I have a sister-in-law, who is very smart since she was a child. She is a "strong woman" with a very strong personality. Therefore, after her daughter Qian Qian was born, she wanted to go out and fight for a career in less than half a year, so she left Qian Qian at her grandparents' home. Usually her grandparents never ask her how to take care of the baby. As a result, her sister-in-law regretted it after her child went to kindergarten.
On this day, as usual, she went to school early to pick up her children from school. Turns out she was in the ladies' room. She heard her daughter's head teacher and another teacher vomit and say, "A clever child in our class can't bear to look at her directly because of her low emotional intelligence. At first glance, her parents didn't teach her well. " Sister-in-law has a bad temper and is angry with the teacher for speaking ill of the child behind his back. She rushed out at once, didn't give the teacher a good face, and gave it.
The teacher was caught red-handed and didn't say anything for a while. I didn't send a message to my sister-in-law until the evening, saying that it was really wrong for the child to carry her back, but the reason why I said this was not because I hated children, but because I liked them. It's a pity for children, because she said that children's emotional intelligence is low, which is really not an expression, but a well-founded one.
Then the teacher told her sister-in-law that Qian Qian reacted quickly in class and soon understood what the teacher said. She is a very clever child, but she always offends people by talking, which often makes teachers and classmates embarrassed. Not long ago, in physical education class, their class, when a janitor passed by the children, all the other children were silent. Only Qian Qian shouted: "This uncle stinks, doesn't he usually take a bath?" This embarrassed both teachers and uncles. Moreover, Qian Qian always likes to taunt children in class, calling others stupid and giving others various nicknames. As a result, after a long time, everyone didn't want to talk to Qian Qian, and no one played games with Qian Qian. Therefore, the teacher said he was in the toilet, but in fact he was worried about Qian Qian.
After listening to the teacher's words, Sister-in-law began to reflect on herself and pay attention to Qian Qian's education. Later, under the education of her sister-in-law, Qian Qian became more and more emotional and was unanimously recognized by the teachers and classmates in the class. She not only made good friends, but also was elected as the group leader not long ago.
So why can Mr. Qian Qian see the performance of children with low EQ in Qian Qian? For this reason, I specially consulted an old headmaster who has taught for many years. As a result, the old man told me that in fact, children with low emotional intelligence often have these four manifestations, which can't be hidden for simple children.
With the improvement of people's material living standards, most families are more pampered with their children and basically meet their requirements, especially the one-child families. Over time, children get used to being self-centered and don't think much about other people's feelings. When such children get along with others, they are easily isolated because of their low emotional intelligence.
We often see some children who will lose their temper when they encounter something that is not suitable for them. In fact, such a child's emotional intelligence is very low, and he may not feel it in front of his parents and elders, because his family will let him go, but once he is outside, it will cause resentment from others and hit a wall everywhere.
In primary school, a female classmate in the class especially liked to laugh at others behind their backs and gossip about others. She often gives various nicknames to her classmates around her. After a long time, everyone began to alienate her. Finally, the girl had to go through the transfer formalities in a despondent way. In the final analysis, this girl's performance is "low emotional intelligence"
Sister-in-law's daughter, Qian Qian, belongs to this type of low EQ. There are many such people in life. They either speak freely, regardless of the occasion, and say whatever they want, and the result is that the sinner doesn't know it; Either the speech is particularly ugly, always harsh, even if it is well-meaning, it is very uncomfortable.
I have to say that children with low emotional intelligence will actually suffer a lot, whether at school or in society in the future. As a parent, once you find that your child has any of the above performances, remember to correct and guide them in time. Otherwise, children will not only be frustrated in their study and life, but also their future will be affected.
In fact, if parents want to improve their children's emotional intelligence, the key is to cultivate their children's expressive ability from an early age and let them learn to speak. Qian Qian, the daughter of Sister-in-law, changed so much later because Sister-in-law learned what to say on any occasion by showing her children this picture book "Expression of Love", and that she should not always be sarcastic when speaking, but should consider the problem from the other side's perspective.
There are eight books in this schoolbag, such as Don't be impatient, speak appropriately, Don't be impatient, think about it, Listen attentively and wait patiently, Don't be shy, speak boldly, Don't be angry, speak well and speak bravely. Every book is a practical way of speaking, suitable for children's real life experience. Improve children's expressive ability.
Moreover, the book is also equipped with lovely illustrations with bright colors and vivid images, which can attract children's attention, stimulate children's interest in reading, let children naturally indulge in the story, and naturally understand and grasp the content of the story will become profound and firm. It is much more useful than simple preaching by adults.
According to her sister-in-law, Qian Qian, her family, made great progress soon after she first came into contact with this book. Qian Qian, who likes bossing her grandparents around at ordinary times, has also become much more filial. The teacher has repeatedly praised Qian Qian for his good performance in class, his earnest attention and getting along with the children more and more harmoniously. In addition, Qian Qian has developed a good habit of reading. Every night before going to bed, she will take the initiative to prepare books for her sister-in-law.
If your family also has children aged 3-8, and if you also want to change the children's personality problems and improve their emotional intelligence, then you can order a set of picture books expressing love now. This set of books is now on sale in Baidu Store. It's really cost-effective to buy 8 books as long as they are in 58 yuan. Parents must not miss it. Ok, that's all for today. See you next time.