In the process of listening to her questions and answers, I felt her concern and love for her children, and I also felt the anxiety that a mother could not give her children reasonable advice in her heart. In the 22nd episode of Do You Know, the old lady and Ming Lan went to their hometown in Qiyang by boat. On the way, Sheng Jia's boat met a water thief on the river, and Ming Lan tried to save her grandmother's boat, which delayed the time. Later, when he fell into the water, Gu saved him. On the shore, he said to his second uncle, "Sister Rong is your daughter. She is you. You are the son of Hou Fu, and she is the daughter of Hou Fu. Now that you are wandering in the Jianghu, she will be the daughter of a water thief and bandit in the future. I hope you don't delay her life because of a temporary passion. "
The second uncle said, "You got married at an early age, and you know what it means to be immersed in love."
Ming Lan said, "Although I don't have a daughter, I am also a daughter. I don't know the date of my daughter. Do you know, uncle? "
Uncle secretary was silent. He and his wife looked at Sister Rong, who was playing with the brothers. He said, "Look, Rong Er is happier than her now, in Beijing and in Sweet Water Lane, so she should be happier than in Houfu."
Ming Lan said, "Karen can't just look at the present in her life. When my mother was a child, she told me the story of "The Warring States Policy: Touching the Dragon to Tell the Queen": There is a saying that' parents love their children, so it is far-reaching'. How can they only care about the present? At the age of three, if you want to think about things at the age of ten, you have to think about things at the age of sixteen. Without long-term worries, there must be near worries. "
We often understand this sentence: the greatest love in the world is the kind of love parents have for their children. Parents are used to making long-term plans for their children and trying to find a good future for them.
It is human nature for parents to love their children, but how many parents' love hurts their children?
Although parents are elders, they may not be able to handle everything clearly, but they also have their limitations.
And I know that "the beloved son of parents has far-reaching influence." The profound meaning of this sentence comes from Ming Lan's interpretation of it in the TV series Know Not. Throughout the whole drama, all the grievances of wealthy families are inseparable from this sentence. Parents' rivalry of the previous generation is for children, and Ming Sheng Lansheng's silent marriage life reflects the profound meaning of this sentence.
Yan Meimei, a small partner in our community, whose child is currently in high school, is worried about how to choose a university major that will affect the future children and career development. And every parent around us has this problem to some extent.
"Parents' love for their children is far-reaching. "Today, let's talk about how to make children live a stable life.
Winning is what I have been thinking about now. My previous education was to make my children themselves. I never thought that the cognitive height of parents would determine the cognitive height of children.
Your cognitive height determines your growth rate.
But what is cognition?
Cognition is actually the way of thinking about the world.
The higher you stand, the more thoroughly you see and the faster you grow.
Follow some ways of thinking and principles, maybe more than 80% people will.
1. Why do many people fall into "low-level diligence"?
Because I am trapped in the local area, I am obsessed with something too specific and don't think from a global perspective.
What do you mean?
Just like the problem of our gorgeous beauty now, she said, "In three years, my children will face the choice of choosing a university in the college entrance examination." Our wish is to respect the wishes of children, but now I have no clear plan. I don't know how to choose liberal arts subjects in the future, and what major to study in the future to find a job? "
If I must have been confused before, I recall that when I was in high school, I chose a university full of passion for design. A liberal arts student's college major is either fashion design or interior design, or all my majors are designed. Finally, I got my wish and was admitted to the interior design major of Wuhan Huanong Environmental Art Department. But looking back now, all this comes from my ignorant persistence, not from my own cognition, nor from my parents' cognition. According to my parents' wishes, I should be a teacher now, taking a stable class or working as a nurse in my hometown junior high school. Like my neighbor's elder sister, I take classes in a hospital near my home and find a doctor or teacher to get married and have children.
However, I didn't decide my life according to their cognition. Although I suffered a lot and was cheated a lot in this 13 year, I still don't think I did anything wrong in retrospect. May be driven by their own will.
Then today's society is changing with each passing day, and no one knows what will happen tomorrow. No one knows whether the next unemployed person has himself or not. How can we help children make the right choices at milestones in their lives?
Now, Yanmei's child is a senior one. Three years later, he will embark on the road of "College Entrance Examination" for thousands of students, just like the ancient imperial examination, and become the first one and may fall into Sun Shan. Of course, if you can't pass the exam now, you can repeat your studies, go to a vocational and technical school, and study abroad if you have money at home.
Speaking of college entrance examination, what other words can you think of? I think there must be a "single-plank bridge". Parents and students of all ages must be familiar with this era. Since primary school, teachers have been saying that "the college entrance examination is a single-plank bridge with thousands of troops." When we were young, our family was poor, and we didn't have enough money to send hundreds of thousands of children abroad to study every year. We had to suffer from the college entrance examination in China.
But it is precisely because they know what kind of suffering it is that parents are unwilling to let their children suffer again. If you can make the same efforts, but you can let your children receive the best education in a more relaxed environment, which parent will want to let their children suffer? The poor inherit the wind.
Before chatting with many friends, an entrepreneur asked me: Last year, I earned 1.5 million, and this year's goal is 300,000, an increase of 50%. Any good suggestions?
I asked him, what do you think of this goal now and how do you plan to achieve it?
He said to me: I will work harder. Finish the unfinished list before and take off the hard bones. Hit the goal of chicken blood and it's done.
To be honest, every time I hear this, I feel a little sorry.
