When educating their children, parents must pay attention to their own educational methods, and they should not let their children have psychological problems because of the wrong educational methods, such as making them feel inferior.
A child with low self-esteem, whether living or studying, can hardly do better than other peers.
Therefore, when educating children, parents should choose appropriate ways to educate their children, take good care of their mental health and help them establish a sound psychology.
Suppress education
Some parents pursue repressive education, thinking that praise makes people regress, and only criticism can give children enough pressure to turn pressure into motivation.
However, what these parents don't know is that this kind of education method adopted by themselves is not applicable to all children.
For these sensitive and vulnerable children, parents' repressive education is like a boulder on themselves.
These pressures are accumulated on children, which not only makes children feel inferior, but also easily leads to tragedy.
Remember the boy who jumped from the upstairs? When the mother's repressive education became "the last straw to overwhelm the camel", it was too late to save the tragedy.
Contrastive education
I believe that many children will have a "other people's child" to grow up with them when they grow up.
This "other people's child" often appears in the mouth of parents, not only with good academic performance, but also obedient and sensible.
Parents often compare their children's shortcomings with the advantages of "other people's children", which will also make children feel inferior in the process of comparison.
But some parents don't know this, which not only makes children feel inferior, but also separates them from themselves.
Extreme poverty education
In order to prevent children from developing the habit of spending money lavishly, or to make them realize the hardships and difficulties of parents making money, many parents always cry to their children when they spend money.
Although this kind of "crying poor education" will make children appreciate their parents' selfless efforts, it also has disadvantages.
Children are likely to feel inferior because of "crying poor education", feel that their family conditions are not as good as others, and have no confidence to enter high-end shopping malls when spending.
This kind of inferiority will always be accompanied by children's growth, and children need to make great efforts to get rid of their inner inferiority and timidity.
We saw the dazzling star Chen Kun on TV. It's really hard to imagine that he used to be an inferiority complex.
Because of his parents' divorce, Chen Kun experienced a very gloomy childhood when he was very young, which made him an inferior child in his bones. This has brought a lot of unnecessary troubles to the growth of Chen Kun.
As he said, it took him 30 years to get rid of the shackles of the past and become a brand-new self. The efforts made during this period are unimaginable.
Moreover, not all children can heal their childhood like Chen Kun and get rid of the negative influence of inferiority complex.
If the child can't get rid of it, inferiority will accompany the child for life.
Children have a low sense of self-worth.
When children have been suppressed by their parents, they can't have self-identity, which leads to low self-worth.
"Self-worth is a kind of consciousness and evaluation about the value of self-existence. If the sense of self-worth is too low, it is easy to feel inferior, lack competitive spirit and have no confidence in the future. "
This will make children feel more inferior and have a lower sense of self-worth; The lower the sense of self-worth, the lower the self-esteem of children.
Children have learned helplessness.
When children feel inferior, they will also have learned helplessness's psychology.
When a child is faced with a problem, he can't find an effective solution to the problem, but falls into a mode of constantly questioning his ability.
This is the influence of learned helplessness's psychology on children.
Therefore, for children with low self-esteem, the most important thing to solve is not the problem itself, but the child's disapproval of himself now.
Children have all kinds of psychological problems.
When a child's heart is full of inferiority, there will be various psychological problems.
For example, children's personality will become timid, unwilling to communicate with others at ordinary times, taciturn, hostile to excellent people and so on.
These psychological problems will be accompanied by the passage of time, like snowballing, and eventually make children make wrong behaviors.
As a child's parents, if you don't want to cultivate a child with inferiority, then you must do these things.
Second, parents should encourage their children to go forward bravely, and don't criticize them all the time in a repressive educational way, which will affect their psychological state.
Third, encourage children, give them positive comments and cultivate their self-affirmation, so as to raise confident and sunny children.
Fourth, as parents of children, children should learn to love themselves. Let children learn to accept their own defects and deficiencies, and on this basis, constantly strengthen self-affirmation, which is to let children "love themselves."
Only when children learn to love themselves will they not be easily defeated by inferiority.
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