33 years, savor carefully, if I want to say something amazing, or something similar to Ma Yun's social status, then I really have accomplished nothing!
At the same time, I have a stable job. Although my salary is not high, I can at least support myself and have a balance, which can guarantee my further study.
In addition, from 14, that is, at the age of 27, I began to formally study psychological counseling and psychology. Through hard work, I obtained a bachelor's degree in applied psychology from East China Normal University, as well as a national second-class psychological counselor qualification certificate and a national junior high school mental health education teacher qualification certificate. Although it seems to others that my sideline has just started, it may still be a stage where I can't make ends meet and can't be realized soon, so I have accomplished nothing.
Therefore, "nothing" is our judgment, and "one thing" also brings us strong expectations.
You can try to sort out what you think is the state of "success in one thing" and what is the "thing" you expect to succeed in one thing?
At the same time, sort out your own advantages, whether you think they are advantages, others think you have advantages, or bright spots that are helpful to you. For example, my own pass rate is only 10%, regardless of the national second-level psychological counselor or the national junior high school mental health education teacher qualification certificate. Although others still think it's "nothing", I can pass the exam with a pass rate of 10%, and I definitely have my own advantages and strengths.
Moderate anxiety is one of the key factors of human progress, and moderate anxiety can give us motivation.
So try to face the fact that you still feel that you have accomplished nothing at the age of 33, and think about what you might do after 33 to make yourself successful.
I hope I can give you some inspiration through my sharing.
I don't know what you think of the so-called "success".
As a leader who "eats and dies", I don't have any grand ambitions.
Sweat from exercise, making a good cup of tea with radix aucklandiae, watching the milk bubble stirred by black coffee, reading a thrilling passage, kissing my little daughter's pink face, putting on a lovely dress … every moment is pleasing to the eye and comfortable.
Experiencing the sureness of life and inner guilt is probably my "great achievement" in shallow understanding.
Don't go with the flow, be unique, there is no "nothing".
Amitabha [Yeah] Good [Rose]
First, eat regularly and exercise regularly. For example, no matter what you do, having a healthy and strong body is the most basic.
Second, strengthen theoretical study, make a decision before moving, whether starting a business or working, you must have theoretical literacy in the corresponding field.
Third, develop a good attitude. The poorest people are nothing more than begging, and there will be a day when they die. Regardless of good times and bad times, people should have perseverance and pragmatic efforts. Although it can't be said that they will be rich and expensive, as long as they do the above, at least it is not a problem to settle down.
Ten years after I left the army, I met your same problem. I think it was the most difficult decade of my life. On the one hand, I feel that I have wasted a lot of youth, on the other hand, I can't find the direction of development and the starting point of concrete actions. I don't know what to do, lack of funds, lack of courage, confusion, anxiety and pessimism. Now think about it, in fact, you only need to take the first step, even if it is not suitable at that time, you can constantly correct your mistakes and make progress in practice. Because you are walking in the direction of your dream. Instead of worrying in the same place, take your steps. Believe in yourself, make a firm choice, and don't be bothered by trifles around you. The reason why you are anxious shows that you are still enterprising and you will definitely get what you want! Come on!
I'm glad to answer this question. I am just 33 years old this year.
First, let's take a look. What do you mean nothing?
at home
1, no family, no children, facing parents' urging marriage, friends and relatives' strange eyes, feeling invisible pressure, being alone and having nothing to say, gradually leading to psychological anxiety and even depression.
work
2, there is no stable job, no fixed source of income, or no goal, do not know what to do, how to go in the future.
3, lack of skills, lack of self-ability, social work everywhere hit a wall, leading to accumulated anxiety, plus compared with relatives and friends around, more helpless and lead to depression.
emotionally
4, the emotional life is not smooth, and the girlfriend is in conflict, or talking about marriage, facing buying a house and buying a car. , bring great financial pressure to yourself.
I've been there myself. There are many similarities between the situations I have encountered before, and I have been at a loss. I don't know what to do.
The solution to this situation gives you three suggestions.
1, keep healthy and energetic, and don't give up on yourself. Even if you keep running every day, don't stay at home alone. Only when you go out will you have a chance.
2. Find your intimate friends or relatives, pour out your thoughts and puzzles, let them help you solve your psychological stress, spit out your feelings to relieve the pressure, and don't keep it in your heart all the time, causing more serious consequences.
3.33 years old is not too late. Find a job to enrich yourself, or learn a skill to start a small business. Now, we advocate stall economy. You can set up a stall and get yourself moving.
I believe that as long as you are determined, you will be able to overcome the immediate difficulties and get out of anxiety. Wish you success!
