When the female patient told the psychological counselor the details of her love affair with her little boyfriend, she already knew that the little man was her son's mother, so she could control herself from going crazy. She told her son that she cared that his girlfriend was not Jewish, but the real reason was the age of the woman. When the son asked the mother that she was encouraging her patients not to care about their age, brave enough to love, the mother only said "because you are my son". The voice-over is that her patients can love other people's sons, but not their own. It really reflects that everyone has a hypocritical side. Our attitude is extremely generous when it has nothing to do with our own interests. Once one touches one's own interests, one's selfish nature will be revealed.
Love is the foundation of being together, and being together is based on the same lifestyle, outlook on life and values. 14 years old gap, often make discordant sounds when getting along. The female patient and her son finally chose to break up. Although, in this process, my mother accepted this "daughter-in-law" very calmly. She wisely left everything to time. She believes that time will give the right answer. Parents, sometimes in the face of their children, choose a partner they can't accept, acting too aggressively, just like a knotted rope, and the more you drag it, the tighter it gets.
Female patients choose to break up, which is a responsible choice for him and her. If they are together, they may be happy. But who can guarantee that they will bypass the topic of age when quarreling? Who can guarantee that in the dispute, the woman will not be impatient because she is older than the man; And the man will not be unscrupulous because of the "sacrifice" he made at the beginning. Although both sides may want to avoid this sensitive point and even try to make up for this imbalance, at the same time, the scales in some places have tilted.
My son's mother and psychological counselor is a very rational and approachable counselor in front of female patients. In front of her son, like most mothers, she will react violently to the out-of-line things done by her children. In front of her best friend, she is so helpless that she doesn't hide her emotions. Played by Meryl
Streep's performance is in place and vividly shows many aspects of the role. The performance seems exaggerated, but it is actually brilliant. Emotion and body language are well balanced. The transition of each role is seamless. Each of us lives in this society and needs to play different social roles indiscriminately. It really takes some wisdom to play every role well, not to be confused and to achieve the balance of every role.
The plot of this movie seems absurd, but there are many such love stories in reality. Under the pressure of public stereotypes and public opinion, how many people can break the traditional concept and resist the pressure just to maintain their beautiful love? How many people can accept that their children are on the "losing side" in such a love relationship. Those who are more open-minded about love abroad can't accept it, let alone those of us who are conservative in reality. Under such circumstances, should we give up traditional ideas to pursue love, or give up love in order to defend tradition? The answer lies in everyone's heart.