First, China's "sage" hates two things that people shake him. Needless to say, it has nothing to do with our generation; It is also his ethics, but our generation can't help but make a few comments occasionally, so it is implicated, and it has gained many notoriety such as "shovel ethics" and "animal behavior". They believe that fathers have absolute power and dignity over their sons; If I talk, of course not. My son has something to say, but he was wrong before he said it. However, grandparents and grandchildren were only the first pass of the bridge of life, and it is not easy to repair it. The present son is the future father and the future ancestor. I know that my generation and readers, if not their current fathers, must be alternate fathers, and they all have the hope of being ancestors. The difference is only once. In order to save a lot of trouble, we should be polite, get the upper hand first, show the dignity of our father, and talk about us and our children; Not only will it be implemented in the future, it will reduce the difficulty, but it is also natural in China, so that "saints" are not afraid. In the end, it will kill two birds with one stone. So, "How can I be a father?"
Secondly, about the family problem, I briefly mentioned it in the "Random Thoughts" (25, 40, 49) of "New Youth". To sum up, it was from us that later people were liberated. When it comes to liberating children, this is a very common thing, and of course there is no need to discuss it. But China's old days, poisoned by old habits and old ideas, could not be decided. For example, teenagers don't mind hearing crows in the morning, but superstitious old people always have to suppress them for a long time. It's sad, but it's hopeless If there is no law, we can only start from the awakened one and liberate our children separately. He shouldered the burden of tradition, shouldered the dark door and let them go to a wide and bright place; After that, live happily and be a reasonable person.
Also, I once said that I was not a creator, so I was scolded on the poster "New Lesson". However, when we comment on things, we always have to comment on ourselves first, and don't pretend, so that we can speak like a joke and be worthy of ourselves and others. I know for myself that butter is not the creator, nor is it the discoverer of truth. Everything is said and written, only a little truth is taken from what I see and hear on weekdays; As for the ultimate matter, we have no way of knowing. Even for the theoretical progress and changes after several years, I can't tell how far I will go. I just believe that there should always be progress and change than now. So, "How can we be fathers now?"
The truth I believe now is extremely simple. Is based on biological phenomena, first, to preserve life; Second, we must continue this life; Third, develop this life (that is, evolution). All living things are like this, and so are fathers.
The value of life, the value of life, can be ignored now. Judging by common sense alone, we know that life is the first important thing, because it is a living thing. Because a creature is a creature because it has this life, otherwise it will lose its meaning. In order to save life, creatures have various instincts, the most obvious of which is appetite. Food is ingested by appetite, warmed by food, and life-saving. However, biological individuals will inevitably age and die. In order to continue one's life, there is another instinct, that is sexual desire. Because there is sexual desire, there is sexual intercourse, because there is sexual intercourse, there are descendants, and life goes on. Therefore, appetite is to save yourself and save the present life; Sexual desire is a question of preserving offspring and immortality. The diet is not evil and unclean; Sexual intercourse is not evil, not unclean. As a result of diet, I support myself and have no mercy on myself; The result of sexual intercourse is having children, which is certainly not the gospel of children. -back and forth, all go to the distance of life, only different in sequence, can't tell who is blessed by whom.
It's a pity that China's old ideas completely violate this truth. Couples are "in the middle of human relations", but they say it is "the beginning of human relations"; Sexual intercourse is common, but it is considered unclean; Giving birth to children is also common, but I think it is a great achievement. Everyone's idea of marriage is impure at first. Relatives and friends have a lot of banter and a lot of shyness. Until the birth of the child, they are still escaping and dare not declare. Unique to children, but full of majesty. This kind of behavior can be said to be comparable to that rich man who stole money and made a fortune. I'm not saying-as their attackers hope-that human sexual intercourse should be carried out at will like other animals; Or like shameless hooligans, they specialize in some obscene actions and are complacent. That is to say, people who wake up after that must first wash away the impure thoughts inherent in the East, and then be pure and understand the meaning that husband and wife are partners, laborers and creators of a new life. Of course, the child born is the person who receives new life, but it will not be permanently possessed and will be delivered to the child in the future, just like parents. Just going back and forth and being an overpaid manager.
Why must life go on? Because of development and evolution. Since individuals are bound to die and evolution is endless, we can only continue on this evolutionary path. Taking this road requires internal forces, just as single-celled animals have internal forces, which will be complicated after a long time, while invertebrates have internal forces and will have thorns after a long time. So the future life is always more meaningful and complete than before, so it is more valuable and precious; The life of the former should be sacrificed to him.