Can't say that nothing has been achieved, at least it has reached anxiety. Anxiety is not just negative. As a normal emotion, anxiety also has many positive meanings. Otherwise, how can people have such meaningless emotions? First of all, anxiety can protect people from possible dangers. Secondly, anxiety can urge people to concentrate all their energy on dangerous things in a short time, and can achieve the goal of eliminating danger in time. Thirdly, anxiety can stimulate people's potential ability, thus stimulating energy that can't be exerted under normal circumstances and solving problems that can't be solved under normal circumstances. Of course, this refers to normal anxiety, and excessive anxiety is certainly harmful and unintentional.
I understand the truth. The goal of hard training now is to integrate knowledge with practice.
The biggest feeling recently is: slow down, let your heart settle down first, and then practice for your own goals until what you practice permeates your body and naturally emanates from your body and mind.
Can't be impatient. A lot of confusion and emptiness are due to your inner desire for success. 20 years old, you thought it was a long time, but you arrived in the blink of an eye. I must wait until I am forty, and it is the same when I look back at thirty. Everything planned for the age of twenty is wrong. The cost of trial and error is getting higher and higher, and I dare not jump ship at will.
Life is like playing chess. If you take a few wrong steps, you will be passive in the back. College entrance examination, major selection, textual research, postgraduate entrance examination, going abroad, first job. There are many detours to take. Others are speeding in the workplace, and you are stuck in traffic jams in the city.
Think of this as a dream.
When you stagnate, you have regressed.
Perhaps unconsciously, the post-90 s and post-95 s in the company occupy all positions in the workplace. The post-00 generation in society is ready to go. I have never stood up.
At present, the average living age in society is over 75 years old.
The early thirties are the end of the first half, the second half has not yet begun, and the game is far from over. How can you give up?
If there is no correct information guidance from family or friends around, planning is also disorderly planning. Now there is no good strategy except "self-improvement". Keep a good habit of fitness, relieve psychological pressure, find an industry that is easy to enter, find an object that can be imitated in it, and just copy it directly. For example, girls can find a job in an accounting firm, and then try to take cpa exams. After three or four years, they will not be afraid of anything.
I have been in a company for five years, and my monthly salary is 1000 yuan. I have no job and no future. I have resolutely resigned and started over. Finally, when there is a back road, we will never cook the roast chicken of the weasel step by step when we leave the comfort zone. Secondly, we will not die comfortably in repeating boring things.
Now I am 30 years old and feel that I have accomplished nothing. We must redouble our efforts. Otherwise, when we are 40 years old, we will remain the same.
Write to people as poor as I am.
First of all, we must understand that we are all ordinary people and most of us have accomplished nothing.
What do you mean nothing?
We go to school, primary school, junior high school, senior high school, university, graduate, work, work step by step, earn money and get married.
It's all like this. The anxiety in middle age comes from your fear that life is out of control.
To put it bluntly, nothing has caused this fear.
But on second thought, aren't most people like this?
Instead of being anxious, think about how to change.
Take time out to study, keep fit and try to be a better self.
Take on more responsibilities in life, honor your parents and spend more time with your wife and children.
Anxiety is inevitable, and the mentality can be adjusted.
No one is satisfied with his life. Pay more attention to his family life and work, and don't worry about it.
Live in the moment and fight for it.
As it happens, I just turned 33. Like most of my peers, I have a stable job, my salary is not high, and I can't get rich if I am hungry. This kind of life is what the title says: nothing.
I looked back and found that compared with my colleagues, I was one of the losers. Because I hadn't bought a house at that time, and many of my colleagues were biting their teeth to buy a house. Now I pay back more than 3 thousand loans every month, and my life is still moist.
I compare with them, although the days are the same, but there is no difference. But as far as the house is concerned, we are no longer at the same level.
I've been struggling with this for a long time and thought a lot. Finally, I overcame it. Luck is certainly one of the reasons for this gap, but I find that what I lack is the pattern.
Everyone has a different pattern and understanding of world values. Successful people think more than others, and their horizons are broader than others. I didn't understand this problem until I was 30 years old. Before I was 30 years old, I lived in a muddle, and I was busy with my work all the year round, with a little dead salary from morning till night. Live in the present and be at a loss about the future.
Now, I will spend more personal time on my study. After all, a 33-year-old man with a family and children can't easily change the environment. As for anxiety, it has always existed in my heart. But I know what I should do more is to study more, try to change myself, do my best, and resign myself to fate after work!
My friend, I understand your present state. You should know that a problem, no matter what causes it, has been in anxiety, and time will pass unconsciously like running water. This is a meaningless waste of life and the most undesirable attitude towards life.
My friend, first try to relax yourself and think with a normal heart. What can I do now to improve my present situation? Where should I start? Where is the direction? Re-plan your life, then work hard, don't look up easily, keep yourself busy, and there is no time and space for anxiety.
Besides, my friend, 33 years old, has just entered the golden stage of his life. It's not too late to start from scratch. The good times of your life have just begun. You have great potential and broad prospects. Remember four words, say less and do more. Come on, friend!