1. People's affairs can show a person's character better than interviews or friends' comments.
Understanding a person requires us to find a way to jump from one level to another, instead of traveling on the same plane.
It is not easy to create places that interest observers, such as bedrooms and offices. Because over time, these places have accumulated a lot of information.
4. The key to the successful application of traditional viewpoints is to regard them as valid assumptions, and once other information is obtained, these traditional viewpoints can be abandoned.
5. Observation gives us unique insight and makes us know others more keenly.
Dr. Gosling conducted a room observation experiment in 1997, which proved that private space will reveal personality information, because people always leave their personality in private space intentionally or unintentionally through behavior.
Personal space and objects mainly transmit personality information to the outside world through three expression mechanisms, namely: identity tag, mood regulator and behavior trace.
Identity labels refer to labels posted in private space in some way, such as posters, award certificates, wedding photos, souvenirs and so on. Emotional regulator refers to an ornament or object that regulates emotions and thoughts. If you see a butterfly specimen, you will associate it with good memories. Behavior trace refers to the physical trace left by people's behavior to the surrounding environment.
Big Five personality theory is the most widely used personality system in the field of psychology at present, including five personality dimensions: openness, responsibility, extroversion, agreeableness and neuroticism. Its advantage lies in that all people have their own scores in five dimensions, which can be used to compare the scores of A and B, and can also compare the scores of A in different dimensions to combine more diverse personality analysis results. It is most suitable as a personality analysis tool to recognize people by things.
According to Dan mcadams, a personality psychologist, the psychological level is divided into three layers, namely, characteristics, individual concern and identity. Really understanding a person is a process from the first layer to the third layer.
Features are equivalent to "first impression", tall and thin, beautiful and handsome, friendly and enthusiastic; Personal concerns contain more detailed background information; Identity is the core of personality, which is difficult to get in touch with in daily conversation and communication, but private space often reveals this information.
There is no standard answer to room observation research, and the most basic method is "Belgian method", that is, according to the actual situation, comprehensively analyze the clues found in different places, and then confirm each other, and at the same time combine the existing research results of psychologists and anthropologists to finally form a coherent and complete conclusion.
Books, music, chat records, body movements, eyes and expressions, cars, emails and personal web pages can all find effective clues to reveal personality information.
Instinctively, human beings, like most animals, will show their best side as much as possible within their own capabilities to make themselves more attractive. On the one hand, I try my best to show my kindness, even if I wear a mask of disguise. On the other hand, I hope to see the true face of others and don't want to be confused. Psychologists' investigation and experiments on excessive claims prove that people do lie in order to show themselves better.
Even if human beings have the instinct of "pretending to be excellent", all camouflage will be flawed.
First of all, because most traces of behavior are unconscious behaviors, it is difficult to completely erase or reconstruct them. Therefore, it is more valuable to look at people through private space and objects than to listen to other people's words or comments.
Secondly, everyone's attitude towards life is the same, so the criteria for evaluating things are different. It is almost impossible to pretend to be another person through private space and objects.
Everyone grows up in different regions and receives different education and culture, which will form specific inherent concepts. In observation, we should make rational use of the inherent concept, do not draw arbitrary conclusions, and look for other evidence to support or deny this concept. When observing private space and objects, it is necessary to ensure that all kinds of information can confirm each other. If you find that the state of an object is motivated, you should be highly vigilant.
Learn how to crack the smoke screen, including not being confused by first impressions, integrating inconsistent clues, skillfully using irrelevant clues, paying attention to differences and knowing yourself.
At ordinary times, we should constantly expand our knowledge, compare different spaces and objects, consult professionals when encountering problems, or directly ask the room owner questions, accumulate rich experience and improve the observation level.
Private space reflects our emotions and our inner needs. Understanding others is a basic human need. When we reveal the truth of personality through observation, we are also deepening our understanding of our true self.