1, when facing the patient, it is a real empathy, and it has a sense of * * * with the patient, and walks into the patient's heart, so that the patient can feel the true feelings in body language and other aspects, and it is a real individual; Many patients are mentally ill, unhappy, unwilling to talk and communicate, and bury themselves deeply in their own world. At this time, if the psychological counselor does not form a good knowledge with the patient, resulting in * * *, there is no way to conduct psychological counseling.
Therefore, in order to do this, psychological counselors should be exposed to the pluralistic world, feel the ups and downs of life, have a compassionate mentality and emotional psychological quality, and truly feel * * * with patients.
2, * * * * and patients, that is a professional psychological counselor should have skills, not necessarily really empathy, but involves communication and treatment, * * * is a psychological counselor should have the most basic professional quality, is the basic professional nature.
When there are psychological patients in this family, I need to find a psychological counselor. I think we must find the first one. This kind of empathy communication, this kind of persuasion with the soul, can really cure the patients and is also the most effective.
Empathy, also known as empathy and empathy, is also translated as empathy, empathy and empathy.
* * * Emotion was put forward by Rogers, the founder of humanism, which refers to the ability to experience the inner world of others. Contains three meanings:
1. The psychological counselor goes deep into the other person's heart and experiences his feelings and thoughts with the help of the words and deeds of the helper;
2. With the help of knowledge and experience, the consultant grasps the relationship between the experience of the helper and his experience and personality, and better understands the essence of the problem;
3. Counselors use consulting skills to convey their feelings to each other, thus influencing each other and getting feedback.
* * * Love means a lot.
1. Counselors can put themselves in the person's shoes and master the materials more accurately.
2. Help-seekers will feel that they are understood and accepted, so they will feel happy and satisfied, which will have a positive impact on the consulting relationship.
3. It promotes the self-expression and self-exploration of help seekers, thus achieving more self-understanding and deeper communication between the two sides.
4. For those who are in urgent need of understanding, care and emotional talk, it has more obvious counseling effect.
On the one hand, * * * love is a skill, which requires consultants to receive continuous training and learn all kinds of knowledge and skills in order to better understand visitors from as many angles as possible.
But on the other hand, it is also a part of the psychological counselor's own personality traits. People with different personality characteristics have different empathy. It can also be said that people who are paranoid or too healthy are more difficult to feel and experience many difficult emotions.
There is a saying that the best psychological counselor is a neurotic patient after treatment. He has a natural ability to love.
When we were just studying, the teacher often told a joke. If a schizophrenic insists on not holding an umbrella in the rain and says he is a mushroom, then your best feeling is that he is also a mushroom without an umbrella.
Rogers said that love is to understand another person's experience in this world as if you were that person. But at the same time, you should always remember that you and he are still different; You just understand that person, not become him. Affection also means letting the person you love know that you understand him.
In fact, the counselor is just trying to understand the visitors and can't fully understand their feelings. He needs constant feedback and adjustment to take better care of tourists.
But everyone who has consulted knows that emotional feelings are actually energetic, just as we cry when we see sad scenes in novels and TV dramas, and laugh when we are happy. When we communicate, about 65% of the information comes from non-verbal information. For counselors, it actually includes some emotional feelings.
Different schools have different requirements for the degree of affection. Classical psychoanalysis generally requires the counselor to sit behind the couch of the visitor, in fact, in order to prevent the counselor from over-intervening.
With the development of psychological counseling industry, many schools increasingly require the participation of counselors. Existentialism emphasizes that at this moment, maybe the counselor will hug the visitor and clap his hands when necessary. There is also sand table therapy, which needs the high favor of psychological counselors. Visitors cry, counselors cry.
To put it bluntly, the psychological counselor's emotional ability is actually a mirror through which you can see yourself.
At the beginning of the establishment of counseling relationship, we need the affection of psychological counselors to make us feel warm, understood and seen. This kind of understanding and seeing can often make us feel pain and someone can share it with us. But more often, the role of the mirror becomes more important.
We need to be seen and understood, and more importantly, we need to be able to see ourselves more clearly and see the truth behind things.
The above is my understanding of your question.
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It is a professional nature to enter the industry. A qualified consultant will bring himself into the visitor's economy and feel the visitor's experience personally. If he or she has experienced this experience and the feelings expressed by the visitor, he or she will also feel and understand him or her together. This part needs standardized training (long-term training), self-consultation (personal experience), peer supervision and supervisor supervision, which takes time to achieve. I'm halfway through the consultation on ok * * * 1/3 (the data is my personal feeling).
