How do divorced single women live alone? Everyone will have secular desires and feel different emotions. Each of us may experience these different emotions in our life, because emotions are complex and influenced by too many factors. Let's share how divorced single women live alone.
How do divorced single women live alone? 1 narrator: Sister Li was divorced for 9 years at the age of 45.
In a blink of an eye, I have been divorced and lived alone for nine years. This life is so fascinating that I don't want to give up.
In the first year, because of my husband's cold violence, I chose to divorce. For me, divorce completely deviates from the traditional route of being a good girl, thinking that it should not appear in my dictionary.
But facing him, he didn't say a word to me all day, which made me crazy. My heart tells me that I can't tolerate such cold violence, or connivance.
I'd better leave. I'm not used to it in the first year I didn't have children. On the one hand, my ex-husband is relatively strong, and the economic conditions are indeed much better than mine. On the other hand, with my ability at that time, I couldn't raise a child (my mother died early and no one helped her, but my grandparents could) and I couldn't give her a better life. Besides, I'm really tired of family life and want to be alone.
The first year of divorce, I ran away. I bought a small apartment with the only 500 thousand allocated to me.
In the second year, the small apartment was officially delivered, and I took out some money to decorate it in my favorite style. This style is naive in the latent view. He likes that very old-fashioned Chinese style.
Dreams that were once unattainable, at least for the expectation of living environment, were satisfied by themselves.
I bought a cat. My ex-husband has never given me a cat before. He said that if a cat appeared at home, it would be strangled.
In the third year, I changed my job. The salary has increased by 1.5 times, and the time is more free. The relationship with my daughter is also close, and I go to see it once a week or two. My 12-year-old daughter can already understand my choice at that time.
I talked about a boyfriend in the fourth year and broke up three months later. He is two years older than me. At that time, he wanted to move into my small apartment, and I was thinking, should I really accept such a man invading my private space? After thinking about it, I broke up. I really can't bear the freedom of one person. He couldn't understand why it was so repeated, but in the end it was completely divided.
And secretly made a decision, never fall in love again, and refused anyone's blind date and introduction.
In the fifth year, my daughter went to a key junior high school and was very happy for her. But it also means that you can only see her once a month. A man who heard the news of his ex-husband's remarriage was neither sad nor happy. I also bought a suit for my daughter to attend her father's wedding.
In the sixth year, I changed my job and my salary increased a little. That year, my father had a minor operation. As an only child, I am still very busy and want to be a man alone. Menstruation, who came to help at that time, lamented that if he hadn't divorced, at least my dad had a son-in-law to help.
I told her. That also depends on the son-in-law. Later, some patients in our hospital also had son-in-law or even son. Their children never showed up from beginning to end. I, menstruation, also believed what I said. It doesn't matter whether you have a son-in-law, the key is that your daughter is reliable.
In the seventh year, I heard that my ex-husband and ex-wife gave birth to a baby boy. I discussed with my ex-husband that if I thought my daughter was a burden, I could ask for custody. The ex-husband won't say anything, but the daughter says it doesn't matter, because she doesn't go back much now, which doesn't have much impact on her life. If she is an adult and goes to college, she will naturally live with me.
In the eighth year, I began to learn online food videos and found myself quite talented. Maintain self-discipline, often praised for being in good shape and lively. Two men younger than me chased me and refused mercilessly. One of them has a thick skin and is now a good friend of gay friends. He will help me change the flat tire, and there are no other evil thoughts. His current girlfriend is my colleague's sister, whom I introduced to him. We are all very close. My daughter is in the university town and often gives me video calls.
In the ninth year, I want to retire early and be a salted fish. I'm asking about my daughter's house in the city where she goes to college, because she wants to work there and change it.
In short, living alone for nine years has made me not want to remarry at all, and I am very satisfied with this state. But some people say that although you are happy now, you will regret it in the future. Do you think I'll really regret it?
Write it at the back:
Living alone is really addictive. For many middle-aged women, living alone is a luxury.
