In fact, what women often want is a loyal "audience".
As long as a man is willing to listen, she feels concerned, respected and loved, which is enough. If men are "enthusiastic" to "analyze", "guide" and "correct", most of them will end up doing bad things with good intentions.
As I said at the beginning, what women often want is a loyal "audience", that's all.
3, regardless of primary and secondary, putting the cart before the horse: in the eyes of men, it seems that work and children are more important. In this way, men will inadvertently ignore the importance of women's feelings and needs, and even say that she is "out of thin air" and "making a mountain out of a molehill". Can this have a good result? Of course not. In fact,
Many problems in life are not problems, but "fake problems". The real question is "Are women's feelings respected?" .
Family, even as an important carrier of quality of life, is a particularly important determinant of quality of life. 4. forgotten etiquette: women are angry about something, and men don't know how to swallow their anger and calm things down, so they make excuses to escape the relationship. He denies women's feelings and blocks the channels for women to vent their emotions. 5, egoism, male chauvinism
Based on the above situation, imagine: if a man doesn't respect her, care about her, comfort her, support her, understand her and be considerate of her, can this woman feel love? If there is no feeling of love and being loved between husband and wife, their dialogue and communication will lose their proper foundation, and the contradiction between husband and wife will come unexpectedly.
Second, in the daily communication between husband and wife, women are prone to make the following six kinds of mistakes: 1, pretentious: when a man does not make a request, a woman takes the initiative to make suggestions to help him or reform his behavior. 2. Speak with emotion: Women show unhappiness, disappointment or frustration to hint and remind men to make changes. If men fail to realize and respond positively in time, women will be even more sad and even hysterical. 3, nitpicking: women do not recognize a man's efforts, but complain about his shortcomings and deficiencies. 4. The role of "mentor"
Women do not allow men to "act rashly" and advocate more "communication" and "more", in fact, they have mastered the decision-making power. If men make their own decisions, it is easy for women to correct and criticize them.
The above can also be summarized in one sentence:
Women forget loveliness.
. Imagine: If a woman doesn't trust him, isn't sure about him, doesn't recognize him, doesn't appreciate him, doesn't appreciate him and doesn't encourage him, can this man feel love? If there is no feeling of love and being loved between husband and wife, their dialogue and communication will lose their proper foundation, and the contradiction between husband and wife will come unexpectedly.
Conflicts between husband and wife will come unexpectedly. I want to sum it up in one sentence:
Men forget manners, women forget loveliness.
There is no gratitude between each other, and there is only one result: you see me unhappy, I see you unhappy, and negative emotions emerge one after another. Of course, the contradiction between husband and wife has risen again and again.
Therefore, I often say that my understanding of "love" is: take care of each other's feelings, be grateful to each other, shoulder responsibilities and have good expectations.
Love = feeling+gratitude+responsibility+expectation+two-way.
Changsha Professional Psychologist/Psychological Counseling Expert
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