There are two hot searches in these two days that make people warm and loving:
One is that the actor Liu Neng in "Country Love" became a grandfather, and his grandson was very happy.
Outside the delivery room, "Liu Neng" cried with joy when he heard the news of his grandson's birth, which made Rongping feel happy and joyful.
Another hot search is that grandma in the country is afraid that her grandson in the city will go back to the countryside and be bored, so she specially arranged a group of chickens to follow her grandson everywhere. Chickens became grandchildren's friends, and the scene was really lovely.
Two hot searches can show that the old people care for their grandchildren in every possible way. It is really "every generation is like a family."
The old people's love for the next generation is often doting on their children and endlessly doting on them, which is also the most tangled place for many novice mothers: not letting the old people take care of their children and finding a nanny is not at ease; Let the old man take it Old people are used to children, relying on indigenous methods and unscientific feeding, and they are in a dilemma.
With the implementation of the three-child policy, it is really a big deal for parents of office workers who will take care of their babies. My point is that if there is no suitable nanny, it is of course the most realistic choice for the elderly to take care of their babies. However, let the elderly take care of the baby, we should pay attention to these points:
What the old people are most worried about when they take care of their children is that the old people are used to their children, endlessly pampered and lawless.
In order to prevent this situation, it is suggested that the baby Ma Bao let the elderly take care of the baby during the day and working days, and take care of it at night and weekends, spend as much time with the children as possible, enhance parent-child feelings, make sense and set rules for the children, and influence the children with good habits.
Another principle is that children should go to kindergarten at the age of 3 and receive formal education in kindergarten to reduce the negative impact of the old people's pampering on children.
It is inevitable that there will be differences between old people and children. It is very important to get along well with these three principles:
Speak frankly, tell the truth, and speak frankly.
If you think differently from your mother-in-law, you should bring it up calmly, don't hide it, and don't sulk. People need communication. Pay attention to a calm tone and smile when you speak. It is best to show the experts' opinions to the elderly, who will be more likely to accept authoritative suggestions or opinions.
If there is a problem, you'd better let your husband communicate.
The mother-in-law takes care of the baby and has important things to communicate. It's best to let her husband come forward. After all, she is a son, and her mother-in-law won't care.
What a daughter-in-law should do is to do a good job in the relationship between husband and wife, so that her husband can stand on the side of scientific parenting and uphold justice. This is also good for children and families.
A lot of emotional investment
Daily life, mother's birthday, mother's day, pay more attention to her mother-in-law, and buy her favorite clothes and food if possible. Although my mother-in-law will say "it costs money, don't buy it", she must be very happy. The elderly have a strong sense of happiness, a harmonious relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and an emotional foundation. If she gives advice to the baby, the mother-in-law will think that the daughter-in-law is really good to the child, and will be willing to cooperate without finding fault or trouble.
Mastering this psychological principle is very important for a happy and harmonious family relationship, that is, treating your mother-in-law as a roommate!
What do you mean?
Just like roommates living in a dormitory, although they live under the same roof, they are not related by blood. Respect each other's habits and practices, don't make irresponsible remarks, treat the elderly as ordinary roommates and keep psychological boundaries.
If the old man still won't listen to advice, let her go. After all, it is not easy for the elderly to change their ideas and practices. If you are present, you can stick to your own practice and don't have to insist.
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