Hi, chatting is chatting with others and having a good time.
What's so hard about chatting?
Seemingly simple things, many people can't do.
Others scoff at communication and care nothing about it.
However, interpersonal communication is really important. More communication can increase knowledge and broaden the pattern. When two people get along, it is inevitable that there will be quarrels and misunderstandings. People who are willing to communicate will not fight because of trivial matters. People who don't understand communication will only deepen contradictions.
Chatting is an art. People who can talk can express themselves clearly, without ambiguity and misunderstanding. People who are good at communication have high emotional intelligence and many friends. They speak tactfully, consider others from others' perspective, consider their own emotions, and have harmonious interpersonal relationships.
People who can't chat lead to poor communication, others hold grudges against themselves, hold grudges and retaliate, quarrel and fight, and even kill and set fire to them.
However, many people and strangers have nothing to say. There is no topic, let alone good communication! How to have a good interpersonal relationship? Who meets whom is familiar to him, and always goes through the process from embarrassment to chat. How to avoid embarrassing chatting and cultivate to the realm of chatting, I will teach you several strategies. Exclusive secret recipe! Don't miss it!
Some people say, "70% of communication with people is emotion and 30% is content". This sentence is absolutely right. It's important to be in a good mood and avoid awkward chatting.
1. Exercise more at ordinary times.
Eddie Peng Yuyan Yuyan's muscles and Summer Xu's ass are enviable. They continue to stay healthy. Physical exercise can not only enhance the resistance, maintain a healthy body, slim and muscular, but also make people who exercise for a long time full of vitality, positive optimism and bright sunshine.
People who exercise regularly are full of positive energy. When they communicate with strangers, their sunny and healthy temperament unconsciously attracts each other. Doing more exercise makes people feel happy and willing to communicate with others. Even if you are unfamiliar, you are full of motivation.
relax
I just went to work, I am not familiar with my colleagues and the environment is strange. It's okay, there's no need to be too nervous. You should have confidence in yourself and believe that you can change from embarrassing chat to chatting and integrate into the group. When you are calm, treating your colleagues as family members and chatting with your parents as usual will naturally relieve a lot of embarrassment.
polite
You are sitting on a bus, far from the station, and there is a stranger sitting next to you. When communicating with him, keep your eyes on the other person's eyes, don't look around, look out of the window. Through eye contact, you can convey other people's ideas, even if they don't say it. Besides eye contact, you should also know the art of listening.
Listening carefully is the minimum respect for others. Only by listening carefully to other people's conversations can we really understand each other's meaning and give timely and correct feedback. Otherwise, communication is blocked, and the lips of cows are wrong, forming communication obstacles. Chatting is even more embarrassing! !
1. Discuss topics that everyone knows.
In the off-campus restaurant, your classmate didn't come for something. There are many people in the shop, but there are not many empty seats. You take the meal to a stranger and sit opposite him.
You're thinking, I don't know you. What are you talking about? ! Awkward!
You can say, "The food in this restaurant is delicious! The price is also cheap! " Or, "Today is a good day to travel!" These words quickly caught the attention of the other party. She might say, well, the restaurant is cheaper than here. May also agree with you. Your conversation starts here! !
2. From the other side's point of view
Waiting in line at the hospital requires patience and so on. You see the person waiting in front and ask him, "What's your queue number?" After the other party replied, the chat slowly eased.
Step 3 respond positively
Go back to school by car, because I am late to catch the bus, and I have to carpool with others. When someone finishes talking to you, you quickly answer, "Wow! Great! So powerful! " That person got a positive response and his interest in chatting with you increased greatly. You have successfully overcome the embarrassing chat and become interested in it.
1. What a sincere compliment.
When I was at work and taking the elevator, I met an unfamiliar colleague. You are entangled in your heart, and what I said has no topic; If you don't talk, you are all colleagues. It is not appropriate to meet and not communicate.
Look at the bag on her back, it's exquisite, and praise: "XX, your bag is beautiful! Must be a famous brand! Where did you buy it? " When she heard this, she must be smiling and chatting with you.
Of course, you should praise her to the point, truthfully praise the details and make her happy. Your nervousness will disappear.
