The best family education is hidden in the parents' mantra.

The best family education is hidden in the parents' mantra. When parents who come to Xingzhi for education and training get together to talk about their children, there is a situation that excellent children are excellent in all aspects, and "difficult children" seem to have no conditions in all aspects. The main manifestations are: some children not only study well, but also help their parents with housework, have personal hobbies, and are confident and self-disciplined ... Others have various problems: they are not good at learning and training, lazy, don't like sports, and have a bad personality ... In fact, all children start the same. Why they are so different is largely influenced by acquired culture, education and environment.

In the process of parents educating their children, there is a key point that is easily overlooked by parents, but it is harmful to children every day: these "oral words" that parents often say are simple words, but after a long time of repetition, they will form a kind of self-suggestion, which will have a positive or negative impact on children. If you don't know how to educate your children culturally, you can try to change your spoken English and say more words that are beneficial to your children's development. I really need to "give children a sense of value"

Values are the level that a person needs, which is especially important for the development of children. When children's sense of value is low, there will be lack of self-confidence, lack of motivation in training, and feeling that life is meaningless. Especially those children who love to immerse themselves in the internet age, according to the situation they have mastered, they will find that they usually can't find the meaning of their existence in real life. Parents often say "I really need it" to their children, which is the most intuitive way to make them feel "needed" and "meaningful". "Small commodities, mom wants to cook today. Can you help me go downstairs and throw away the garbage? "

"Son, I bought a shoe rack to be assembled online. I don't understand the instructions. I need your help. " Even the youngest child needs to say, "mom is too tired at work today." Mom wants you to hug me and help me use some electricity. " The most intuitive influence of the sense of value is that the child will continue to do these things to maintain the feeling of being needed until he has an inner way. More profoundly, the sense of value will also enhance children's self-confidence and make them look at their abilities more objectively. They feel that they are effective for family and even social development, which is the real driving force for children to become better and better, which is often called learning motivation.

Everyone should give the child something in time. There is no doubt that at this time, why not say to the child, "What a person does is better than what his mother does!" At this time, it brings great satisfaction to children. From the perspective of social psychology, satisfaction is actually a positive emotional feeling, which will make people feel that they have been recognized and fulfilled their personal values. There has been such a feeling in daily life: when a person is fully affirmed in doing one thing, you will be more passionate and confident in your ability next time.