An accidental accident may break up a marriage, and the sudden appearance of a third party may make someone want a divorce.
In most marriages and families, when things are calm, everyone has enough reason to believe that he is happy and strong. However, when one of the couples changes his mind, the other will find himself very fragile and powerless in front of it.
Tears can touch a person in marriage. But in the heart of someone who feels the same way, even if you cry your tears dry, that person will not sympathize with you. Even if they were once loving couples, people who changed their minds would not care about that relationship.
First, many people's marriages were beautiful before.
Seeing a man's message of more than 4000 words, there is bitterness and sadness between the lines. He said he didn't know what to do. He was ruined by his wife who wanted a divorce. She has been away from home for two weeks, and she will never come back unless she agrees to divorce.
The man's name is Mr. Sun, and 12 got married. At the age of 36, he is coming to the end of his marriage. He knew that his wife didn't want to live with him. She admitted that she was in love with someone else and did everything. She just wants a divorce as soon as possible.
Mr. Sun's marriage experience is very profound, which may enlighten some men: marriage can't go on, and you should learn to stop loss.
In Mr. Sun's mind, his wife Xiaoxue has always been a virtuous, caring and hardworking woman. However, since the 0/0 anniversary of marriage/kloc-,Xiaoxue attended a class reunion and traveled with several classmates, and her heart gradually changed.
Xiaoxue, who came back from traveling, seems to be no longer so family-oriented. When she got home, she lay on the sofa and chatted with others. Mr. Sun often finds Xiaoxue having an affair with others. Whenever Mr. Sun is angry with her, Xiaoxue always says it's a joke. Don't take it seriously She stopped talking when she was tired.
Mr. Sun feels very uncomfortable, and he has seriously thought about why Xiaoxue likes to say ambiguous words. Maybe I spent too little time with her and ignored her feelings.
In Mr. Sun's view, Xiaoxue is his wife after all. She has been married 10 years. It's not easy for her to be with herself from dating to now 14 years. If she has second thoughts, she won't last 14 years. Since she said it was a joke, Mr. Sun chose to trust her unconditionally, as long as he didn't talk too much about the language, he didn't care.
Mr. Sun said: Actually, I'm a little proud. I also feel vain to see her praised for her beauty, because she belongs to me, not to others. I feel embarrassed when others praise her for her beauty.
Second, the trust of husband and wife for many years has been destroyed.
Xiaoxue and the man talked intermittently 1 year, but Mr. Sun never cared. At that time, Xiaoxue was gentle and still virtuous, caring for her family. When others praise her for her beauty, she will also show Mr. Sun her mobile phone to show off her charm.
But Xiaoxue always works overtime at night and often goes home at midnight for more than two months. Mr. Sun began to get nervous. Whenever he asks Xiaoxue why he always works overtime, Xiaoxue asks him: I don't want to work overtime either. I am an old couple. How did you learn to be suspicious?
At that time, I thought she was right, too, Mr. Sun said. Maybe I worry too much. My wife is a strong businesswoman, so it is normal to work overtime. I trust her again. At least, there is not much doubt about her.
Time is running out. One night, Mr. Sun received a phone call from his sister.
Sister asked Mr. Sun: Has Xiaoxue gone home?
Mr. Sun was surprised. Why does my sister ask such a question? Xiaoxue is still at work. Of course, it is impossible to go home so early. Brother and sister chatted for a while, and Mr. Sun's heart slowly hurt.
Mr. Sun said: My heart was broken that day. I finally know there is someone outside Xiaoxue. If my sister hadn't seen it with her own eyes, I couldn't believe that she would walk into the hotel hand in hand with others! I always thought she was working the night shift, but I didn't expect that she had been lying to me.
That day, my sister repeatedly told Mr. Sun that when Xiaoxue came home, she must talk well. Don't ask her if she can. Don't get emotional, let alone quarrel. Think about what to do first. Even if she is wrong, try not to expose her. Just watch her from now on. The child is too young to get into trouble.
Mr. Sun couldn't accept it, but he promised his sister that when Xiaoxue came back, he would pretend not to know.
Having said that, Mr. Sun was angry for the first time that day, and his trust in Xiaoxue was completely destroyed for many years.
Third, why does a man's good wife suddenly change?
That night, Mr. Sun didn't have a rest. He has been waiting, which is like a thorn in his heart. Xiaoxue didn't go home until 12. She was surprised when she came back and casually asked Mr. Sun why he hadn't rested.
Mr. Sun asked Xiaoxue: I heard that a man is very kind to you and often invites you to dinner. Can you tell me who he is? You have such a good friend, why didn't you tell me?
Xiaoxue said, that's an ordinary buddy I used to chat with. I'm afraid you will be jealous. What's the fuss? You are too stingy. It's getting late, hurry to rest, I have to work tomorrow.
Seeing Xiaoxue talking and laughing so calmly, Mr. Sun couldn't hold back his anger any longer, and roared out all his anger and questions.
Mr. Sun said in his message: I can't convince myself to calm down when I think of those ambiguous words that Xiaoxue said in the chat. I quarreled with her that day, said something unpleasant and hit her. I hope she denies it. At least I can lie to myself and save some dignity. But when I exposed her, she changed her face. She didn't even explain it, but admitted it all. Her speech is worse than mine.
