1. convince doting parents again.
"Pet" parents often spoil their children too much, fail to see their shortcomings and even protect them.
Xiao Xin's grades are average, his family is well-off, and his parents are in business. One day, when I was in a self-study class, sweet music suddenly sounded. It turned out that he secretly brought his mobile phone to school. To this end, I had a long and sincere conversation with him. I encouraged him and tried to get him out of the virtual QQ chat world. When talking to me, he repeatedly promised that he would never do this again, but a few days later, he found that he had brought his mobile phone to school again.
After several contacts with his parents, I found that his parents repeatedly emphasized to me: "Xiao Xin is fine at home and doesn't let us worry about it at ordinary times. She never plays with' bad students' and never goes to Internet cafes. The only requirement is to have a mobile phone, and of course we will satisfy him. Although his grades are average, we are very satisfied ... "So I changed the way of communication according to their characteristics of" justifying one's faults ". At the beginning of the conversation, I fully affirmed the advantages of Xiao Xin, guided them to understand their children's shortcomings, talked to them about their expectations of their children, and then guided them to pay attention to Xiao Xin's education. I collected some cases of students indulging in mobile phone and QQ chat, and analyzed them together to guide them to see its harm. After several times, my parents began to actively cooperate with my work.
2. Give advice to parents who beat and scold.
"Beating and cursing" parents are mostly caused by the psychology of "hating iron and not producing steel" and ignorance of education.
Fan Xiao has excellent grades and good family conditions. His father is impatient and strict with him. My classmates told me that Fan Xiao is always impulsive at ordinary times, and whenever there is any small contradiction, he will use "force" to solve it. On one occasion, Fan Xiao and Xiao Jie had an argument, and they wrestled together. Fan Xiao is very strong, put Xiao Jie on his body and hit Xiao Jie on the forehead with his fist. Later, Fan Xiao's father got a call from me and rushed to school. As soon as he entered the office, he shouted angrily, "What are you doing? Kill a classmate? You disappointing child ... "He raised his hand to hit Fan Xiao. I quickly stopped him, invited him to an empty office next to me, asked him to sit down and poured him a glass of water. Tell him some cases of negative educational effects brought by rude education methods, and analyze the subtle influence of his behavior on children. After that, I often send him some correct educational methods by SMS. Slowly, Fan Xiao has changed. Even if there is a small conflict, he can take the initiative to take a step back.
Parents who give up should be encouraged.
Parents who give up are often heartbroken about their children's achievements in primary school and lose confidence in their children.
Xiao Qi's first exam in junior high school was "Red Lantern" in all subjects. Later, I learned that in primary school, his grades were not good. When communicating with his mother for the first time, the first thing she said was: "Teacher, I know that the children's grades are poor, which has caused you trouble ..." I told her that children can't be measured by their grades, and you should know that every child has his bright spots. I also told her that this semester, Xiao Qi served as the labor committee member of the class, because he always picked up garbage in the classroom and worked actively. I gradually let parents see their children's advantages, their progress and their hopes. Although you mention your child's shortcomings to your parents, don't say too much at once and avoid saying things like "this child is really stupid". Gradually, my parents have confidence in Xiao Qi, and they communicate with me actively from time to time to cooperate with my work.
4. Re-communicate with "cooperative" parents.
"Cooperative" parents are usually more concerned about their children and more reasonable.
Xiao Lin, with excellent grades, has been a monitor for many years. She is a very capable class cadre, helping the teacher to manage the class in order, and at the same time, she is trying to learn her lessons. Parents are proud of her and pay close attention to her thoughts. Always take the initiative to communicate with me
For her parents, I always report the situation of Xiaolin to them truthfully, and take the initiative to ask them to put forward educational measures and handling opinions first, and listen carefully. Because they attach great importance to children's education, observing children's performance is often more in-depth, detailed and specific than me, so I listen to their suggestions with an open mind. Of course, while listening, I will calmly analyze, and Xiao Lin's understanding is getting better and better.
5. Smile at "questioning" parents
"Questioning" parents are generally aggressive and accuse the teacher of being wrong.
Xiaojun, introverted, usually quiet, is always bullied by some naughty classmates in the class. This time, his father came into my office angrily and said, "Teacher, how do you manage students?"? Our little army doesn't make trouble. Did you notice his hand? " I was beaten black and blue by my classmates ... "When I heard this, I felt wronged for myself. I usually spend a lot of time educating students to live in peace, but the effect is minimal. However, he is angry, and I can't be "hard" to "hard". So I restrained my anger and said with a smile, "Don't be angry. Come and sit down. Have a glass of water first. "You know, in interpersonal communication, the charm of a smile is endless. It is like a huge magnet attracting iron, which makes people unable to refuse. I won the favor of my parents at once. His tone softened and he said, "Teacher, I know it's not easy for you either. However, it is not a good thing that our children are always bullied. "Next, our communication will be much smoother.