Eating alone, living alone, living alone ... from "empty nesters" to "empty nesters" and "empty nesters", this kind of life is very free, but it is often labeled as loneliness and sadness. In fact, it really depends on what you choose in your heart.
Living alone, you are not fighting alone, but persisting. According to a data of 20 16, 50.2% of Americans aged 17 are single and live alone. More than half of the people living alone in Nordic countries, 30% in South Korea and 40% in Japan.
The choice of values under the diversified lifestyle is also changing, and it is no longer static. I would rather be alone than experience the noise brought by remarriage.
Just like the nine-year solitary life described by the elder sister above, many divorced women continue to choose to live alone and not remarry because: "If a person has been alone for too long, he is too lazy to argue, worry or deal with all the troubles brought by remarriage, including the pressure brought by getting along with relatives in his family."
For them, any trouble brought by remarriage is not worth it. A person's freedom, freedom, and freedom of soul are what he wants.
How do divorced single women live alone? 2. How should divorced single women arrange their own days when they are old?
Divorced single women can consider living together if they can meet another partner who appreciates each other. Sometimes two people live in one speaker, and the days are very warm. When they are alone, no one binds them. Eat when you are hungry, rest when you are sleepy, and it's lonely to go in and out. It is two kinds of happiness to have a companion, exercise together, buy food together, travel together and share happiness with two people.
Have troubles to share. But the wish is good. If you don't meet the right partner in life, you don't have to be lonely. You should plan your day, arrange your daily life as tightly as possible, exclude eating and rest, and then fill your spare time with hobbies.
For example, playing chess, swimming, square dancing, fishing, traveling, calligraphy, taking photos on outings, etc. Putting these hobbies in your spare time will enrich you at the end of the day, regardless of your age, at home or outside, especially when you are dressed neatly outside. Let yourself live as a team.
How do divorced single women live alone? Divorced women live too hard alone.
Xiaoling is a divorced woman who lives alone with her son. Although life is hard, Xiaoling is strong, hardworking and dedicated to her son. In order to let her son study, Xiaoling decided not to look for it any more, and lived alone with her son.
In the unit, Xiaoling is a hard-working and completely honest person, but the identity of a single woman is there. She wants to live a quiet life, but the tree wants to be quiet and the wind will not stop. There are always some malicious men trying to get close to her, being harassed and despised, and even saying a word to any man will lead to malicious speculation and ridicule. But Xiaoling silently endured it.
A married male colleague always likes to send text messages to Xiaoling at night. At first, she just talked about work. Out of politeness, Xiaoling also replied a few words at the beginning. Slowly, the text messages of male colleagues became more and more ambiguous. Sometimes male colleagues are working overtime and even send text messages to let Xiaoling accompany him. Xiaoling realized that her male colleague was up to no good, and began to alienate him and stopped replying to his messages.
On one occasion, colleagues went out to engage in activities. After coming back, Xiaoling and several colleagues went home in the car of their male colleagues. Other colleagues got off the bus one after another, and finally Xiaoling was left alone in the car. When I got home, my male colleague refused to stop for Xiaoling and offered to go for a ride. Xiaoling insisted on going home, but her male colleague didn't stop and drove directly to the suburbs.
Park the car, and the male colleague sits in the car and chats with Xiaoling. Suddenly, Xiaoling was forcibly held in her arms. Xiaoling struggled desperately, but a woman's strength is very small and she can't get rid of it. Xiaoling felt that her male colleague's hand had begun to grope. In an emergency, she kicked the door hard with her foot, and her male colleague let go of her hand. Xiaoling jumped out of the car and took a taxi home.
At home, Xiaoling cried a lot, but she couldn't tell her pain. It's hard to say that others will think Xiaoling took the initiative. When the time came, her male colleague rose up and resisted, but Xiaoling was speechless with pain and had to bite her teeth and swallow her blood.
After listening to Xiaoling's true story, I sympathize with her, except her. Please don't say a word that takes two people to make a sound. The world is very unfriendly to single women. May every single woman be treated gently. Life is hard, so don't make it worse.