The general consultation time is fixed, but both sides will inevitably encounter various accidents. Then this kind of private contact is definitely necessary. The consultant will reply and will not involve the violation of principles. This is part of the job itself.
Second, exchange consultation questions and timely emotions.
From the starting point of a visit, I don't think it is necessary to be too hard on myself. I don't want to talk to a counselor without consulting. Only under the premise of ensuring mutual respect can it be completely sorted into a paragraph and sent as soon as possible. Counselors should keep a peaceful mind no matter how much they go back.
In the face of visiting, exchange consultation questions and timely mood. Personally, if the consultant has the energy. The reply is similar to, I saw your news, and we will discuss this issue next time; Or let yourself think about why you have such an idea and discuss it next time. Similar to this reply, there is nothing wrong. This is also the process of establishing a sense of border between the two sides.
Third, to become a consultant, you must have the ability of * * *
What does a consultant do when you express your doubts with him? Whether to face the problem directly, or to beat around the bush with you, or to ask you in turn. How do you feel in your usual consultation? Feeling seen, feeling very comfortable; I thought this was it.
Professional background of the consultant. Professional background is not absolute. There are indeed many consultants with poor professional background, but their practical ability is not so good. So the background should be combined with your own feelings.
Fourth, good vigilance.
In addition, I have some doubts about the media in your. For me, maybe I think it's too personal to communicate by phone and SMS, including WeChat. I will feel very urgent, and it is safer to communicate by phone and SMS. Use the consulting app at other times, otherwise the email will have a sense of boundary. However, it depends on how you define "SMS".
It is good to be alert to these laws, and there is still a long way to go for the development of psychological counseling in China. Safeguard measures and norms in all aspects need to be improved. The best solution is not to have doubts in your heart, but to speak out in time. Know the attitude of the consultant early and make judgment early. You mentioned consulting several psychological counselors in the first sentence. I don't know if you did it at the same time. There is no need to do it at the same time. If there is a priority, maybe you have your own experience of ending a relationship. Then, the problem you raised will be better solved. Bring up your doubts and see each other's feedback. Accept it yourself and continue, or end it if you don't accept it.