But unfortunately, China's old ideas are just the opposite of this truth. The standard should be in the young, but in the old; The focus should be on the future, but it has passed. The former made more sacrifices than the former and could not survive, but severely criticized the latter for making his sacrifices and destroying all the abilities of self-development. I'm not saying-as their attackers think-that grandchildren will beat up their grandfathers all day and daughters will curse their mothers all the time. In other words, people who wake up after that must first wash away the fallacious thoughts of the ancient East. For children, the idea of obligation should be increased, and at the same time, the idea of right can be effectively reduced in order to prepare for the morality of young people. Moreover, young people have rights, but not permanent possession, and will still fulfill their obligations to young people in the future. Just a handler who has done everything back and forth.
The assertion that "father and son are ungrateful" is actually a major reason why "saints" blush. Their procrastination lies in the old people's self-centered and self-interested thoughts, with heavy rights thoughts and light obligations and responsibilities. I think the father-son relationship only needs one thing: "Father begets me", and the young should be owned by the old. What is particularly depraved is that I expect to be rewarded for this, thinking that all young people should be sacrificed by the elderly, but I don't know the arrangement of nature, but I oppose this request one by one. Since ancient times, I have gone against my fate, so people's ability has shrunk dramatically and social progress has stagnated. Although it cannot be said that stagnation means extinction, compared with progress, stagnation is always close to extinction.
Although the arrangement of nature is inevitably flawed, there is nothing wrong with the method of combining the old and the young. He doesn't use "grace", but gives creatures a nature. We call him love. In the animal kingdom, except a large number of children, such as fish, they always love their young son, not only without interest, but even at the expense of themselves, so that his future life will embark on a long journey of development.
So much for humans. European and American families are generally young and weak, which is the most suitable way for this biological truth. Even in China, as long as the soul is pure white, people who have not been humiliated by "saints" can naturally find this nature. For example, a village woman breast-feeds a baby, and she never thinks that she is paying kindness; The farmer married his wife and never thought he would borrow money. Just having a child, that is, naturally falling in love, may he live; Further, I wish him better than himself, that is, evolution. This is love that is divorced from the exchange of interests, the son of human relations, and the so-called "outline". If, as the old saying goes, we erase "love" and say "grace" blindly, and expect the responsibility to be repaid, it will not only corrupt the morality between father and son, but also greatly violate the actual feelings of parents and sow the seeds of good thorns. Some people have done Yuefu, saying that it is "advising filial piety", to the effect that "my son goes to school, and my mother grinds almonds at home and prepares to give them to him." Are you still unfilial? " And so on, thinking that they are "trying to defend morality." As everyone knows, the apricot cheese of the rich and the soybean milk of the poor have the same value in love, except that their parents didn't want to repay it at that time; Otherwise, it becomes a buying and selling behavior. Although you drink apricot cheese, it is no different from "human milk feeding pigs" It is nothing more than fat pork, which has no value in human ethics.
So all I care about now is love.
No matter in which country, most people admit that "loving yourself" is a matter of course. This is the essence of preserving life and the basis of extending life. Because the fate of the future has been decided as early as now, the shortcomings of parents are the foreshadowing of the death of future generations and the crisis of life. Although Ibsen's Ghost (translated by Pan Jiaxun, in the fifth volume of New Wave) focuses on the problems of men and women, it can also be seen that heredity is terrible. Oswald was originally a man who wanted to live and create. Because of his father's indiscretion, he was born with a virus and could not become a monk halfway. He loved his mother too much to wait on him, so he hid morphine. When he wanted to have a seizure, Qin Rui, his maid, took medicine for him and poisoned herself. But Qin Rui has already left. So he had to entrust his mother.
Oh, "Mom, it's time for you to help me."
Lady a "me?"
Oh, "Who can compare with you?"
"My lady! Your mother! "
Oh, "that's why."
Lady A: "I, the person who gave birth to you!" "
"I never taught you to have me. What kind of day is today for me?
I don't want him! Take it back! "
This description is really what we fathers should be shocked, vigilant and admire; Never lose your conscience and say that your son deserves to suffer. There are many such things in China. As long as you work in a hospital, you can always see the horror of children with congenital syphilis. And proudly sent it, and probably his parents. But the terrible inheritance is not just syphilis; Many other mental and physical shortcomings can also be passed on to future generations, and over time, even affect society. We don't talk about crowds. Just for the sake of our children, we can say that anyone who doesn't love himself really lacks the qualification to be a father. Being a father is just like being the king of ancient bandits. It is absolutely unorthodox. In the future, when learning is developed and society is reformed, those Miao descendants who are lucky enough to stay will inevitably be disposed of by eugenics.
