The psychological mood of girls is more complicated than that of boys. Pay attention to girls' body movements and facial expressions, and you will always find some unspeakable information.
When girls are depressed, although they are eager to communicate, they are unwilling to take the initiative to speak. At this time, we need to be patient enough to seriously ask our children the reasons why they are unhappy, so that they can actively communicate with us.
We can calmly and euphemistically ask, "What does the baby want to tell me? If you like, I am willing to listen at any time. " When the child tells you the "truth", you must stand firmly in the child's position, analyze her troubles and worries, and solve the problem with her.
Step 2 cultivate elegance
Elegance is more important than beauty. Beauty is born, but elegance can be cultivated.
My colleague is a well-educated mother. She not only enrolled her children in dance classes, but also took them to various reading clubs and concerts in her spare time. Every time I see her daughter, I feel that the little girl is well dressed and has a clean temper. She greeted everyone politely, spoke logically and was very cute.
Such a polite and well-dressed girl not only looks elegant, but also is comfortable to get along with. In a child's temperament, the books she has read, the roads she has traveled and the people she has met will always reflect her upbringing.
3. Encourage children to accept challenges.
Girls don't mean to be quiet and weak, but also need independence and courage. Don't do everything for your child because you are afraid of getting hurt, and don't let her try anything. This kind of behavior will make children dependent and difficult to be independent.
We can let children exercise courage, such as "let children buy things and order food". These little things exercise children's expressive ability and make them dare to speak their minds. And properly letting children do some housework within their power can also cultivate children to be more independent.
Dad should set an example.
"The father's appearance is the future husband's appearance", and the father is the daughter's most important teacher.
In many families, fathers are not good at talking, lack communication with their children, and daughters are introverted and timid. A man who loves his wife and often does housework will let his daughter know the responsibility and position of a man in the family, and will unconsciously choose a good man who cares and cares for the family in the future.
5. Cultivate children spiritually
Traditionally, it is often said that "nurturing daughters" actually refers to raising children spiritually. Only by giving children a broad vision can they ensure their independent judgment.
Many parents will accompany their children to travel, see different scenery, meet different friends and taste unique culture even if they are busy. During the journey, children's adaptability and knowledge have been rapidly grown, and they are no longer limited to the small world of school and family.
Nourish your daughter with love, let her see the bigger world, choose her own life, and make her comfortable and happy all her life.