I once read such a short story in a book: once, Goethe, a great writer, went out for a walk and met a critic who had severely criticized his works before. The critic said proudly, "I never give way to fools!" " "I thought Goethe would quarrel with him, but he replied calmly," I am just the opposite! " "Then make way for each other with a smile. What Goethe did showed a broad mind, which not only defended his dignity with witty and humorous language, but also avoided an unnecessary quarrel. In fact, if you think about it carefully, the answer is self-evident, except for losing face. In this story, I understand that kindness is better than belligerence! Being kind to others equals being kind to yourself.
I think everyone is familiar with Zhou Yu during the Three Kingdoms period. Zhuge Liang skillfully used three tricks to make Zhou Yu look up at the sky and sigh "He Shengliang was born in Yu". Finally he vomited blood and died. At that time, he was only 36 years old. What a pity! Zhou Yu's death is, in the final analysis, his narrow mind. If you learn to be tolerant everywhere, you may not die early!
Tolerance is a kind of tolerance, but also a kind of mind. Tolerance is not only forgiveness for each other, but also liberation for yourself. How long can life last? Why should a bright future be affected by some details? "endure a calm moment, take a step back and broaden the horizon", and you must learn to tolerate others in your life, because this is tantamount to being kind to yourself!
When I was 2 years old, my family was poor. At that time, most children had gone to school, and I was the only one, so I had to stay at home and help my mother do some housework, cut some pig grass to feed the pigs, and help my mother weave a chicken coop to sell ..... Before I was seven years old, I used to play with the children next door and my brothers and sisters, take a bath by the river and go fishing together. You can touch two or three when you are lucky, and you can't touch anything when you are unlucky. Even if you can't touch it, you can catch a few grasshoppers and fry them. How happy you are!
After the age of seven, everything changed, the family became poorer and poorer, and all the good friends went to school. Only my family had no money for my school, and my former friends began to laugh at my illiteracy. That day, I couldn't stand their ridicule and ran home crying. I ran into my humble hut and slammed the door hard, which seemed to be a way for me to vent. My mother was used to it and ignored me, but at that time I wished I could get some comfort from my mother, but it might be wishful thinking. ......
From that day on, I hated my mother. But I hate my dead father more. If it weren't for his death, I wouldn't have no money to go to school, I wouldn't be humiliated by others, and my relationship with my mother wouldn't have deteriorated. Hate, hate, hate. No one in this world cares about me at all. I hate this world and people in this world. Since I was created by God, why not give me happiness? Why! Break your word and give me pain! I even hate God's injustice to me!
I am a strong girl, but no matter how strong a person is, there is a fragile side in her heart. But I don't know, not only me, but also my mother!
One summer vacation, my cousin came to my house to play. It was supposed to be fun. But this drama makes us unhappy.
My brother lived in my house for more than half a month. In the first few days, we had a good time, but within a few days, a war broke out in my house.
That day, my brother and I were playing in a childish house. After playing for a while, I won everything in my brother's house. He started stealing things from my house, and at first he took them one by one. Then he pushed his luck and took whatever he saw. Finally the volcano erupted, and I yelled at him and said, "I don't care about you!" " "I slammed the door into the room. After all, my brother is still a child. He gently pushed open the door and sat on the bed like me, muttering, "Ignore it!" " "Although I say so, but tears always flow out, we deadlocked for a few minutes, who also ignore who. Finally, the doorbell broke the silence. Mom must have come back. We both stood up almost at the same time. I sat down as soon as I saw him stand up. My brother ignored me and just went to open the door for my mother.
The door opened, and as soon as my mother came in, she saw tears on my brother's face and asked him, "Shuai Shuai, why are you crying?" My brother didn't answer, he just looked at my room. When my mother saw what I did, she strode to my room. She pushed my door open heavily and said loudly, "Haifeng, it's not easy for Shuai Shuai to come to our house. Why did you ... "I interrupted my mother and said," But I ... "At this point, my tears burst out. When my mother saw me like this, her heart softened and she said to me calmly. After listening to my mother's words, I nodded inexplicably and said, "Mom, I'm going to apologize to my brother."
