One thing happened during the spring outing.
There are ducklings in the scenic spot. The duck just hatched not long ago, furry, cute and cute. The children passed by, stopped naturally, and were hooked by ducks. Pay for a cage and a duck. Ten dollars for a duck and ten dollars for a cage are not small sums for them. However, they are more generous than buying snacks in snack shops. In fact, I also saw this scene, just thinking: children like small animals because they are born with compassion and love. Buy them! Let them buy them! However, we are telling the children again and again: ducks are very small, so we should take good care of them, otherwise, we will poison a young life.
Soon, a group of children gathered on the grass in the scenic spot.
The children are very happy, teasing the ducks on the grass. At first, it just fed the ducks. After all, the ducks were hungry for a while, ate happily, and made a "quack" cry from time to time. The children were very excited when they saw it. Then, because it is not fun, simply let the duck out of the cage and let it play on the grass. After all, ducks are ducks. After they are released from their cages, they can't listen to people and run around on the grass. Now, the grass has become a runway. A group of children, chasing ducks on the grass, laughed, and the ducks panicked and filled the grass. I was a little worried that the duck running on the grass was accidentally trampled by children, so I went to the grass to stop it. Finally, they stopped.
Children will never chase ducks again. But I played a new trick-put the duck in my hand and throw it from one hand to the other; Feeding the duck food, the duck is full, and it is still spicy to put it on the head and put it in the mouth; I had to let two ducks fight. Ducks used to live in peace, so I grabbed their heads and let them peck at each other ... I looked at them and thought, what happened to these children? Why don't you listen? How can you joke about the life of a lovely duck?
Once again, I couldn't help walking up to the children and stopping them. Maybe my tone is a little harsh and my expression is a little serious. The children stopped completely this time and put the duck in the cage. I was about to turn around when I heard a whisper, "Just for fun. What's the big deal? " ? We don't want a duck life! "I was a little angry at first when I heard that, but on second thought, the child was right-indeed, they really didn't expect to kill the duck? I think feeding and teasing ducks is just a way to like ducks. If someone really wants to hurt a duck, they will bravely protect it. Thinking of this, I felt that the child's muttering was understandable, so I turned and left.
Not long after, a child came to me: "teacher, a duck is dying!" " You can't pinch its neck. "I followed him to find many children, and sure enough, a duck was lying on the grass, dying. I tried to lift the duck less than a few times, but the neck of the duck was quite straight. " Teacher, he gave him something to eat, but the duckling didn't eat it. He choked the duck. ""teacher, he also caught the duck in his hand, and the duck fell out of his hand several times. " ...................................................................................................................................................... ............................ a few minutes later, the duck died, and the children gathered around, silent and solemn, as if they knew what they had done wrong, but they cried when they looked at the dead duck. The child who just mumbled was also full of remorse and blushed, hiding in the crowd and afraid to show his face.
"Son, we don't blame less than. In fact, everyone has done less than just now. I know you all like ducklings, but you just like them, but you don't know that the way you like them is wrong. Ducks are petite and fragile. They can't stand you. If we do something wrong, we can correct it! " On such an occasion, I feel I have to say this. Although, I have repeated this sentence three times. However, I think the children must have listened and really knew. Unfortunately, it was at the expense of the death of a duck.
We gave the duckling a simple funeral-a half-minute silence, and then asked the duckling to wrap it up and put it in the trash can.
Class meeting about love
At this point, it seems that it is time to come to an end.
However, I think in education, this matter is far from over-this is the real problem of class children, who have the "instinct" of love, but have no "skills" of love. This may not only be a problem for children to attend classes, but also a common phenomenon for children: growing up in honeypots, soaking in electronic products, being enclosed in a narrow range of schools and families, and being taken care of by two generations. They can feel love and have the "instinct" of love, but because of taking care of others for a long time, they gradually lose their ability to love. They only know to accept, but they don't know to pay, or they don't know to pay with their own actions. I think this matter is far from over, because I think the children in my class still owe such an education lesson on the skills of love. I have the obligation and responsibility to make up for the children in my class and let them learn to love themselves, others and all the beautiful things in this world.
On Friday after the spring outing, I held a class meeting. After three days of preparation, with the theme of "Love is an instinct and a skill", I launched a class meeting activity of "Education of Love Understanding" in my class:
The first link, throwing a brick to attract jade-thinking about triggering love. During the spring outing, the students personally experienced the death of ducks and had their own feelings. I used this example as the opening remarks of the class meeting, throwing out questions, and I asked the children to discuss it, which made them think that "love is an instinct and a skill": in life, we need love and love a duck. What do we do? Students have their own real life experiences, are very interested in the topic, and speak actively. They all agree that if you love a duck, you should treat it like a duck. You should know the lifestyle of ducks, and your views on love are sometimes correct. Sometimes, good intentions do bad things.
The second link, scene discrimination-the discrimination of love. I gave three examples to let children know whether these ways of love are correct; The first example: there are beautiful flowers in the garden. A child likes them very much, so he picked a flower and took it home and put it in his vase.
The second example: a classmate likes thrush very much. One day, he found an injured thrush in the Woods, took it home and kept it in a cage.
The third example: the child did something wrong, and the mother hated iron and gave the child a good beating. Moreover, while beating, she said, I am doing it for your own good.
