The real right marriage does not lie in money and status, but in whether the spirit and three views of both sides fit together. If so, you can still have a happy life even if the family conditions are very different. Just like Qian Zhongshu and Mr. Jiang Yang, one is a young lady from a big family, and the other is an ordinary child from a poor family, but they have been in love all their lives and become enviable true soul mates.
If the spirit is different and the three views are different, even if the family conditions are similar, it is still better than this kind of life. Although a really good marriage lies in the management of husband and wife, if the three views are inconsistent, how can we ensure that we can have the same topic after marriage?
Two people with different views are like sailing in opposite directions. The harder they push, the farther away they will be, and the final separation is almost doomed. Every time I think about this, Yu Dou Jr. feels particularly lucky: fortunately, he has separated from his ex-boyfriend, otherwise he doesn't know what life will be like in the future.
It turns out that Xiaoyu's ex-boyfriend and she just belong to a typical family. Xiaoyu came from a big city and was loved by her parents since childhood. She hardly suffered any material difficulties. As the only child in the family, parents naturally leave her the best.
But her ex-boyfriend is just the opposite. He comes from the countryside and his family has a heavy burden. There are many brothers and sisters, some of whom are still at school, so he is very sensible. After graduating from college, he shouldered the burden of supporting his family.
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It is precisely because of this that Xiaoyu has a particularly good impression of him and thinks that he is a particularly responsible, responsible and filial person. Xiaoyu thinks that if he can marry such a man, he will feel safe in the future, because he is self-motivated, honest and has always been very good to himself, which can be said to be meticulous care, so he will love himself more, both materially and spiritually.
But the result is just the opposite, because his association with Xiaoyu has always been purposeful. To put it more simply, what he really loves is not Xiaoyu, but the family behind her. As a foreigner and from the countryside, the burden is heavy and the natural pressure is great. If you can marry the only son in a big city, you can struggle less for decades.
Moreover, Xiaoyu is a very simple girl who is particularly yearning for love. Whether in love or marriage, she has no special requirements, just hope that the other party can be good to herself.
Because materially, she lacks nothing.
Before getting married, her parents are going to buy her a house as a dowry They are such daughters, so we must treat her as well as possible. Plus they know the truth about their future son-in-law. It's a bit unrealistic for him to buy a house in a big city. Fortunately, he is a self-motivated person and has been working hard for the future of two people.
It is precisely because of the ambition of the future son-in-law that Xiaoyu's parents reluctantly agreed to this marriage.
Who would have thought that buying a house completely exposed his "ambition", not only the marriage did not form, but also the relationship between the two came to an end.
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When I learned that Xiaoyu's parents were going to buy her a house as a dowry, my ex-boyfriend came to me the first time and asked Xiaoyu if it was true. Then, instead of feeling Xie Xiaoyu and her parents for the first time, he called his parents, as if to show off how capable he was.
After all, not every child from the countryside can find an only daughter in a big city, so he marries a suite.
But this incident is exactly the trigger for their breakup.
Because in the later days, my ex-boyfriend kept looking for Xiaoyu and wanted her to add her name to the real estate license. Very desperate. He said, "Is this suite that your parents married for our future residence?" Since it's for us, why can't you write my name?
It's not easy for my parents to raise me so big. I am working hard outside, and they are particularly worried. If I buy a house without my name, then I am different from being a guarantor. I am a man, and I am very proud. I've been living in other people's homes to let others see me.
Have you ever thought about me? "
He kept saying that Xiaoyu had completely collapsed, because he was so different from the other half he imagined, or even the opposite.
It's hard to believe that the person you love is so naturally asking for it from yourself. He keeps saying that it is not easy for himself, and how can others be easy? It's not easy to emphasize yourself blindly, it's just a moral kidnapping.
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Because of this, they quarreled countless times. When we quarreled for the last time, Xiaoyu couldn't stand it any longer, and broke up directly, with a firm attitude and no room for discussion.
I didn't make up my mind at first, because Xiaoyu felt that he would wake up as long as he reasoned with him well. After all, he has been working hard and responsible for his family. Xiaoyu feels that she is not a bad person in her bones.
But by buying a house, she gradually began to feel that there was no ambition in the other person's bones. He has been emphasizing face and dignity, but he doesn't know that the real face is earned by himself, not from his girlfriend and in-laws.
No one is obliged to pay for his poverty. His poor family conditions have nothing to do with Xiaoyu.
She never hesitated to understand this.
The most speechless thing is that he didn't realize where he was wrong until he broke up, and he kept saying that "marrying him was originally ours." Is it wrong to write my name? " Since buying a house refuses to write my name, it means that there is no sincerity at all. Even if she doesn't mention this marriage, I will resolutely quit. "
He really made Xiaoyu laugh. I don't know if he is saving face for himself or if he really thinks so. In a word, Xiaoyu really doesn't want to play with such a meaningless phoenix man.
Why can't a woman marry a Phoenix man?
Because you never know when the other person will refresh your cognitive bottom line, he will keep asking for it and take it for granted. Such people seem to be filial, but in fact they are ignorant and never know what is right or wrong.
How can you expect a person to take on a family if he has a wrong view from the root?