There is no absolute pure feeling in this world. When we are with a person, we all have a plan, either for one's good or for one's condition. If the relationship between two people wants to be long-lasting, it is not enough to have love alone, but also to fill it with material. As the movie lines say, love without material is fragmented.
Material is very important, but it is heartbreaking to measure a relationship only by material. All feelings begin because I love you, and there are thousands of ways to end them, one of which is that I dislike you for being too poor. Oda and her boyfriend have been in love for seven years. A year after breaking up, she married a blind date she had known for less than half a year.
Speaking of Oda's seven-year relationship with her boyfriend, it is really like the TV series "Golden Eight". They met at school, and everyone else was studying hard, so they fell in love. After being known by her parents and teachers, she was not only severely criticized, but Oda's parents also helped her transfer.
But these obstacles did not separate them. Even if we haven't contacted each other for months, two people have each other in their hearts. Young love is always rock solid, and nothing can separate them. After graduating from high school, they didn't go to college, so they went out to work hard together. Life is hard, but it's always better to have a lover around.
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The first few years away from society are the hardest. Without education and experience, everything has to start from scratch. At that time, they rented a small, dark and damp house and rented 500 yuan on a monthly basis. There is a bed in the room, and other things can only be stuffed under it. At that time, their monthly salary was very small, and there was little left except to support themselves.
Life is hard, but they are happy. Oda was spoiled by her parents since childhood and didn't do much housework. After being with her boyfriend, she began to learn to do it. And her boyfriend loves her dearly, often taking care of housework and keeping Oda out of it. One is willing to pay, and the other knows how to cherish. Such feelings are naturally sweet as ever.
However, Yoko's biggest problem is that Oda's parents disagree. They think that the man's family is not good, or a single-parent family. Their family only has an old house, so it is difficult to buy a new one. For so many years, Oda's parents let Oda break up from time to time, and they found her a better object. Oda is sure that her boyfriend is the one she must marry in her life.
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Last year, ODA was 26 years old, and her parents began to urge marriage. Boyfriend thought about proposing marriage. After all, two people have been together for seven years, and only marriage can be worthy of such a long youth. My boyfriend took his mother to Oda's house to propose marriage, but her parents kicked her out and said a lot of ugly words: "You delayed my daughter for seven years, and I don't want you to delay her for life." Parents are very determined, and Oda is hard to get caught in the middle.
On the other hand, boyfriends are really poor. He has been in the society for several years, and his savings are only 65438+ 10,000, which is not enough for a wedding. Oda began to hesitate: can you really be happy by marrying him?
Oda's parents objected, and her boyfriend's mother began to object, feeling that it was unnecessary to climb Oda's house, so that even if she got married, the woman would look down on him. Both parents are deadlocked, and ODA and her boyfriend often quarrel. Resentment for both parents and all the contradictions in the relationship between the two sides in the past seven years have been aroused.
During this period, they have also been on and off many times, but after seven years of love, they are reluctant to part. Finally, Oda's parents compromised, as long as her boyfriend bought a suite, the man's family paid a down payment and the woman's family paid a decoration fee.
This condition is really not high, but the man doesn't agree, thinking that buying a house requires debt, and they don't stop the woman from buying a house. What I said completely ruined their feelings. Being in love for 7 years and losing to a house is really embarrassing.
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After breaking up, the family began to introduce Oda. Have a blind date, have a house and a car at home, and be honest. Is the best person to get married.
Oda, who was completely sad in her last relationship, compromised. It is better to choose a safe person to live a stable life than to strive for a fruitless love. They got married within half a year of knowing each other. During the period, her predecessor came back to find her several times, and she didn't look back.
Those seven years of feelings, mixed with tears and sweat, and their own great youth, are at the crossroads of marriage. Faced with various display factors, their feelings still cannot stand the test. When you are in love, you can accompany a person to suffer hardships, but marriage is not just love. If you need to live, you have to face daily necessities, and all these need material support.
Many people want a house when they get married, but they just want a stable residence. No matter how good the relationship between two people is, it is hard to stand the test in the face of reality. Perhaps choosing material is a last resort compromise in the adult world, or more often, women always want material to increase their sense of security. If you love me enough, you won't let me compromise. You can earn money to buy a house, but if you lose your lover, you really lose it.