As a result, it can be imagined that the two of us are reconciled, which not only keeps a precious friendship, but also makes me understand more deeply: take a step back and broaden the horizon!
Go to grandma's house for lunch every noon, except weekends. I have to go there by bus every day.
The weather is really hot, which can't be described in a word. That bus company conscience, air-conditioned car fare increase. What a terrible day. Halfway through the car, the air conditioner suddenly broke down, but the car still works. We have to open the window. But the problem is that I came to that window and quarreled with me. I can't open it with all my strength. You said I was getting more and more anxious after work, and the sun was shining. At this moment, I stepped back from the window, and I couldn't wait to break it. Suddenly I opened it.
I thought about the little details a little. I thought, "Isn't it the same to be a man?" Take a step back and broaden the horizon. Why is life crowded? Everyone has a chance. "This morning, I went to apply for a monthly ticket and looked at the busy queue. I crustily skin of head stood in the line. It took me 40 minutes to finish it. Originally, I wanted to jump the queue, but I didn't do that because I always thought I would be there.
In an argument, nothing more. If the problem is not big and the result is small, don't haggle over every ounce. Take a step back, be broad-minded and let go. For those little things, let go, as I see the details. Don't pull the window hard, step back and let go of the hook, so that you can get a cool breeze and enjoy yourself, otherwise you will be unhappy and in a bad mood. Why not? In this way, the friendship between our friends will become stronger and stronger, with many benefits.
All life philosophies are found in reality and return to reality. In reality, we can get information, feel the comfort it brings, give it to others in person, obey the law, and let us be our idols.
The sea is vast, the fish are eager to try, and the sky is high for birds to fly. If a fish wants to swim further, it must break free from its aquarium; Birds, if they want to fly high, have to fly out of their cages; People, if they want to soar in the higher sky and run in the wider earth, must cut off the rope that binds their hearts. ...
He Kun, in his prime, would not have been beheaded if he could see farther and was not confused by money and tempted by power. Because of money and power, He Kun has become an out-and-out corrupt official in people's minds, which is an indisputable fact now and in the future. We are pursuing immortality, but what happened to He Kun?
Liu bang, a king of language who knows people and makes good use of them. Did you know that he used to be a local punk? But he beat Xiang Yu out of the water because of his lofty aspirations. How many fabulous feats he has created! This is due to the lofty pursuit in Liu Bang's heart. He put aside temporary success and power to prevent them from becoming stumbling blocks. He didn't collect money, collect beautiful women and indulge in beauty like Xiang Yu. Liu Bang's success stems from the stage in his heart.
Looking back at the ancients, I feel infinite. According to the current situation, should we learn from it? In this information and highly developed 2 1 century, the competition between culture and material is fierce. How should we look at this century and what should we do?
Students with excellent grades can be found in any school, but whoever laughs last is the real king, and the winning smile is the proudest. We can't lose ourselves because of a temporary success, nor can we be devastated because of a temporary failure. Keep your eyes open and see who is our role model, Liu Bang or He Kun.
Only ambitious people can see that the road to success is extending forward for themselves, and can truly understand and feel the true meaning of the vast sky.
Only with foresight can you have foresight; How high is the heart and how far can we go?
6101On October 28th, a bus in Chongqing ran out of control, rushed out of the guardrail of the bridge and fell into the river, directly causing 15 lives to disappear instantly. ...
The reason behind the sad tragedy is not an ordinary traffic accident. After investigation, the cause of the incident was that a woman surnamed Liu did not get off at the station, missed the platform, had an argument with the driver, and even beat the driver. The driver did not control the direction in self-defense, which led to the tragedy.
This news brought me not only shock and regret, but also made me think. ...
In this incident, Liu made many mistakes, failed to control his emotions, and impulsively attacked the driver after sitting firmly in the station, which should be the chief culprit of the whole disaster. But is there anything wrong with the driver? If he hadn't fought back on the spot on the spur of the moment, he would have stopped the car, communicated with the woman and calmed her down, so maybe 15 lives wouldn't be destroyed, and 15 families wouldn't have to bear the pain of losing their loved ones.