If parents don't leave any mental and physical shortcomings for their children now, there will be no accidents, and the children will be healthy, and finally they have achieved the goal of extending their lives. But the responsibility of parents is not over yet, because although life continues, it can't stop, so we should teach this new life to develop. In higher places, animals are often taught the skills necessary for survival besides nurturing and protecting their young. For example, birds teach flying and storks teach fighting. At a higher age, human beings also have the instinct to hope for their children, by going up one flight of stairs. This is also love. What I said above is for the present and this is for the future. As long as the mind is not blocked, everyone likes their children to be stronger, healthier, smarter, nobler and happier than themselves; Is to surpass yourself and surpass the past. Transcendence needs to be changed, so children and grandchildren should change the things of their ancestors. "If you don't change to a father's way for three years, you can be said to be filial." Qu Shuo, of course, that's the root cause of the abortion. If ancient single-celled animals followed this lesson, they would never dare to split again, and there would be no more humans in the world.
Fortunately, although this lesson has hurt many people, it has not completely obliterated all human nature. People who haven't read the book of sages can still reveal this nature from time to time under the axe of the famous religion, and sprout from time to time; This is the reason why China people are not extinct, even though they have fallen and shrunk.
Therefore, the awakened person should expand and mellow this natural love from now on; Without my love, I sacrificed myself to the new couple. The first thing is to understand. In the past, Europeans misunderstood children and thought that adults were prepared; The misunderstanding of China people is that the shrinking adults. Until recently, after many scholars' research, I realized that the world of children is completely different from that of adults. If you don't understand it first and do it blindly, it will seriously affect your child's development. Therefore, all facilities should be child-oriented, and Japan has achieved a lot recently; Children's facilities and children's career research are very prosperous. The second is guidance. Times have changed, and life has to evolve; Therefore, the rising number must be particularly different from the previous one, and it is absolutely impossible to use the same pattern and embed it unreasonably. An elder should be a mentor and negotiator, not a commander. Not only should young people not be blamed for worshipping themselves; Moreover, they must use all their spirit, especially for themselves, to cultivate their hard-working physical strength, pure and noble morality and broad and free spirit to adapt to the new trend, that is, the power to swim in the new trend of the world without being submerged. The third is liberation. Children are my people, not my people, but since they are separated, they are also people. Because I am, I want to fulfill the obligation of education and give them the ability to stand on their own feet; Because they are not me, they should also be liberated at the same time, all for themselves and become independent people.
In this way, parents should give birth to their children in a sound way, try their best to educate their children and completely liberate them.
But some people will be afraid, as if their parents have nothing, and they will be bored from now on. This horrible and boring emptiness comes from the fallacious old ideas; When you understand the biological truth, you will naturally disappear. But parents who want to liberate their children should also prepare an ability. That is, although I have brought the colors of the past, I have not lost my independent skills and spirit, and I have a wide range of interests and noble entertainment. Want to be happy? Even your future life will be happy. Should we "rejuvenate" or "rejuvenate"? Children are "Fuding" and they are all independent, which is better. This is the end of the task of the elderly and the comfort of life. If the ideological skills remain the same, and you are proud of "Bo (Xigu)", you will naturally suffer from emptiness and boredom.
Still afraid, after liberation, father and son will be separated. It has long been known that European and American families do not have China's family autocracy; Although some people were compared to animals in the past, even the saints who defend Taoism now defend them, saying that there are no "rebellious sons". Therefore, it can be seen that only its liberation, so blind date; But the detained child has no father or brother, so there is no "rebellious son" who resists the detained child. If you are tempted by coercion, you must never have a "long road of ten thousand years" in any case. For example, China, Han has filial piety, Tang has filial piety, and the late Qing Dynasty also has filial piety, all of which can be changed. Father's kindness comes first, and emperor's kindness comes last. However, few people cut stocks. It is enough to prove that China's old theories and methods have no good effect since ancient times, but only make the bad guys more hypocritical, and the good guys suffer more from people who are not interested in me.
Unique "love" is true. Lu Cui quoted Kong Rong as saying, "What does a father have to do with his children? As far as its original intention is concerned, it is actually lust. Children who come to their mothers are also ridiculed. For example, send him a bottle and he will leave. " There were several strange people with special characteristics at the end of the Han Dynasty, which were not as cold as they are now. Perhaps this is what Mr. Beihai said; It's just that Lv Cui and Cao Cao attacked him to make people laugh. Although it is also a blow to the old saying, it is actually unreasonable. Because parents have children and natural love at the same time, this kind of love is deep, wide and long-lasting, and will not leave immediately. There is no great harmony in the world now, but there are still differences in love. Children love their parents the most, care about their parents the most, and will not leave immediately. So it's separated by a layer, so don't worry. As for an exceptional person, you still don't like to hook up. But if love can't be linked, then no matter what "grace, name, righteousness, righteousness" and so on can be linked.
