Symptoms: Lin Xiaojun, 17 years old, studied in a high school in New York State and achieved good results. But his roommates found that he has always been "with a higher heart than the sky." Recently, he often stays in his room for a long time, counting his bank deposit slips or dollars over and over again, with a strange smile on his face. He also hung inexplicable charts such as "total consumption control chart of the school year" and "personal income planning" on the bedside of the dormitory. Sometimes I even cry and laugh.
Diagnosis: Lin Xiaojun is a typical "economic greedy person studying abroad". Psychologically speaking, this is an obsessive-compulsive disorder, which belongs to a mental disorder related to social factors.
2. Study abroad rhythm syndrome
Symptoms: Yi Zhu, 16 years old, is the son of a Gao Qian in Beijing, so he always feels different from others and that he should enter Cambridge University and lead an unusual student life. So after studying in the UK, I habitually forced myself to be in a "fast-paced" environment for a long time, and I was busy studying all day. Even if I go shopping or have an outing with my classmates on holidays, I will look at my watch from time to time to urge others. After a long time, he often has headaches, vomiting and sleepwalking.
Diagnosis: Yi Zhu is in a "fast-paced" environment for a long time, which is easy to cause excessive mental stress and psychological tension, thus causing psychological depression and psychological barriers. People with "fast-paced syndrome" can't be idle, fearing that they will have a nervous breakdown once they are idle. According to the analysis of psychologists, "fast-paced syndrome" makes the central nervous system and autonomic nervous system dysfunctional, thus causing symptoms similar to "neurosis", such as nervous headache, nervous vomiting, anorexia nervosa or other physiological disorders.
3. Depression in studying abroad.
Symptoms: Chen, a senior high school student from Beijing to new york, is only 14 years old. During his two years in the United States, he won the special prize in the chemistry competition for senior high school students in the United States and the first prize in the international mathematics competition. This was originally an enviable good thing, but it became the pressure of this little international student in a foreign country. What he is most worried about every day is that he has not studied well, fearing that his teachers and parents are dissatisfied and that his classmates will laugh at him. Over time, his learning efficiency dropped sharply, his sleep quality deteriorated day by day, his attention could not be concentrated, he was dizzy and weak all day, his energy was not as good as before, and taking medicine could not relieve his pain.
Diagnosis: This is a typical "study abroad achievement depression", which is the most common mental illness among international students at present. Because of the pressure of entering a higher school, foreign students lack confidence in themselves, the competition intensifies and the pace accelerates. They work hard like robots all day. If their psychological quality is poor, or they are not good at self-reconciliation, they are prone to mental illness. Experts suggest that in order to avoid depression caused by psychological problems, international students can arrange their life and study more fully to avoid feeling lost because of being too paranoid.
4. Anxiety about studying abroad.
Symptoms: "When I touch the test paper now, my mind is blank." Xiao Li, who came from Guangzhou to study in Australia, has been doing well from elementary school to junior high school, but after arriving in Sydney, her grades have dropped again and again. Because she is bent on being admitted to a key university in Australia, she has been studying nervously under self-pressure. However, the harder I work, the worse I learn. Finally, I even picked up the test paper and forgot the mathematical and physical formulas. She said: "I feel ashamed to face my parents who are far away from home. I might as well die."
Diagnosis: Every student has test anxiety, but the degree varies from person to person. Li's situation is typical. At this time, parents and people around her should patiently encourage her, listen to her talk about her worries and anxieties, and let her give up those unfavorable thoughts slowly, so as to improve the exam anxiety.
5. Emotional obsessive-compulsive disorder in studying abroad
Symptoms: After graduating from junior high school in Huai 'an, Jiangsu Province, Linlin felt more nervous about her studies than before, but the first thing she did when she got home was to sort out all the things at home. After doing these things, she can concentrate on her homework, and sometimes she will take out the things she has put away and put them back. This kind of thing is always repeated several times, and finally she has to be recognized by herself to stop this kind of behavior, which consumes a lot of precious time. The mother who brought her daughter to study was at a loss. According to the doctor's diagnosis, Linlin suffers from "emotional obsessive-compulsive disorder in studying abroad". But Lin Lin said, "How could I get sick? Even I can't control myself. "
Diagnosis: Generally speaking, there is a potential reason behind "emotional obsessive-compulsive disorder in studying abroad", such as strong wishes and goals, parents' pursuit of perfection and excessive demands on their children. If parents find that their children are often in a daze, doing homework slowly, biting their nails, shrugging their shoulders, etc. They have to pay attention. This is probably a compulsion. At this time, parents should pay attention to observing their children, understand why children do this, and take their children to see a doctor as soon as possible.