As the saying goes, impulse is the devil, and a temporary impulse often brings punishment and tragedy! In real life, there are countless tragedies caused by impulse. Think of a news I saw before. A mother, because her mobile phone was lost by her child, impulsively tied her child's hands and feet in a rage and kept beating her, eventually killing her own flesh and blood.
I think everyone should learn to reflect from similar incidents and not let similar tragedies happen again and again. Dr. Ronald, an American emotional management expert, once said: Stormy emotions often do not exceed 12 seconds. Once they break out, they will destroy everything. However, if we control this 12 second and eliminate negative emotions, it will be very calm. Therefore, in daily life, we must be able to control our emotions and not get angry easily. Our reason will not be overcome by impulse. Only in this way can we avoid some accidents. As the saying goes: endure a calm moment and take a step back!
Broad sky 7 "let", the word we have known since the first grade, but it is not easy to do it.
When class was over, I casually passed my classmate Pan. Who stepped on my foot? I turned around and saw only him behind me. He must have stepped on me. I found a test paper on his desk, which said "6 1".
"6 1", I cried in mock surprise, "how did you get such a low exam! Ha ha ha ..... "I've been pretending to laugh. In fact, I don't want to laugh at him, but I think it's funny and I don't know why.
Finally, Mr. Pan couldn't bear it. He rushed up, punched and kicked me, and his eyes were burning. Not to be outdone, I rushed to my classmates like crazy, and the two of us scuffled, and neither of us would let anyone.
As early as a classmate went to report to the teacher, Mr. Wu rushed over like a fireman. The teacher stopped us, checked everything, and sighed lightly: "Fortunately, my body is not big. Can't you be modest? "
My face turned red. I wish I hadn't laughed at him. What does it matter if I'm trampled? Without losing a piece of meat? My heart is full of guilt!
Facing the embarrassing situation, there were shouts from downstairs, which made me upset. I tried to cover my ears, but the crow's cry still got into my ears through the gap between my fingers and slapped my eardrum.
But I held back. Under the teacher's criticism and education, we both apologized to each other and made up soon!
Make way, the world will become better!
I thought the same thing.
The vast sky is full of the prosperity of the courtyard, but the east wind is weak and falls on the ground, making a vicissitudes of life and accompanying it in a hurry for a year. -inscription
I used to doubt that I was walking in the desert/I never got results/No matter what dreams I planted/I just spread my wings/The wind became silent/I was used to suffering/Can I count as a harvest?
There was a cry of wild geese in the distance. I looked up at the sky and wanted to be moved. However, for a long time, I could only let my heart overflow with sadness. Cover your eyes with your hands, quietly, let go of everything, the wind is lingering in your ears, and you still have to go. Open your eyes, the world is so empty that nothing can be left. When I got these years, I left too many things behind. In my mottled memory, I repeatedly staged displacement. Stumbling all the way has changed me. When I no longer believe in Andersen, I want to question human nature. I asked myself: What do I want and what can I give? The answer is: I just want to get something for nothing. Probably people are like this, just want to have and hate to pay.
When I give less, I get less, but I lose more. I want to run hard and be full of youthful enthusiasm. However, I must stay where I am and look for what I have lost. People call it confidence.
Indifference Thank you for looking down on me/not letting me bow/doing better.
I unconsciously felt the indifference of the world and hid my warm heart. I make public, just to prove that I shine more than others; I am grandiose, just trying to resist the ridicule of others after failure. Disdain and indifference became expressions, but my heart was occupied by doubts. I began to doubt my ability. No matter how arrogant I am, I can't hide my anxiety. I sighed silently: did the flower seeds ever doubt that they would not bloom? Do fruit trees doubt that they can't bear fruit? But why am I so insecure? Maybe others' doubts about me made me start to doubt myself.
Looking at the evolution of everything, time tells me that there will always be something new and something dead. This is the law. Holding on to the past is a blasphemy against the future. When time runs out, everything will be like smoke blown away by the wind. Life is like a play, always live. The play, good or bad, can only be played slowly. When praise disappears and criticism follows, I thank those who look down on me. They let me know that I am looked down upon and let me live in reality forever.
