Mark? Twain once said, "When you can't make up your mind, tell the truth. It will embarrass your opponent and make your friends feel relieved. " So the psychologist's point of view is: don't lie easily, even if it is a white lie.
Please note that even a white lie, as a lie itself, is a violation of honesty. Therefore, whether a lie is for a good purpose or not, as a lie itself will inevitably hinder honesty. So, I want to speak out here, let's reject white lies and build an honest society together.
A white lie is not seeking truth from facts, telling lies and empty words, exaggerating, covering up and distorting the facts. From the structural analysis of white lie phrases, it is a partial phrase and the head word is a lie, so white lie is a lie in essence. It is an indisputable fact that white lies are often used by some "professional liars" because of their uncertainty. A "lie" itself is dark, and the likes and dislikes of things are not measured by the purpose of things. A white lie itself is a lie. Although he has shed his beggar's clothes and put on his cheongsam, he still can't get rid of the essence of lies, which means cheating and hinders honesty. White lies have a good starting point, but once they are exposed, they will do more harm to each other. As a lie itself, it is already a violation of good faith.
Among the 20-character moral standards put forward in the Implementation Outline of Citizen Moral Construction promulgated by the Central Committee of the Communist Party of China, "sincerity" is a very important criterion, which means seeking truth and justice. The ancients said that "true self" was sincere. Not refined and sincere, not moving.
As General Secretary Hu Jintao said in his speech: "The socialist harmonious society we want to build should be a society with democracy and the rule of law, fairness and justice, honesty and friendship, vitality, stability and order, and harmony between man and nature."
From the above analysis, we believe that no matter whether a lie is for a good purpose or not, being a lie will inevitably hinder honesty.
Because if you tell a white lie, the white lie will be found later. Then people who are deceived by white lies will be more sad.
Honesty and trustworthiness are the beautiful qualities of Chinese children, and we can't destroy the beautiful qualities of China just because some people tell some white lies.
Lies are called lies because they are false, untrue and deceptive words. If a person often lies in his mouth to deceive others, he will lose people's trust over time. We still think so-a lie is a lie after all, no matter how good it is.
A lie is still a lie after all. This is an unchangeable fact. No matter what lies you tell, they are all lies. People should be honest and not lie, even white lies. ...
Tell an honest story
1. Young people successfully keep their promises.
There was a young man in America whose father died young, leaving a pile of debts. The young man didn't use his father's death as an excuse to avoid debt like others. Instead, he visited his creditors one by one, hoping that they would give him a grace period to ensure that he would pay off all his debts for his father. The creditors are very sympathetic to the young man's experience and have indicated that they can postpone the return.
Through 20 years of hard work, the young man paid off all the debts left by his father, even paying interest. People who know these things are very moved, and at the same time deeply feel that this young man is a man of his word, so they all come to him to cooperate in business. As a result, young people later achieved great success.
Be sure to deliver the goods on time.
The IBM computer company in the United States has developed rapidly in the past hundred years, relying on the high sense of responsibility of the company's service personnel and the virtue of abiding by integrity.
One day, a user in Phoenix urgently needed to rebuild the computer accessories of the multifunctional database. When the company learned about it, it immediately sent female employees to deliver it. There was a downpour on the way, and the river surged, flooding the 14 bridge along the way. The traffic jam prevented the car from moving. According to common sense, under this special circumstance, the female employee had every reason to return to the company, but she didn't do so. What she thinks is that the company has promised its customers that it will do it anyway. At this time, if she returns to the company, the reputation of the company may be damaged. Thinking of this, she skated to her destination with a pair of roller skates originally stored in the car. It usually takes only 20 minutes to drive, but today it has become a four-hour trek. After the female staff arrived at the user's location, regardless of the fatigue of the journey, they solved the user's problems in time.
It is with the responsible attitude and honest behavior of employees that IBM has won the praise of the majority of users.
3. the wolf is coming
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There is no saying that white lies are beautiful. When we tell some little lies for the happiness and hope of others, lies become understanding, respect and tolerance, which has magical power.
When I read the American short story The Last Leaf, my eyes are always moist. When the sick old man looked at the dead leaves and was desolate and desperate, the loving painter decorated the withered tree of life with a carefully sketched green leaf, thus maintaining a dying light of life. Isn't this the acme of lies?
Lies out of good wishes are the nourishment of life and the source of faith. It makes people ignite the fire of hope from the heart and firmly believe that there is love, trust and emotion in the world, thus finding more reasons to laugh at life. White lies endow humanity with spirituality, reflect the delicacy of emotions and the maturity of thoughts, and urge people to be strong and persistent, to fight for it involuntarily, and finally to overcome their fragility and survive.
A lie from parents makes a child's face bloom like a flower; The teacher's lies make the wandering students no longer confused and grow better; The doctor's lies make the fearful patient move from destruction to rebirth. ...
A white lie does not hinder honesty at all. Don't think that white lies will hinder honesty, because as long as you think of others, white lies are precious, which will neither cause a crisis of trust, nor pollute civilization, nor distort human nature.
White lies have magical power, encouraging you to make progress again and again, and never giving up for your dreams. Because the future road is completely illuminated by happy mood, life becomes better.
If confession is a mistake, I choose lies.
If telling the truth, being frank and being reckless is a kind of harm, I choose lies.
If it's for yourself or others to stop suffering and sadness, what's the harm of a little more lies?
straight
Lies are called "lies" because they are false, untrue and deceptive words. If a person often lies in his mouth to deceive others, he will lose people's trust over time. Just like the children in "Lying Children", they cry "Wolf" every day, seeking excitement and happiness. When the wolf does come, he has to face it alone and bear it alone. No matter how much he shouts, it won't help, and no one will come to help him again. Because people who might come to help him are used to his yelling and think that he is "teasing you" again. It can be seen that lies hinder honesty
Today, I am very happy to put forward my own views on the debate whether white lies hinder integrity. The following are our views:
There is no doubt that a white lie is itself a lie. Lies, lying is cheating, cheating is immoral, immoral things are unpopular. These are all instilled by teachers since childhood. But we ask ourselves, who hasn't lied? For our relatives, friends or strangers, there are many purposes, but when we add "goodwill" to a lie, it seems that everyone can accept it, which is the concentrated expression of human weakness.
Mark? Twain once said, "When you can't make up your mind, tell the truth. It will embarrass your opponent and make your friends feel relieved. " So the psychologist's point of view is: don't lie easily, even if it is a white lie.
I think one should be honest.
White lies often mislead people and make them make wrong judgments.
And your kindness may be different from what others think. No one has the right to interfere with the freedom of others.
Many things should be faced by yourself, and others should not interfere (a white lie is information interference. )
Do you think it is a white lie, will others think so?
Are you sure that your point of view is correct? To do so is to change others' wishes and interfere with others' freedom with their own subjective will.
Because white lies interfere with others, are you wrong or right?
Even a white lie, as a lie itself, is a violation of honesty. Therefore, whether a lie is for a good purpose or not, as a lie itself will inevitably hinder honesty. So, I want to speak out here, let's reject white lies and build an honest society together.