In fact, parents should not be too anxious about this situation. First of all, they should understand why children lie.
1. What is the child's motivation to lie? 1. Lie for some purpose.
Han Han cheated his mother in order to play with his mobile phone. It is definitely not good for children to have this kind of behavior, so parents should first understand the reasons behind it, instead of blindly beating and cursing, listen to their children's needs, reflect on their usual discipline, and establish a sense of not lying for their children.
Lie to avoid being accused.
Just like when we were young, in order to get praise and reward from our parents, we would secretly change our exam scores higher. We know this is a lie, but we might as well take a chance as being scolded by our parents. Therefore, parents should reflect on whether the usual education is too harsh on their children, thus forcing them to lie.
3. Lying for comparison.
I heard a joke. Two little girls were comparing. One said, My brother dares to eat stones! The other said, how dare my brother! I watched him eat that day! There is no doubt that both girls are lying in order to be better than their brother.
Therefore, if children lie, parents should first understand the psychology behind them, instead of treating their children with violent punishment every time they lie. In this way, you will have more lies.
The most important thing is to learn to distinguish children's "lies", because some children's "language" is not a real "lie".
? Second, these three "languages" of children are not real "lies". 1. deliberately exaggerated and imaginative language.
Some children lie because they have too much imagination. When they describe a thing, their minds will exert their extreme imagination, and then they will add these imaginations to the description. This is not a child's subjective lie, but a manifestation of a fully developed brain.
For example, when we play role-playing games with our children, we still exaggerate that we have been robbed or stolen, or say something that we can't hear at all. This is that they are giving full play to their imagination, and parents need not panic.
2. The language that you want to pay attention to and be concerned about.
Some children will exaggerate. For example, if they fall, they will cry loudly. For example, I will tell my parents that I am unhappy in kindergarten and bullied by my teacher. As a result, when my parents knew the situation, they found that there was no such thing at all.
In fact, children do these things in order to gain the attention and attention of parents. If children often don't get positive attention from their parents, such as encouragement, hugs, companionship and respect, they will try their best to win their parents' attention, including lying.
3. Come on, interesting language.
For example, if there are guests at home, the clothes worn by the guests are obviously not good-looking. If you ask, the child will still say "good-looking". This is to please guests and prove that children have high emotional intelligence, and parents should be happy about it.
In short, parents should not label their children as "lying" easily, nor should they directly raise their children's lying behavior to the moral level. Instead, we should prescribe the right medicine and guide the children in some way.
? 3. How should parents educate their children when they deliberately lie? After finding out the reason why children "lie", how should parents prescribe the right medicine?
1. Think from the child's point of view and guide the child to think in their own shoes.
There is a good saying, don't always feel like parents, children should listen to themselves in everything, and ignore their ideas. When children lie, parents should think from their children's point of view. If they are children, why do they lie? When you find out why the child is lying, don't directly beat and scold. Children will rebel and lie more and more easily. The wisest thing to do is to guide children to put themselves in others' shoes.
Parents can also tell their children that as long as he has the courage to admit his mistake, he must believe that he will not make it again. You can also share your childhood experiences with him, encourage and reward him, and guide him to develop into positive behavior.
2. Help children distinguish between imagination and reality.
Children are born with imagination, and sometimes they can't tell reality from imagination. On the one hand, parents should affirm his imagination, on the other hand, they should guide him to reality slowly.
Parents can actively participate in their children's imagination. For example, when children are reading books or watching movies, they can explain to them from time to time what is real and what is imagined by human beings. Teach them the ability to distinguish between reality and imagination and then reward them.