Nine years ago, at the age of 23, I joined a well-known marriage and love platform in China as a childlike appearance who walked out of campus.
At that time, my main job was to help older single, divorced and widowed people solve how to get rid of being single and rebuild a new marriage relationship.
In this position, I have gone for more than four years and experienced three job changes. Starting from the first-line employees in the entry period, I contact a large number of singles every day to guide them on how to get rid of their orders, how to rebuild their trust, how to communicate with the opposite sex, and how to express their feelings and needs.
Seriously, this 14-month first-line job helped me solve the problems of my members, and at the same time reconstructed my self-cognition, making me realize that people's hearts are so fragile, and the negation of an ex can annihilate all our beautiful imagination of love.
At the same time, people's hearts can be so strong that no one understands and supports them, and they can still be small experts in life and working women for young children.
Out of love and respect for the customers I contacted, I began to pay more attention to the dignity of life and spiritual quality, and actively participated in various professional knowledge learning carried out within the enterprise, such as psychological counseling, marriage and family counseling and so on.
In this way, 14 months later, I became the manager of this dating platform and began to manage a small team of about 10 people. My job is still to solve the single problem of members. The difference is that I take a back seat and have more time to do technical study and promotion.
I have worked in this position for 17 months. During this period, our team's service satisfaction ranked in the top ten in four branches nationwide and in the top three in local branches. Of course, this honor cannot be separated from the partners I worked with in those years, and this honor belongs to them.
14 months of first-line work, leaving 17 months of management career. Because of love, and because I can spend more time on the systematic study of marriage and family, I transferred to the training department of the enterprise, and my main job is to train the new employees in vocational skills.
In this position, I have learned more, and at the same time, I have obtained a series of professional certificates related to marriage and family counseling. I regard emotional counseling as my lifelong career.
Many friends asked me why I wanted to do this job. Aren't you tired of being exposed to so much negative energy all day? Are you not afraid of depression? And so on, then why should I continue this job as a lifelong career? The reason for this is the following：
In fact, whether it is our emotional problems or life troubles, as well as parent-child problems, most of them are related to people's personality quality. A relatively healthy marriage and family relationship often means that both husband and wife have better personality characteristics or healthier personality qualities. A problematic marriage often means that at least one of the husband and wife has some shortcomings in character or personality. These problems directly or indirectly affect our marriage and family relations. Children who grow up in unhappy family relations will inevitably have their own shortcomings.
Although I can't solve the problems that arise, I can influence those post-80 s and post-90 s who are ready to enter intimate relationships from my own ability.
What problems can be solved?
1、? For unmarried men and women: premarital counseling and counseling can be carried out, such as divorce counseling, confusion in mate selection, frustration in love, etc.
2、? For newlyweds: help the parties solve various problems such as marriage, role adaptation and family conflicts.
3、? For married men and women: provide consultation and guidance on the adjustment of husband and wife relationship, such as marriage storm, family discord, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, parent-child contradiction and so on.
4、? For divorced and remarried people: provide counseling for trauma repair and confidence reconstruction. For example, how to get out of the pain of divorce, how to eliminate the worries of remarriage, and how to deal with the ability to get along with children from remarried families.
-it works.
In western developed countries and Hong Kong, Macao and Taiwan, there are many professionally certified marriage and family counselors.
They provide consulting services for visitors who encounter problems in love, marriage and family life, and effectively help people relieve all kinds of marriage and love troubles.
Generally, there are 1 marriage and family counselors in every 300 families, and there are nearly10.2 million marriage and family counselors in the United States, serving 40 million families. Moreover, marriage and family counselors in the United States are high-end occupations with high social status, high income and flexible working hours.
In Chinese mainland, due to the influence of traditional culture, people are relatively reserved and restrained in expressing their feelings, and they are even more ashamed to ask for help for personal emotional problems, so that many problems and tragedies have emerged in the face of confusion in mate selection, frustration in love, marital turmoil, family disharmony and the crisis of adolescent growth.
But now, we have begun to open our life experiences appropriately and are willing to solve our emotional confusion through professional channels.
During my nine years' working experience, I have helped thousands of counselors to solve various emotional and emotional problems through interviews, discussions, analysis, guidance, inspiration and training, and also helped them improve their ability to manage intimate relationships.
Maybe you and I both have an unhappy family, or we have some unsatisfied childhood needs because of our parents' high standards.
No matter what we have experienced, as adults, we have the ability to take responsibility for ourselves.
If you are experiencing the confusion of choosing a spouse, the frustration of love, the pain of breaking up, or the turmoil of marriage and family disharmony, you may wish to come to me for emotional counseling.
Of course, in order to produce effective results, the consultation period of different questions will be different. You can consult our analysis teacher for free.
Finally, I believe that life can affect life and love can awaken love. I am very happy to meet you and study together on the road of paying attention to the emotional and spiritual growth of both sexes.
I wish you and I both have the opportunity to grow into wise men who are not confused. The benevolent is not worried, the brave is not afraid, and although immature, they are persevering!