A: * * * Emotion plays a very important role in psychological counseling. It is a kind of empathy and vibrates at the same frequency as the visitors. In this way, the counselor can truly experience and feel the inner activities of the visitors, and also make the visitors feel truly understood and accepted, thus promoting the consultation process. * * * Love is a real feeling, not a noun. It is an essential ability for psychological counselors.
Need to feel the emotions of visitors. Look at the problem from the perspective of visitors and break through their own values, cognitive structure and growth experience.
Psychological consultation is a practical work, not a purely theoretical work.
The process of consultation is to help visitors achieve personal growth and transcendence, and then adapt to this society and accept themselves better. In fact, it is to realize the blooming of visitors' lives and stimulate their self-potential.
So * * * love is a very important ability.
I'm glad to answer your question.
In the process of counseling, different counseling schools and counselors have different feelings about visitors. Generally speaking, most counselors' feelings require "half truth and half falsehood".
1. Half-truth and half-falsehood: It means that psychological counselors should put themselves in the visitor's shoes as much as possible, communicate with the visitor's mind, vibrate at the same frequency, and produce * * * sounds. This can make visitors better understood and accepted, which is conducive to the establishment of a good consulting relationship between the two sides. Without true, sincere and sincere feelings, visitors will feel estranged and distrustful of consultants, so they will remain vigilant and have many obstacles in consultation, and it is difficult to open the closed heart door.
2. Half-holiday: However, unlike other relatives and friends, psychological counselors need to maintain a "suspended self" and observe what happens in the consulting room while falling in love. This is out of the need of professional nature. Psychological counselors need to perceive, perceive and accept the emotions of visitors. His cognitive range is far greater than that of visitors. He must be able to tolerate the emotions of visitors and have a high level of psychological understanding and emotional control, so as to really guide visitors effectively.
In fact, no * * * feelings can completely copy and superimpose the thoughts and feelings of visitors. After all, they are two different people with completely different life experiences. Therefore, when you are in love, you can devote yourself as much as possible without reminding yourself to stay awake or alert. After all, the inner consulting clock will remind you that it is actually impossible to completely forget yourself.
Of course, the so-called "involvement" problem occurs because the psychological counselor's own problems are not handled well, not the fault of consulting technology.
Therefore, * * * requires counselors to be both true and false, half true and half false, half drunk and half awake.
* * * Emotion is a necessary skill for psychological counselors in consultation. He (she) can deeply feel the personal feelings of visitors, so as to better treat them and find out the reasons for their illness. So the feeling is that the counselor really feels the "emotion" of the visitors.
No occupation can have this nature. * * * Emotion refers to emotion. Emotion can't be technology, otherwise it is fake or disguised. Such a consultant is nothing more than a typical liar.
* * * Emotion is one of the skills of establishing counseling relationship in psychological counseling. Like respect, enthusiasm, sincerity and positive concern, it is not a simple tool or means, but a manifestation of the consultant's professional philosophy and humanity. It is an important basis for establishing a good relationship between consultation and visiting.
* * * Emotional ability is innate, and a person is born. For example, the origin of a secret person is love. You will follow the pain of others and want to help them solve this pain. Isn't that what a consultant should do? If you are happy that the visitor is suffering, then why do you consult? Generally speaking, most of the antisocial personalities in prisons are: I am glad that others are suffering, so the evil of crime can easily breed and be locked up.
So we can't unilaterally understand whether it is a feeling or just a professional nature.
In the vocational skills training of psychological counselors, there is a basic skill called * * * emotion, which is to put yourself in the visitor's shoes in order to establish a good consulting relationship and improve the consulting effect.
Some training institutions have also made great efforts in this regard. In the training course, let students practice and apply in consultation, for example, speak with scale to understand the feelings of visitors.
But the actual effect is often not ideal. Many consultants are puzzled. I did a good job. Why didn't the consultation work, or did I do it once and then dropped it? So I did the next round of training. After the training, the results are basically the same. I don't know what the problem is.
I think the key problem is that when consulting, there is no communication around the confusion of visitors. Visitors pay for consultants to help them get rid of their pain and return to their normal work and study, instead of listening to a few words of breeze and drizzle. In this respect, consultants are not comparable to hotel front desk service personnel and public relations personnel.
If the counselor understands the formation mechanism of mental illness, students' learning disabilities, the causes of visitors' pain, the laws and characteristics of mental illness attacks, and communicates with visitors around symptoms, visitors can feel that you understand him and even find a savior. Even if your words are rough, the negotiation can go on and achieve results.