Xiaoxue told Mr. Sun: You are right. I did everything with him, but we only had one child. I married you blindly and haven't loved you for two years. You will never know how happy I am with him. Now that you know he exists, let's get a divorce.
Mr. Sun was so angry that he slapped Xiaoxue several times. Xiaoxue cried for a while and left that night. When she left, she left a message waiting for a divorce.
Mr. Sun thought the marriage was over, and he was very sad. He didn't go after Xiaoxue that night, but sat alone on the sofa in a daze until dawn. He repeatedly thought that Xiaoxue has been a good wife and mother since she got married. Why did it suddenly become like this?
Mr. Sun can't figure it out. Xiaoxue spoiled one moment, and when she was exposed the next, she turned her face and denied people. He wants a divorce without even saying an apology!
Mr. Sun later realized that this was the result of a woman's change of heart. If you don't open it, you can still live. Once you open it, you will break the jar and fall.
Fourth, regret not stopping in time.
That night, Mr. Sun had already made plans for divorce, only waiting for Xiaoxue to come back to discuss the agreement. Although he wants to get her back, Mr. Sun knows the difficulties. His wife is no longer his original wife, so it is difficult to get her back.
But after Xiaoxue came back the next day, she never mentioned the divorce again, and even took the initiative to buy food for Mr. Sun and threw it on the table. Xiaoxue didn't mention the divorce, and Mr. Sun didn't dare to say it again. In the next few months, although the husband and wife always quarreled, the marriage was still there, and it went on like this.
During that time, Xiaoxue was a little stiff. She stopped working overtime and chatting.
Mr. Sun said: I was really timid. I admit that I am afraid of divorce. Since she doesn't talk about divorce, I dare not talk about it again. If I can, I will live first. I hope she will change her mind. As long as she stops making mistakes, I can slowly forget. Although my heart is very sour, there is no other better way. At least I'm still a family.
For the so-called change of heart, Mr. Sun paid 1.3 million yuan to build a new house for Xiaoxue's parents in his hometown. However, after the money was paid, Xiaoxue began to go her own way again. She continued to associate with that man, occasionally going home in the middle of the night and sometimes not going home at night.
Mr. Sun is in pain. He knows what his wife did outside. The little confidence that was finally restored suddenly vanished. As a man, he can't accept what his wife has done, but he can't make up his mind to divorce.
Mr. Sun said: I am lucky, I hope to live with her, and I hope that the man will dislike her. I don't care about anything as long as I don't get divorced. I can't live anymore, but I can't bear to part with her. If I gritted my teeth and divorced her earlier, I wouldn't lose everything. I regret not stopping loss in time, and I regret not getting divorced earlier.
Because of his thoughts, Mr. Sun is under great mental pressure. He couldn't concentrate on anything, and his wife's empathy completely ruined him.
After quarreling with his wife, Mr. Sun accidentally hit a tricycle while driving to work. He didn't react until after the collision. There is a family of three in the car.
The accident almost ruined Mr. Sun. Even if he sells the house, he can't afford it. During that time, he needed tens of thousands of dollars every day.
5. If you can't beat yourself, stop loss in time.
After Mr. Sun's accident, Xiaoxue cleared the relationship directly, and she gave all the money in Cary to her parents. Mr. Sun is disheartened. He wants to sell the house. But Xiaoxue doesn't agree to sell because the house is half of hers. If she doesn't agree, Mr. Sun can't sell it.
In desperation, Mr. Sun borrowed everyone he could, but it was still not enough.
However, at this time, Xiaoxue filed for divorce again. The reason for divorce is that you have to bear the disaster you created and pay back the money you borrowed. Don't delay my future. I have nothing to do with you for a long time!
Mr. Sun still remembers that he gave Xiaoxue's parents 1.3 million yuan to build a house, and he wanted it back. But Xiaoxue denied that it was his own money. Mr. Sun has no spare energy to argue with her at all, so he can only ask his colleagues for help and continue to borrow.
It took almost a month and a half, and Mr. Sun finally made up for the things at home, while Xiaoxue left without saying goodbye. Her purpose is to get divorced, and she won't come back until she gets divorced. If Mr. Sun agrees to divorce, she can come back and sign the house, and each person will pay half the money. If you don't agree to the divorce, you'll never sell the house.
Mr. Sun understands that even the house can't be sold. Without a miracle, he will never turn over. Married 12 years, once a happy couple, because of a foreign third party, it turned out to be like this!
Finally, Mr. Sun said, I don't know what to do. Divorce is ok. I want her back and get this over with. I admit it. But when I think of my 1 1 year-old son, what will he do without me? I can't be so stupid. I have to live with her.
Mr. Sun's experience is profound because he takes it for granted.
In fact, in the marriage crisis, some people can save it, while others can't. Everyone should understand that if you want to save a person, you must learn to control your emotions, otherwise, under strong mental pressure, the saved person will be more painful and prone to collapse.
If you can't beat yourself, you must learn to stop loss in time, because there is no turning back in life.