and shared by different people. I hope the boss has some mystery.
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Online expert: Fan Guang, MBA of Tsinghua University, chief teacher and career consultant of Guangzhou Success Carefree Career Planning Studio.
Under what circumstances, the boss is more suitable to integrate employees into his own life circle? Fan told reporters that some small-scale ones often have their own cultural styles and characteristics. In some entrepreneurial or irregular schools, it is often common for bosses to use their personal relationships with employees to achieve management goals. For large-scale, relatively formal operations, that is, when the relationship between the boss and employees does not play a decisive role in the career development of employees, the boss may not pay attention to these details.
Usually, the boss will take the initiative to invite employees to participate in their own party life. What does this mean? This is also a problem that plagues many employees. The boss's enthusiasm is sometimes like a hot potato, and it is difficult to pick it up or not. In this regard, Fan Guang believes that, first of all, this reflects the boss's trust in employees. Secondly, this employee may be the target and goal of the boss's recent key training. Moreover, people at work often put on masks for themselves, and the boss may want to get to know the employee better through the details of life, which is also a management method.
▲ What are the adverse consequences of employees alienating their bosses?
In the workplace, the relationship between boss and employee is often called "power distance". There is a saying: The closer the power distance, the greater the chances of employees' promotion. For example, the secretary of the general manager, she is not high in rank, but she has great influence. Because she is closest to the boss, some of her information is easily mistaken by colleagues for the boss's meaning. If employees want to make breakthroughs and develop in management, gain influence or get management positions, they should communicate with their bosses more and keep good contacts. If you are always indifferent to your boss's kindness and even refuse his normal personal invitation, then it is estimated that the chances of promotion will not be too close to you.
▲ How do employees judge whether they are suitable to integrate into the boss's life circle?
First of all, look at the cultural type. Are colleagues generally on good terms? Is it generally easy to integrate between superiors and subordinates or is the distance obvious? For example, many bosses themselves want to maintain a relationship with their employees, not only the relationship between superiors and subordinates, but also the relationship between friends in life, and regard this as a management tool, calling employees by English nicknames and so on. This kind of atmosphere is more suitable for developing the boss-employee relationship as a friend. It is not necessarily a bad thing that employees have the opportunity to integrate into the boss's life circle.
Secondly, it depends on the so-called eye margin. If you hit it off with the boss, and your personal relationship with the boss will not cause inconvenience at work, employees can integrate into the boss's life circle.
▲ How to grasp the relationship with the boss?
Specifically, specifically. If the corporate culture is suitable, you like it, and the boss is willing to let you in, employees should maintain a good relationship with the boss. At the same time, it is also a good opportunity for the boss to fully understand you and use you with confidence.
If the enterprise is in a situation of fierce struggle and numerous gangs, you may be labeled by others when you accept the invitation of the boss: you are the boss's confidant, thus being squeezed out by another gang and becoming a victim of power struggle. At this time, you should think carefully and avoid getting into unnecessary personnel fights.