After the vast sky/storm/looking back/laughing at the old sadness
You can also see the leopard in the tube, and you may also see the vast sky in the canyon? The heavy rain poured down, and the yard was full of yellow flowers, which made people haggard. It is a law that any glory will decline. Life geometry, don't entangle things that shouldn't be entangled; If life is a dream, why not believe in yourself and make it to the end?
In the end, no one will be defeated, and there will always be a turning point. I will plant a seed in the soil and wait for the prosperity of the next season.
The person who knows me best/thank you for your silent company all the way/let me have a good story to tell.
A petal fell on my hand, smelling the fragrance of my nose and touching the sadness that has always been there. Let the wind blow them all away. I will accompany people who love me to see-
Look to the future, step by step. ...
I often look up at the stars and reflect on my mistakes and disputes in the day. I often wonder why every argument got out of hand. I often think that if I could take a step back at that time, wouldn't there be a good result? I often think, which part of the dispute has gone wrong? I found out because both of us lacked the courage to give in.
On a sunny afternoon, what I heard was not the sound of books, nor the forceful voice of teachers, but the noise one after another. After listening carefully, it seems that the class patrol is noisy. At that time, I often disagreed with another classmate, but both of them were the overlord in the class, so every opinion was supported. After all, there is no room for two tigers in one mountain, so we often argue, even the teachers are at a loss, and often things end in failure, and then we graduate.
After entering junior high school, I changed my mind. In class, I am just a person who analyzes things and gives advice. I am no longer the so-called overlord. Many people have asked me: your junior high school has changed a lot. What's the matter with you? In fact, I just want to say that it is better to analyze the whole thing than to waste time quarreling. Isn't it killing two birds with one stone? What's more, the class tour in primary school made me feel uneasy, because neither side allowed the other, which led to the long-awaited class tour. This has always made me feel bad, and I have a deep understanding during the summer vacation. Instead of the stalemate between the two sides, I might as well give in and create a win-win situation myself!
There will inevitably be some disputes in life. Of course, we must strive for the right thing. Shouldn't you have a hard time with others for the sake of face? It's important to know how to make concessions! Take a step back and broaden the horizon! Sometimes a little concession will make you see a different world.
Broad sky 10 Since ancient times, people in China have always been the best face-saving, and they pay too much attention to face, which is called steamed bread for fighting for breath.
Contradictions often occur in life, but sometimes the cause of contradictions may be just a trivial matter, but everyone will not give in for the so-called "face", for fear that others will look down on themselves, so that small differences or differences will eventually turn into unmanageable disputes, leaving heavy scratches in everyone's heart. Why is this?
After all, some things don't have much influence on us. Why don't we just forget about it, ignore it, solve those disputes that shouldn't exist, and leave no trace in our hearts and those of others? As the saying goes, "endure a calm moment and take a step back."
Sometimes, contradictions and disputes are not caused by themselves, but by the words of others and the anger in their hearts. I have heard that "once upon a time Hanshan asked me". What should I do if the world slanders me, deceives me, humiliates me, laughs at me, belittles me, hates me and deceives me? Pick up the cloud: just put up with him, let him, let him, avoid him, put up with him, respect him, ignore him, stay a few years and see him. "This is the so-called relaxed and indisputable thinking. Even if some small things are won in some way, they will only win some benefits. Why not be generous, take a step back and win a generous attitude for yourself.
Of course, the so-called light and indisputable, does not mean blindly inclusive, some small things are not worth fighting for, and some things are "sometimes you have to have in life, you can't always insist." Of course, this sentence doesn't mean that you just have to try your best to do one thing, you just don't care in your heart. Is the so-called humiliation and forgetting.
Lightly put down some self-righteous pride and shame, some self-righteous right and wrong, that is, to find that everything is just a passing thing, just humiliated, indifferent, and has no intention of retaining or staying. Let go gently and take a step back. If these things don't happen, it is full of relief and normal heart.
The vast sky is 1 1, with a little floating dust, and the pool water of leaves reflects dazzling light. We are going to swim.
Everyone who knows me knows that I am a landlubber and I am particularly afraid of getting into the water. As long as there is water, I refuse it directly.
Now, the seemingly deep pool is rippling, just like a provocative face, laughing at my timidity. People around jumped into the water like fish and swam around in the water. Some girls even lit the water with their feet, leaving only me and a few people on the shore.
