I have been with my girlfriend for three years, and I have often quarreled about something recently. I want to ask your opinion.
We met at a friend's party, and I was interested in her from the beginning. Later, after a period of contact, I felt that two people were quite suitable and they got together.
Before we lived together, we sent messages to each other every day, telling each other what we were doing, and we also watched videos when we got home from work.
But she is very sensitive. Sometimes she calls me, and when I'm busy, she gets angry when I don't answer it. Even if I call her back after seeing the news, she will hang up directly.
Every time I spend a long time coaxing her, she will scold me and ask me if there is another woman outside. I thought it might be because we are in a different place, and she often feels insecure when we are not together.
So I offered to let her move in with me. Just when she wanted to change her job, she agreed.
However, this situation did not disappear after cohabitation. I worked overtime at home last Saturday, and she went shopping with her best friend. I was in a hurry when I sent the message, so I answered it five minutes late.
As a result, I was bombarded by her news, always wondering if I was stealing at home and didn't have time to reply to her news. Even though I called to explain, she still made a scene when she got home that night.
Sometimes I think she is too sensitive and we are too tired. But when she is not sensitive, we can always talk and laugh, and our feelings have always been stable.
Recently, perhaps because the wedding day is coming, I began to feel tired. I want to ask you, what should I do in the face of such a sensitive girlfriend?
Teacher XX replied:
Hello, thank you very much for your inquiry.
In fact, this problem is not uncommon. Many couples, especially women, are prone to sensitive phenomena. Sensitivity itself is actually the value of feelings, but being too sensitive will make the other party unbearable.
When her boyfriend went out to travel, the girl had already made up a whole drama of cheating in her mind. And began to expand thinking about those strange details, even the most ordinary things can be considered unusual.
Girls are hysterically trying to attract their boyfriends' attention, while boys are trying to explain again and again. In the end, it will only hurt both sides, and both sides are tired of feelings.
In fact, the sensitivity of girls always stems from excessive concern for feelings. Sensitive girls are very insecure. They are afraid of being hurt, so they even refuse to love others from the beginning.
If your girlfriend is too sensitive, you should also reflect. Does her recent performance make girls feel too insecure in this relationship?
However, feelings are always mutual, and it is difficult for one party to give in for a long time. When both sides are in a relatively stable mood, we can consider communicating well with our girlfriends and melting their suspicions with love.
Understand that girls' doubts and paranoia are more to prove the existence of love from you.
When the other person starts to be sensitive and suspicious, it is better to express your love clearly than to make the other person accept it in a reasonable way.
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