Ask open-ended questions
You were going to study in the study room, and you happened to meet your classmate when you were about to leave. However, you don't know him well and you don't want to talk. What topic should we talk about?
You ask, "Do you have a class tomorrow?" He replied, "Yes orno." The topic is over.
You ask him, "What books have you read? What kind? How many classes do you have tomorrow? " He can talk to you about an open-ended question like this. Maybe we can meet, chat and become friends.
3. Discuss topics of mutual interest
She is a woman. You said, "Wow! Tmall holidays are discounted, and skirts and short sleeves are all 20% off! And they are all popular styles this year. " Women generally like shopping, beauty and fashion. She must be happy to continue chatting with you! !
He is a man. You said, "Last month's World Cup was really wonderful! I like C Ronaldo's performance, he plays very well! " He immediately opened his eyes and talked to you endlessly! ! Turn on chat mode!
The above two strategies are based on your familiarity with the topic. If you don't know enough about the discussion of these two kinds of gender bias, I suggest changing the topic and using the skills mentioned above is more appropriate.
4. Care about others
You walk to the door of your hospital and meet your neighbor. You don't know him well, so you can say, "Let's go in together!" Then, you said to him with concern, "It's hot, so eat more fruits. The air conditioner is on at home. Always keep Huoxiang Zhengqi water to prevent heatstroke. " Your concern warms his heart, and he must be very grateful to you. Then, you start saying sentence by sentence! !
make friends
When you talk about a contract with a client, first of all, don't talk alone. You can ask about Party A's hometown and hobbies, and then you say, "Fate! I also like to follow the drama. My father is also from there. We are fellow villagers! "
Soon, your became closer and the atmosphere relaxed. It is naturally much easier to talk about contracts.
The previous raiders introduced how to find topics by practicing self-engagement, but some topics said yes, which led to awkward conversations. In order to avoid embarrassing chat, I will continue to teach you several strategies.
1. Leave room for others to speak.
Your relatives come to visit at home. You used to know each other, but after a long time, you are a little rusty. You hold her hand happily and keep talking, but she can't answer a word. When you finish, he will forget everything he wants to say!
Originally you were chatting, now you are chatting. Words are too full, communication becomes you talking to yourself, what others say! Communication is your information exchange with others, not your self-satisfaction! Don't talk too much, say something, stop, let the other person talk, and leave room for others to talk, so that you can communicate well.
2. Don't use technical words.
Just married, you go home and cook. Mother-in-law is chatting with you while eating. You said, "I'm very tired today. I haven't finished the manuscript yet, so I have to rewrite it. The title is too boring, the title content can't reach * * *, and there is no user perspective. " Mother-in-law looked puzzled and didn't understand what you were saying.
I can't even talk without embarrassment! If you have technical terms, it is more appropriate to talk to your colleagues. Others are best to talk about life-oriented content, not technical terms. Otherwise, others don't understand, how can we continue to talk?
3. Don't take it too seriously
Don't take colleagues' jokes too seriously. Too serious, too pursuit of facts, is a joke, the atmosphere immediately cooled down. He felt so embarrassed that your's conversation turned into a chat.
Maybe you don't know each other, but joking can effectively ease the awkward atmosphere. He's joking with you, just follow his words and laugh when you're finished! People who are not familiar with each other can also chat! The atmosphere was ignited! !
4. Humble and peaceful chat attitude
In companies and schools, some people are arrogant when they make a little achievement. Insult, "what's so hard about it! As long as it is everyone knows ... "
They often don't know how to put themselves in other people's shoes, don't understand other people's difficulties, and don't consider each other's feelings, which leads to embarrassing conversations in an embarrassing environment. This attitude hurts the self-esteem of other students or colleagues. They have nothing to talk about with that kind of people except work and study.
In the communication between people, the attitude is humble and peaceful, neither supercilious nor supercilious. Don't look down on others and don't need to feel inferior. Look down on others and feel inferior to others. Only by being modest and considerate can we communicate on an equal footing and the atmosphere will not be embarrassing.
Good communication is the source and guarantee of interpersonal relationship. Learn to communicate effectively and avoid awkward conversations, and the natural contradictions between people will be reduced a lot. There will be more and more friends, more smiles and information, improved patterns, broadened horizons and a bright and sunny life.