My companion urged me to "come down, it's cold!" " "But I thought of my biggest enemy since I was born, and I chickened out before my feet touched the bottom.
Roommates were hesitant and anxious, and they swam away one after another, leaving me alone on the shore, struggling.
When I was a child, I learned to swim and almost drowned several times, so I had a deep fear of water. But seeing them so happy and itchy, I can't help but want to explore the unknown world.
My good friend swam back and said, "You try, I'll hold it, okay?" As if I had been insured, I jumped carefully and stopped at once. That water is as high as my waist! My friends and I both laughed because of our embarrassment and our expectation for the underwater world.
With this good start, I am much bolder. I grabbed his hand and dived. It took me a while to get up. As soon as the activity is over, I can float and swim a few steps!
It is often said that it is a matter of dealing with people to take a step back and broaden the horizon. In the face of difficulties, only by taking the first step bravely can we meet a bright future.
People always want to take a step back in front of what they are afraid of. As everyone knows, many things are not terrible. As long as you try bravely and take the first step, there will be a vast sky in front of you.
Zhang and Dai Langye, prime ministers of Qing Dynasty, were both from Anhui. The two families live next door, both want to build houses, and there is a dispute over land. Mrs. Zhang wrote in Beijing, asking Prime Minister Zhang to intervene. After reading the letter, the prime minister immediately wrote a poem to persuade the old lady: "A letter from a thousand miles is just a wall. Why not let it go three feet?" The Great Wall of Wan Li is still there today, but I haven't seen Qin Shihuang. When Mrs. Zhang saw that the book was reasonable, she gave in three feet. "。 Ye Jia was deeply ashamed when he saw this scene and immediately gave up three feet against the wall. In this way, a six-foot-wide roadway was formed between the courtyard walls of Zhangye's house, which became the famous "six-foot alley". What Zhang lost was his ancestral homestead, but what he got was a good reputation of a harmonious neighborhood and a lasting reputation.
After reading it, I was deeply touched. You may have heard of it, or you may have experienced it yourself: a friend is flushed because of a gossip; Children fighting between neighbors causes adults to bicker, and they don't communicate with each other; And because of family chores, husband and wife sharing the same room, old and strict separation, and so on. In fact, when we calm down and think about these things carefully, we always feel a little ridiculous or even absurd. Since taking a step back can turn an enemy into a friend, why not? People who can survive will not blindly strive for strength, but would rather take a step back and make necessary self-sacrifice when necessary. We should understand that the road of life is not a straight road, which requires both hard pursuit and self-discipline. You should fight and let go.
To be tolerant of others is to be kind to yourself, and tolerance is also a virtue. Many people think it is not easy to forgive those who hurt themselves. Actually, I don't think it's easy either, ha! But there is a book that says, "The heart is a container. When there is more and more love, hatred will be squeezed out. " We should not blindly and deliberately eliminate hatred, but should constantly fill our hearts with love. In that case, why don't we take a step back, let go of our anger and be kind to ourselves?
As the saying goes. Take a step back and broaden the horizon. Be patient for a while and be calm.
Broad sky 13 In our daily life, there will be some contradictions and misunderstandings between people, but as long as everyone gives in, these misunderstandings and contradictions will be solved. I have had such an experience.
At the beginning of school, the teacher asked us to find our own seats, so I found a seat by the way, but as soon as I sat down, something unfortunate happened. Because I accidentally knocked my classmate's notebook off the ground, it was nothing, but there was water underground. Just when I wanted to apologize, that classmate left the notebook on my desk in the water. I was so angry that I stepped on his notebook with my foot. He got angry, too, and began to scold me. He scolds me, of course I will scold him! So the two of us began to scold each other. But neither of us wanted to bow our heads and give up, so we hit L. When the students saw us playing, they told the teacher immediately. When the teacher learned about it, they immediately came and stopped us. Then let's apologize to each other. No way, we both reluctantly apologized to each other. Because of this, we met like enemies from now on.