Work hard, work hard. Efforts are certainly right, but thoughtless efforts are likely to be futile.
The natural growth of his market is 20% a year. In other words, under normal circumstances, next year's sales should be15× (1+20%) =180,000.
There is still a gap of1.20 thousand from the goal of 300 thousand.
Can the gap of1.2000 be achieved through hard work?
If you change the incentive method, you can probably earn 60 thousand more.
So, there are still 60 thousand, what should we do?
He began to be silent.
Hard work is "tactical play". It takes a strong fighting spirit to open the road on every mountain and bridge the bridge when it meets water. But this kind of fighting is street fighting.
Through the efforts of overall thinking, it is a "strategic drama". Expand the map, flank from this side and go around there. This is a well-thought-out war.
I said to him, this matter, maybe we can look at it this way:
1, 20% natural growth, which is what you should take.
2. What you should do is to increase motivation, work harder and win the hard list. That was your plan. But even this would not be enough
The key is the gap of 60,000. That's not in your bowl. In other words, it is to grab the competitor's territory.
How to grab a piece of meat from your opponent's mouth may be the most important thing for you this year.
So, you should put as many resources as possible on the third thing.
There are many ways to achieve this: maybe you can improve yourself and talk about better projects, or maybe you can find a fast-growing sideline to help you achieve your goals.
However, if you are completely unaware of the third point, you will not have any thinking or behavior.
We often fall into a point, walk into a circle, turn around and tell ourselves that I am actually working hard.
Spend more time thinking from a global perspective, and your thinking will be completely different. You will know what is most important.
Choosing a university is actually the same as the essence of realizing income growth above. What major we choose, how to divide it, whether to choose articles or science are all "tactical play"; And through the efforts of overall thinking, it is "strategic play"
Based on strategic play, what should I do when choosing a university?
It's still the four-in-one model I told you before: four in one, and "four" means: thousands, hundreds, tens and units. "Integration" refers to the allocation of resources.
Thousand: cities.
Cities determine the future development of children, and different cities determine different resources to a certain extent. Then we'd better consider cities with developed economy and more children going to college. If it happens to be a city that children like, it is the most ideal.
Therefore, parents can help their children in this factor, that is, in their spare time, they can take their children to the cities with the top GDP ranking 10 and tell their children the characteristics of these cities, such as Beijing: you can tell your children that Beijing is a political, economic and cultural center.
Beijing, Shanghai, Guangzhou, Nanjing and Hangzhou are all good places. There are good universities in every grade here.
Because many college students stayed in that city after graduation, after all, four years.
Choosing a city is one's investment, and different cities have different returns. A good city has more employment opportunities, which will broaden your horizons and gain more. Second-and third-tier cities may have certain restrictions on your career development.
B: School.
This year, Luo Zhenyu's New Year's speech "Friends of Time" said that he came to Huazhong University of Science and Technology (formerly Huazhong University of Science and Technology) in 1990, and he spent more than 20 years thinking about one thing: What is the longer the time, the greater the value? The school is the biggest resource, and the wealth that the school gives to children is the network resources.
Therefore, as a parent or a person who will be a parent in the future, first make clear the classification of universities.
The first level, 985 universities, such as Tsinghua, Peking University, Fudan University and Nankai University.
The second level, 2 1 1 institutions, one of which is better, such as Hunan Normal University and Nanjing University of Science and Technology, does not belong to 985.
The third level is institutions, not 985, not 2 1 1, such as Shanghai Normal University, Nanjing University of Posts and Telecommunications and Xiangtan University.
The fourth level, two undergraduate courses, such as Yunnan University of Finance and Economics and Xiamen University of Technology.
The fifth level, three books, is generally named after colleges, such as Liren College of Yanshan University and South China Institute of Software Engineering of Guangzhou University.
The sixth grade is generally a college major in one or two universities.
There is also a private college.
You can tell your child the historical and cultural origin of the school according to his own situation, so that he can understand the value of the school himself. Because resources in the school will appear in the distant future. Just like the photos taken at Solway's meeting, anyone familiar with physics knows that it is full of big coffee, so the school ranks 100 in the college entrance examination volunteers.
Hundreds: Major
If your ideal is to enter a university, then choose this university and then choose your major.
Of course, those with high scores should choose good universities and majors.
For most people, grades are not necessarily acceptable. Majoring is a lifelong matter, which will be reflected when looking for a job. Social work pays more attention to ability. What you'd better do is that your career has something to do with what you learned in the past.
Then, in order to push our own choices, we should let our children know what major they want to study, and what cities and schools should be promoted in your local area according to their majors, such as what to recruit for liberal arts in Hebei Province? You should make a list of all the recruits in the past few years as a strategic choice, choose a branch according to the professional recruitment conditions, and decide whether to study literature or science according to the major of the city school you choose.
Unit: execution
The implementation is: make a plan, according to which university and major your child is going to, you need to take him to the entrance of this university, this major or this department, so that he can be full of this hope and yearning for this university. We can make two or three choices and then let him know what is his motivation to study hard every day. Let his choice of universities be more three-dimensional.
For a child, how to win steadily? Is to complete the choice of city, school and major, how to choose his high school arts and sciences? How to get points? How to understand the study plan? Because his choice is to accumulate resources here in the next four years. If he goes to graduate school again, all his connections will be in this city.
As a parent, we should help him make a good strategic layout and think about how to take the college entrance examination from a global perspective.