People have different understandings of cheating, which can be roughly divided into two types: emotional cheating and physical cheating. Some people think that emotional infidelity is even more unbearable, because he completely betrayed each other emotionally; Some people think that physical infidelity is more despicable, because it means that the body is dirty. Because people have different definitions of infidelity, various statistical results about infidelity cannot be agreed.
Generally speaking, more and more people will gradually get tired of the current partnership. Whether it is because of incompatible values or seeking fresh excitement, it seems more and more common for people to cheat.
According to statistics, 95% of mammals love to "cheat". Some animals fight with each other for the right to mate, and eventually the winner will gain leadership and mating rights.
Females also tend to mate with the strongest ones to maintain the reproduction of the race and ensure the quality of the population. Throughout human history, monogamy has only occupied a short period of time. In the history of China, as long as men are powerful and able to bear the expenses of many families, most of them have several wives, with one room, two rooms and three rooms. And the emperor, as the head of a country, is a harem beauty of 3 thousand. In modern times, due to the introduction of national policies, it was regarded as a bad habit and changed to monogamy.
Therefore, many people think that the reason why people are willing to accept the one-on-one mode of getting along with each other is more because they are influenced or restricted by social culture and policy system. Compared with other species and human history, it may not be so difficult to understand that derailment is human nature.
With the development of the Internet, various social media have sprung up. Therefore, in addition to emotional derailment and physical derailment, more new ways of derailment are mentioned. For example, sending ambiguous messages to netizens, adding strange friends of the opposite sex to various dating apps, marrying and having children with netizens in the game, or brushing gifts for an anchor may all be considered cheating.
Some people think that heterosexual communication on the internet is not cheating, because the internet only increases the possibility of people cheating and broadens the channels for people to cheat. With the improvement of people's living standards, the communication between the opposite sex is not only for sex, but also to meet each other's spiritual needs.
However, everyone has their own advantages and disadvantages. At the beginning of a relationship, they will think that each other is good and ignore their own shortcomings. Later, as the love time became longer, they began to find each other's shortcomings and felt that the other party could no longer meet their spiritual needs, so they derailed to solve their inner loneliness.
In addition, people's sexual attitudes are also changing. From the previous marriage to sexual life, it has become the concept of free sexual life now. Therefore, the age of first contact is also decreasing. Some people even have multiple sexual partners. Although the trendy ideas are spreading, for most people, cheating is still a matter of principle and unforgivable.
Cheating in love will destroy the feelings of two people. If it escalates to arbitration, each other's families may be implicated. But when things get extremely bad, there may be a turning point, and cheating may become a new starting point for their relationship.
What should I do if I find out that the other party is cheating? As mentioned earlier, different people have different understandings of derailment and different reasons. After the other half cheated, we should not blame him first, but find out the real reason why the other half cheated.
Is he tired of having sex with himself and looking for new excitement? Or do they want to get rid of this relationship because they always quarrel? Or did he really move on and fall in love with another woman? Sometimes, even the other person's own heart is not clear.
If it's just to make you reflect on your own shortcomings and make you jealous in torture, I hope you understand that feelings are not easy, then his way is not correct, but wouldn't it be a pity to break up in a fit of pique?
For most of us, cheating is a cross-border behavior, which is not surprising. It hurts our feelings and betrays our partner's trust. I hope that through these discussions, we can have a deeper understanding of cheating and better solve similar problems.