A few days ago, my best friend Lili told me something her mother-in-law did, which surprised and moved me.
Lily and her husband met on a blind date. Neither of them is very rich and has no diploma. At marriageable age, they are all married.
Husband and wife get married.
When I got married, I bought a cheap car, a wedding car, and both lived with my mother-in-law. My husband still loves Lili very much, but her mother-in-law always says that Lili doesn't know how to be frugal, and her mother-in-law is stingy and unwilling to spend money, which makes Lili very chilling, so Lili and her husband go out to rent a house. They also opened a small restaurant, thinking that they could buy a house if they made money.
After a few years of such a busy life, they have a lot of savings, almost enough to pay the down payment on the house, so they are going to buy a house and don't want to rent a house all the time. They have their own children, and it is also a problem for their children to go to school in the future.
They have the final say when they look at the house, but they are still short of 30 thousand, and the couple are worrying about borrowing money. My mother-in-law sent a bag with 30 thousand yuan in it, saying it was for them to buy a house. Before lily could react, her mother-in-law left.
30 thousand yuan from my mother-in-law
The next day, Lili thought about it and felt that although her mother-in-law was harsh before, she still cared about them at the critical time. Lily dialed her mother-in-law's phone, ready to thank her. She also said it's okay. Say that finish, just ready to hang up. But I didn't expect my mother-in-law to hang up, so I heard her say a few words, which was a conversation between her father-in-law and her mother-in-law.
Father-in-law said: that 30 thousand yuan is our pension money. You bought a house for your children. Don't you regret it?
Mother-in-law said: Lily had a hard time when she came to our house. I was so hard on her at ordinary times, and I was very sorry for her. Just give her the money as compensation, and don't need that much money for the time being.
Hearing this, Lily shed tears.
My daughter-in-law was moved to tears.
In fact, there are contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, which are not necessarily real contradictions. Mother-in-law is sometimes harsh, but it is estimated that the same was true of her mother-in-law at that time. Also know how to be tolerant. There must be some truth in what my mother-in-law has done. After all, my mother-in-law has experienced it.
Take my mother-in-law for example. She is usually simple, unwilling to spend money, and often criticizes me. Maybe it is a kind of care for the daughter-in-law. She always wanted her daughter-in-law to be better, so she also wanted her daughter-in-law to be better. Think about it, why didn't she talk about the daughter-in-law next door, because she didn't care whether the daughter-in-law next door was good or not.
Therefore, as a daughter-in-law, we try our best to tolerate our mother-in-law. If we think about it from the standpoint of our mother-in-law, there may not be so many contradictions.