Still afraid that the old people will suffer after liberation. This matter can be divided into two layers: First, although China society is "morally good", it lacks the mind of mutual love and assistance. Even the morality of "filial piety" and "fierceness" is a way for others to take care of the old and the weak, without any responsibility. In such a society, it is difficult for not only the old people to survive, but also the liberated young people to survive. Second, men and women in China are generally premature, even less than 20 years old. When they are really old, they need the support of others. So I say that parents who liberate their children should make some preparations first; For such a society, it is especially necessary to transform it to make it suitable for a reasonable life. Many people are preparing and transforming, and over time, it is naturally expected to come true. As far as the history of other countries is concerned, Spencer has never been married, and he is not bored with it. Watt had no children for a long time, and he was "dead", not to mention people who have children in the future?
Still afraid that children will suffer after liberation. There are two layers in this matter, both of which are mentioned above, but one layer is because of being old and incompetent, and the other layer is just because of being young. So people who wake up feel that they have the task of transforming society. There are many fallacies in the formation of China's handed down law: one is to close the country, thinking that it can be isolated from the society and unaffected. One is to teach him witchcraft, thinking that he can survive in society. Although the old people who use this method have good intentions to continue their lives, they judge the fallacy by comparing things with facts. Besides, there is another way to teach them some ways to cope with the world and adapt to society. This is a mistake with those who talked about "pragmatism" in previous years. Because there are fake foreign currencies on the market, they have to teach students how to treat foreign currencies at school. Although society can't help but adapt occasionally, it is by no means a proper way. Because the society is not good, there are many evil phenomena that cannot be followed one by one; If they are all consistent, they will violate the reasonable life and take the road of evolution. Therefore, the fundamental way is to improve society.
In fact, the old ideal family relationship and father-son relationship in China have already collapsed. This is not to be strong today, but to be strong in the past. Always strongly advocating "five generations under one roof" shows that it is not easy to live together in practice; Trying to persuade filial piety also shows the fact that filial sons are missing. The reason is that they all advocate hypocritical morality and despise real human feelings. Looking at the genealogy of the Han family, we know that the ancestors who moved first were probably single and married; Once gathered, the genealogy was published, but it was already painted in the scattered world. After breaking superstition, there will be no crying bamboo lying on the ice; With the development of medicine, there is no need to go to filth and cut stocks. Because of economic relations, marriage requires late childbirth, so late childbirth, or children can help themselves, and parents are old and cannot rely on them to support them. In fact, parents have fulfilled their obligations. The world trend is forcing us to do this, so that people who do this can survive, otherwise they will decline; With more people awake and more manpower, the crisis is estimated to be less.
But as mentioned above, China has actually collapsed long ago, and it is not an empty talk like a "saint" on paper. Why is it still the same, no progress? This matter is easy to answer. First, the decomposer collapses, the entangler entangles, and the founder establishes himself; Without guards, I don't want to reform, so it's the same. Second, there used to be Bo (Xigu) among families in the past, but after the new term became popular, it was renamed "Revolution". But in fact, they still want money, scold each other, gamble on books and fight each other, which is completely different from the reform of the awakened one. This kind of "revolutionary" children who call themselves Bo (Xigu) are purely conservative and will never be liberated until they have children; Either they don't care at all, or they have to find out the "filial piety" and order them to read it, thinking that they "learn from the ancient teachings" and make sacrifices. This can only be attributed to old morality, old habits and old methods, and the truth of biology can never be blamed.
As mentioned above, it is very reasonable for organisms to continue to survive in order to evolve, and then have three wives and four concubines. It's also easy to answer. Although it is unfortunate that human beings have lost their future lives because they have no heirs, it should be more "unfilial" than a person without heirs if they use improper methods and means to prolong their lives and endanger the people. Because in today's society, monogamy is the most reasonable, and polygamy really corrupts people. Degeneration is close to degeneration, which is exactly the opposite of the purpose of extending life. If there is no queen, it will only destroy itself. If there is a fallen queen, it will destroy others. There are always some people who sacrifice their spirit for others. However, since the appearance of creatures, they have been interrelated. Generally, a person's lineage has a lot to do with others and will not be completely extinct. Therefore, the truth of biology is by no means the amulet of polygamy.
In short, it is not easy for awakened parents to be completely voluntary, altruistic and sacrificial; Especially in China. The awakened people in China must settle old scores and open up new roads in order to liberate the young and the old. At the beginning, I said, "I carry the traditional baggage, carry the dark door and let them go to a wide and bright place;" After that, I will live happily and be a reasonable person. "This is a great and important thing, and it is also a very difficult and difficult thing.
But there is another kind of old people in the world. They not only refuse to liberate their children, but also forbid their children to liberate their children. There is no need for grandchildren to make unnecessary sacrifices. This is also a problem; And I am a peace-loving person, so I can't answer this question now.
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