Is the iron rice bowl a "hot potato" on the blind date field? Although there are many blind date activities in the system, the success rate is limited.
"It is said that civil servants have drought and flood protection, and now girls are becoming more and more realistic." He said that the particularity of his work and the normalization of overtime prevented blind date. "A girl once said to me,' Every time you don't reply to my WeChat, I feel like a dog.' I also want to have time to get along well, but I have to give her an embarrassed and polite smile because I have to go out in the field. "
An interview with bimonthly reporters found that although there are many blind date activities in the current system, the success rate is limited, and the number of participants has declined in recent years.
Is the "iron rice bowl" on the blind date field a "hot cake"?
Xiao Chen, 28, works in a public institution in Hohhot, Inner Mongolia. Since 20 19, she has often participated in various collective blind date activities organized by women's federations and trade unions. She said that she had never paid attention to blind date before and felt "unable to get married", but because of her busy work and narrow circle, it was difficult to meet the opposite sex of the same age. So recently I began to change my mind and expand my circle of friends through blind date activities.
Chen Xiao and several female employees of the same company who participated in the blind date activities all said that they were more willing to accept the collective blind date activities organized by units within the system, which was "reliable and safe". "People in various institutions and institutions in the city have similar conditions to themselves and are more reliable than social blind date." Xiao Chen said.
Within the system, people work stably and blind date has certain advantages. In the words of Xiao Mu, a civil servant of a certain department in Xinjiang, it means "the state selects, inspects and manages you". Garfield, a civil servant in Urumqi, Xinjiang, believes that the popularity of the blind date market has actually dropped a lot due to the low income of civil servants. "If it is a male civil servant, it is more difficult to bear the pressure of buying a house."
Everyone is a "baby", who hasn't ordered a "small temper".
30-year-old Wan Ge works in the Party and Government Office of a state-owned enterprise in Jiangsu. He started dating on 20 18 and never met the only thrill. "For example, when I talked to my blind date about the topic of' the deepest place in the world', she didn't even know about the Mariana Trench! Maybe I am more' straight', and this kind of problem will reduce my impression here. "
Yaoyao, 26, works in a street office in Nanjing. After buying a house, her parents started dating. "Although I said no requirements, but the requirements are quite high. For example, watching a movie with a boy, if he squats, I will be very disgusted. "
"There are wonderful things every day, and there are many blind date people!" Lulu, 27, said. She is an editor of an official media. She holds the view that "the door is suitable for the household" and basically considers the issue of mate selection within the "system". "I thought that the blind date in the system could be more mature, but I didn't expect everyone to be a difficult baby." When she mentioned her blind date story, she was very angry: "Last year, I met an 86-year-old civil servant. I didn't say I was a monkey. He is a tiger. His mother thinks it will affect his promotion. Finally it is yellow. "
/kloc-Feifei, born in 1985, works in a bank in an eastern city and has a blind date office every week. She talks about blind date as a business, just like Party B's customers, or treats blind date as a stock to be selected, and then scores each stock, and the one with the highest score wins. "Blind date is negotiation. Sell it if you can. " Feifei said.
The organizer gives strength, and blind date is easier to succeed.
It is worth noting that blind date activities are held every year, but the success rate is very limited. In recent years, the number of participants showed a downward trend. In some units, since no one signed up for blind date activities, the organizers of the activities can only "fill in person".
According to Zhang Ning, secretary of the Communist Youth League Committee of a central organization, on the one hand, it is because boys after 1995 appeared in online activities, and they are shy and have low enthusiasm for actively participating in activities; On the other hand, some post-80s girls have never met someone they like, so they are gradually unwilling to participate.
The reporter learned that the way the organizers organize activities and personal participation have an important impact on the success of blind date. Hua Na, chairman of Ordos Women's Federation in Inner Mongolia, who organizes more than a dozen blind date activities every year, believes that the number of participants in a blind date activity should not be too large, and it is best to be within 50. If there are too many people, insufficient communication and few people, the staff can take full care of each participant and encourage them to participate in the activities.
"Try not to use the word' friendship' to reduce the feeling of' embarrassment'." Zhang Ning said, "We and the Organizing Committee of the Winter Olympics jointly organized a similar' between cities' activity, which allowed everyone to get in touch with each other in the competition, and the effect was OK."
Many people participate in blind date activities with high success rate. "There are a lot of people from the same unit. Everyone encouraged each other and started joking again, and it was not so embarrassing to contact each other. " Sun Xiao, a 28-year-old employee of China Railway Hohhot Bureau, said.