Long after this incident, I once read a book in the library, and I found that I was always wrong. I always thought I would win everything, but I couldn't lose. But I was wrong. Like the case above, if we both gave in, it wouldn't be like this. Maybe we will become good friends, but we don't want to "take a step back", which leads to this situation. So, I figured it out, I should apologize to him. This is my fault. I knocked his notebook into the water. If I had apologized immediately instead of quarreling with him, I wouldn't have made a fuss about a trivial matter.
Through this incident, I understand the truth of "taking a step back and broadening the horizon". In the future, I decided to get rid of those bad habits and put up with it. I thought it would be good to take a step back.
When we have an argument, it is often only necessary for one of us to take a small step back, and everyone will be tolerant and the contradiction will be resolved.
Broad sky 14 A plainclothes poet dived into the water and gradually merged into the river. This is the catharsis of courtiers who can't serve the country. That is a word "loyalty" written by a pure son who cares about the motherland with his life. Maybe he used his death to keep his dignity and self-esteem. Perhaps his death is more important than Mount Tai, which has become a legendary story, but I don't think his death is worth it.
In the history of China, Qu Yuan has always appeared as a great patriot. We praise Qu Yuan as a great politician because he is loyal to Chu. His death was heavier than Mount Tai, and many scholars spoke highly of him. He has become a model in people's minds. He said in "Li Sao": "Although I died nine times, I still have no regrets." Then why did he choose to jump into the river to end his life? By ending his life in this way, did he sublimate his character, or did he abandon the fragile performance of his ideal?
Qu Yuan chose death. Many people say that he died noble and aboveboard. But I don't think so. His death only made his relatives feel pain and his enemies feel quick, which had no practical significance. In the face of his death, we may accuse the king of being ignorant and innocent, but I think this reflects Qu Yuan's ignorance and loyalty from another side. Since the king of Chu is not a wise king, there is no need for him to give up his ideal for the death of a bad king. He can be a Bole himself and find a "good king" who can rule the world.
So, I think it's a pity that he died. He used death to show his loyalty, but it was also a fragile performance of giving up himself. It is meaningless to prove one's personality by ending one's life. I think living is to realize my ideals and ambitions, so it is better to die to show my ambitions.
Take a step back and broaden the horizon. It is wise to cherish life and strive to realize its value.
Broad sky 15 In our life, we often hear the saying: Take a step back and broaden the sky. Perhaps many people disagree with this statement. They think that whoever takes a step back is a coward, but in fact, those who take a step back may be the real winners!
There is a story that proves this point well. I think most people have heard of it. This is a story about friendship with Bao. But here, our hero is not Guan or, but a real winner, a story that few people know. He is Qi Huangong, the first overlord in the Spring and Autumn Period! As we all know, Guan Zhong and Bao Shu used to be very good friends. Later, they helped the viscount and Xiaobai compete for the throne respectively. On one occasion, Guan Zhong led troops to stop Xiaobai from returning home, and an arrow hit Xiaobai's hook. Xiaobai lisped and vomited blood, and he held a grudge against Guan Zhong. Later, Xiaobai acceded to the throne and became Qi Huangong, intending to reuse Bao Shu and execute Guan Zhong. But in Bao Shu's view, Guan Zhong's talent is above his own, so he recommended Guan Zhong to Huan Gong. Huan Gong was puzzled. After some persuasion by Bao Shu, he took a step back, abandoned his hatred with Guan Zhong, let bygones be bygones, reused Guan Zhong, and finally became a vassal overlord.
What a meaningful story this is, including not only Guan Bao's friendship, Bao Shu's profound understanding of the great righteousness, but most importantly, Huan Gong's retreat determines success or failure. Qi Huangong reused Guan Zhong with his generous attitude and eventually became the overlord. Confucius said, "Duke Huan and the Nine Kings don't need chariots, but also control the power of the clock." This shows Guan Zhong's attention to Qi Huangong and the great victory brought by Huan Gong's abdication. Isn't that what life is all about? When we are in conflict with others, we should not compete with others. We can avoid their sharp edges and take a generous step back. Don't worry too much. Winners are often people who take a step back. It seems to be retreating, but it is actually taking a few steps towards victory. Because taking a step back can make us think more calmly and solve problems in the best way, instead of letting anger fill our brains and making wrong decisions.
One step, just one step, the future is a vast sky.