6, study abroad communication phobia
Symptom: "If you want me to speak on stage, you might as well kill me." Xiao Zhang from Hangzhou, China is an international student in a high school in Tokyo. She is introverted and does not like to talk. When I first came to Tokyo, I was rejected by a Japanese girl in the same row. After changing seats, I still can't change this behavior. Later, even the boys refused to sit next to him. From then on, he thought that the most difficult thing in the world was the Japanese, and even thought that they were all descendants of "Japanese devils" and were very afraid to associate with them. The teacher said that every time a classmate takes turns to speak on the stage, he would rather pretend to be ill and play truant than talk to his classmates who live together day and night. From this point of view, Xiao Zhang is obviously suffering from communication phobia in studying abroad.
Diagnosis: introverted primary and secondary school students, who do not pay attention to adjusting their psychological state during adolescence, will be afraid of interacting with others; Especially primary and middle school students studying abroad are more likely to cause social fear. Therefore, as parents, we should examine whether our behavior towards children is appropriate in time, correct inappropriate educational behavior as soon as possible, give more praise and encouragement to children, and let children communicate with others boldly and confidently to cultivate self-confidence.
7. Obstacles in studying abroad
Symptoms: Xiao Na, 15 years old, went to Berlin from Shanghai to study abroad. She just entered a middle school in Berlin last year, but her accompanying mother found that Xiao Na was becoming more and more careless in her homework and often copied wrong answers. After a test paper was handed out, my mother found that many questions were missing, but Xiao Na said that she didn't find them at all. For a whole semester, this situation has never improved.
Diagnosis: Xiao Na actually suffers from dysgraphia. Generally, the eyes of these patients look different from others, and they will miss a lot of obvious information, which is manifested in turning a blind eye when studying. In fact, this is a special obstacle to studying abroad, and only relevant visual training can be effective. Therefore, parents and teachers should first understand what is wrong with their children's learning psychology when they study abroad, and to what extent it is serious, so as to design personalized education programs and conduct training for their children in view of their special lack of learning ability.
/■ Expert opinion/
Looking forward to success, we should reflect.
There is nothing wrong with wanting to be a dragon, but what needs to be reflected is whether the time is ripe.
Psychologists believe that people's psychological age and physiological age develop harmoniously and synchronously. Teenagers are not mature physically, and their psychological endurance, experience, way of thinking and mind are not mature. They may not adapt to the migration of the environment, especially in foreign countries with great differences in domestic environment, culture, history and customs, and their psychological endurance needs a stronger test. Many middle school students choose to study abroad because they can't face the pressure of entering a higher school, which is a psychological behavior to escape the pressure and challenge. If they go to a foreign country with a strange cultural environment, there will be more maladjustment.
In recent years, the trend of going abroad has become more and more fierce. Many parents overestimate their children's psychological endurance and self-care ability, but underestimate their financial resources. Many parents show disappointment and heartache when they spend a lot of money but fail to cultivate an "international talent" as scheduled.
You must be careful when sending your children abroad.
In order to avoid this situation, psychologists remind parents that several aspects need to be carefully considered before sending their children abroad-
Carefully examine whether the child has the psychological conditions to study abroad. It is not a simple thing to live alone in a completely strange place. It requires children to have good psychological quality, be brave in challenges and be good at taking care of themselves. Generally speaking, the best time for "cultural migration" is after 18 years old, so it is best to study abroad after the children are mature.
In addition, children should be familiar with the traditional culture of their own country before going abroad. Only when you are familiar with the traditional culture of your country and arrive at a new environment can you appreciate the cultural differences and accept and reject them.
Parents should also carefully evaluate their financial strength. Generally speaking, the reasonable investment should be 65438+ 0/3 of the expenditure income and savings, leaving 2/3 for emergency use. It is very undesirable for a family to spend all their savings for their children to go abroad.
Pay attention to children's mental health. Today, most parents can ensure their children's material needs, but ignore the attention and guidance to their children's psychology. Children studying abroad need communication and guidance more than ordinary children. Parents are advised to communicate with their children in time to avoid problems. If there is a problem, take the child to the doctor in time to avoid missing the best treatment period and making the condition worse.