All three examples are speculative. The first two are easy to distinguish-if you really love flowers, you should let them grow in the garden. If you really love a bird, you should let them fly in the blue sky. In the third example, children have different opinions: some say that parents love their children in the wrong way, because beating is love and loosening is harm. If children make a big mistake, involving morality and morality, it is really appropriate to hit them, which is also a way for parents to love their children; Some people say that the way of love is wrong, because if you love children, you don't have to beat and scold, you can be reasonable. In this case, I guess the children will have different opinions. After all, many times, the way of loving is the embodiment of one's outlook on life and values. Right or wrong, sometimes it is really unclear. I didn't give them an accurate answer to the children's different opinions. I just told them: I admire an educational method that convinces people by reasoning. The education of children depends on the degree of their mistakes and their actual situation. Yes, sometimes, love is a philosophical proposition. Many times, it's really hard to tell right from wrong. As a teacher, what you can give at this time may be to let them make positive and healthy choices under the guidance of correct values and outlook on life.
The third link, practice simulation-learn the skills of love. Love is "instinct", but the skills of love should be learned. Different objects have different ways of falling in love, and the skills of falling in love are of course different. For example, if you love an orchid and plant it at home, you should take good care of it and let it grow healthily. At this time, you should learn the skills of planting orchids so that they can survive, take root, grow leaves and bloom. If you love a duck, you should be kind to this life, learn to take care of it and let it live happily. You love your parents and grandparents at home. Of course, you should express your love for them with practical words and actions. In this link, I just take raising ducks as an extended example to tell children that being familiar with their living habits and raising methods is the best way to love ducks and a life. As for the other skills of love, I think one class can't accommodate them. Only let children learn in life, acquire the skills of love, care for the object they love-a flower, a grass, a tree, a person, let the object they care for grow up, love others and please themselves!
The class meeting went well. But in the end, the silence of the classroom was broken by a voice. A classmate threw a question: "teacher, you have talked so much." I want to ask you a question. If it is a poisonous snake, can you love it? If it is a bad person, can you love it? " I think, to practice the skills of love, first of all, you have to find the right object to love, is it worth loving! "
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An argument with ideological value
I have to admire the questions raised by the children. Valuable and thoughtful.
A stone stirs up a thousand waves. The class meeting that is about to end has become restless in this series of questions. This is indeed a question of ideological value, and it is also a controversial issue. Yes, what if you love the wrong person? For example, you can't be nice to a poisonous snake or a bad person. The goal of love is wrong, and in the end, it is the opposite; Love is in the wrong direction. In fact, in many cases, it will be counterproductive and even life-threatening. In life, there are too many such examples, but you don't see them. You are kind enough to lead the way. As a result, college students were trafficked to remote villages by bad people; Have you ever found that you pretend to be deaf and dumb under the guise of a welfare foundation, tricking others into donating money on cars and trains, and then putting it in your pocket; Have you found that many bad people can use people's "love" to deceive good people?
I let the children in the class argue. The more you argue, the more obvious the truth is-in the argument, the child understands the "skill" of getting love, and the premise of this skill is that the object you love is worth paying. In class, a child also told the story of a farmer and a snake. He told the whole class through the story that the premise of love really needs to distinguish between the object you love and whether it is worth loving. If the object of love is a poisonous snake, your love will not only flow like water, but also be hurt by love. Some students also added the question of love style. Sometimes, the way we love is wrong, but it may also be right. For example, the fox in the animal kingdom, when she was a child, the mother fox would take special care of her children. When the fox grows to a certain age, the fox will deliberately "abandon" the fox. The fox looks ruthless on the surface, but this kind of love is great love. Mother fox "abandoned" her child's back, just to make her child independent as soon as possible, and the little fox will truly know how to survive strongly after going through the test of life and death.
I didn't expect children to have so many ideas of their own nowadays. Sometimes, children are not teachers, and the so-called teaching is like this. Children's arguments, like ripples, remind me of all kinds of questions about "love": love others, in fact, you have to love yourself; Love is divided into big and small. Between national love and human love, it is often necessary to give up small love and dedicate great love; In the future, children will meet love. How to love and be loved is a compulsory course. ..... However, this may not be what this class meeting can accommodate. Perhaps, some topics are not suitable for children to discuss now.
Beneficial practice of love
Love is a course. From a scientific point of view, it should belong to the category of emotional intelligence. Learning to love and practicing the skills of love are indispensable for a person-because "love" will run through a person's life, and we are happy because we are loved by others; Because we give love to others, we feel satisfied and spiritually enriched. Pupils are in the primary stage of life, pure and clean, and their young hearts are full of love and kindness, but how to correctly recognize "love" and give love to others can't be said to be ignorant, but it is very lacking. It is necessary for children to make up this lesson.
All education should be extended to life and practice. In order to let children practice the skills of "love", I have arranged two tasks: first, plant a potted flower, take good care of it, and let it take root, sprout, grow leaves and bloom. I believe that when children take care of the growth of a pot of plants, they will certainly learn the skills of taking care of flowers. More importantly, they know that the dedication of love needs to be persisted and needs to be as always. This may be the quality of love. In another task, I thought many students' ducks were still alive. Let these students feed the ducks they bought and see who raises healthier and stronger ducks.
I also told them that there would be a flower show in the class after a while to see who raised the most beautiful flowers. I really haven't decided how to evaluate raising ducks. The children are very excited, and so am I. When I think of these flowers watered with children's "love" and put them in the classroom, they are full of flowers and colorful. Although the children have just planted flowers, the seeds are still sleeping in the soil. I believe these seeds will germinate and bloom, just like children in the classroom, they will germinate, grow leaves and bloom. Under the watering of love, flowers bloom undefeated and life is beautiful.