First of all, this girl should be ok-looking, but definitely not too young. She needs to tell others that she is young and beautiful to increase her self-confidence and a little vanity.
Secondly, this girl is confident and competitive, and feels that everything is better than others, hoping to get the effect of the stars holding the moon.
Finally, my sister feels that the daily office work is a bit boring. Women like to talk about clothes, beauty, youth and other things to adjust the atmosphere. Say others are bad, just say yourself. No matter what you say is true or not, everyone is happy together anyway [covering their faces].
So what are the girls in your office like? [Laughing and crying]
The above situation is not uncommon. Almost every office has such a female colleague, hoping that others will praise her for being young and beautiful.
The psychology of such a woman can be divided into several categories:
1.？ I have a strong vanity and like to listen to praise.
In fact, every woman has a good idea about her appearance and temperament. She knows, she knows and she knows. Asking others about her looks is vanity, she just wants to hear compliments! In praise, with echo, enchanting, coy, and even as an argument for self-praise, I will tell others that everyone in the office says I am young and beautiful. A vain woman is actually very sad and lives without herself. Beauty is very important to a person, but it is not that important.
2.？ Extremely insecure.
Some women are not confident enough. When they bought a new dress and a pair of shoes, they had to ask for praise and affirmation in front of others. When others say they are good-looking, they will be very happy psychologically. When someone says no, she will lose confidence at the basic moment. Of course, the same is true of appearance. Such women are not confident enough, so they should read more books and improve their self-confidence.
3.？ Paralyze yourself from the praise of others, with the growth of age rather than mental growth.
This kind of woman is really not too young, paralyzing herself from the language praised by others. In addition to wanting others to praise her for being young and beautiful, her daily behavior will be mixed with act young's cuteness, and even her dress is basically not in line with her actual age, and she is dressed as modest as a little girl. This kind of woman is generally naive, but she doesn't grow up when she grows up. They always like to play the role of a little girl, but they don't know she is old. Not mature enough!
Hello, from a psychological point of view, it is the fear of getting old.
1, getting old means losing charm.
Women, in particular, are afraid of being said to be old and even want to be said to be beautiful when they are 60 years old. Once on a bus, an aunt came up and asked the driver to swipe her card. She said it was an elderly card, but the driver didn't believe it. Aunt said she wanted to show you her ID card. The driver's EQ is very high. She said she didn't need to see it, but you don't look like an old man in his sixties at all. Aunt didn't mention how happy she was and said thank you.
Being old means losing control.
Many people are strong when they are young, but they can never be old when they are old. Whether it's a man or a woman, as soon as you say it, they are completely out of control and even do something to show their control. What he wants to tell you is that I am not as useless as you say.
Being old means dying.
Although human beings are curious about the unknown world, they are more afraid, especially death, which is permanent, irreversible and even more fearful. So I don't want to admit that I am old, partly because I am afraid of death!
In fact, the above analysis is very common and normal in life. Colleagues like this, you know she hates this, just pay attention, Qi Xin work together and live in harmony!
I hope it's useful, thanks for reading!
Women, with strong vanity and fragile feelings, are always worried that they may be old and ugly, and their colleagues will look down on themselves. In short, they are not strong inside, so they care about other people's opinions and like others to praise her to satisfy their vanity.
I think it's normal psychology. Women love beauty and want others to praise them for being young and beautiful. No one wants others to say that they are old and ugly. Maybe your colleague is cheerful and lively, so others like to praise her, which is normal.
Everyone loves beauty. This problem is not uncommon. This phenomenon exists in every company, especially in units with more women. Lesbians get together to see who dresses well and who dresses best. First, I am really beautiful. I can show off in front of my colleagues and satisfy my vanity.
This kind of person is really cultured, just smile and face it. Why be serious, unworthy, and don't get too close to such people, and strive to improve your professional level is your top priority.
Every office will have similar colleagues. Let me analyze it from a psychological point of view.
1, true appearance
There are such female colleagues and classmates in life. She is skinny and doesn't meet the beauty standards of forward and backward. Because of the acne in adolescence, I left traces on my face, resulting in rough skin and sparse hair, which only grew a little taller. This is my true portrayal of her.
2, high-grade clothes to dress up, competitive, cover up the inner glitz
The monthly salary is fixed, so she uses crying and making trouble to get extra money from her parents and relatives for high consumption, so as to show that her family is superior.
As big as tens of thousands of mink coats in winter, as small as long skirts in summer 1000 yuan. Armed to the teeth, her hair spent thousands of dollars on high-grade color, and she looked like a tall lady in the back. Because of carelessness and impetuousness, the makeup on my face reminds me of Lu Xun's image of Yang Er's little sister-in-law with thin feet.
3. Standing in front of the office mirror for a long time, looking for psychological balance.
There are many women in the group, and there are many envious ones. There are many people who don't like her, and some hold smelly feet. So nine out of ten people in the office didn't like her, and one out of ten people praised her for being cheap, which formed an awkward atmosphere in the office.
1, let her know that she is full of poetry.
After years of precipitation, a woman should use her knowledge, temperament and charm to gain the respect of others, from exquisite makeup to amorous feelings between gestures, which have nothing to do with her. Guide her to fill in the blanks with books in her spare time and improve her temperament.
2, tolerance, kindness to guide interpersonal communication.
Because of my colleagues and classmates, I am one of her friends who dare to be tactful and outspoken. Every time she loses her temper, regardless of weight, I convince people by reasoning and disown her. She listened to the advice and later regretted it, but her self-control was really poor. After spending some time together, her temper has changed a lot.
3. Kindly remind to root out the problem.
Kindly remind you to be more delicate when making up and take good care of your skin. When you meet her after a while, you will sincerely praise her. Her skin is much better. We are two completely different personalities, but my tolerance will continue our friendship.
In short: this kind of office colleagues may be popular if there are many male colleagues in the office, and will not be liked by people in places where there are many female colleagues because they are competitive, boastful and vain, but try to accept and guide them, and you will get along very happily!
Women feel good about themselves after buying new clothes or doing new hairstyles! In order to be more sure whether your feelings are correct, let colleagues and friends around you evaluate them. This kind of psychology is normal, understandable and understandable. In this case, for the sake of unity and friendship, and for the sake of better harmony in future work, it is not difficult to praise her. In this case, even if she looks plain, she will be very happy and happy in her heart, and she will feel that she is a beautiful woman that everyone loves! It is normal for women to love beauty and praise!
It may be a joke, so there is nothing wrong with it, which can reduce the work pressure of colleagues;
On the other hand, she lacks confidence. Let her colleagues praise her, let her redouble her spirit and work hard.
Another situation is that she is really beautiful. Is it a little abnormal for her colleagues not to praise her?
Actually, working with beautiful people will make you beautiful!