Of course not. One-on-one seniors personally instructed by a senior encountered such a situation: probably in mid-March, there was something wrong with his sister paper because of blind date: the other party didn't return information, didn't answer the phone, and ignored the door-to-door search. Finally, he found a senior and signed up for one-on-one intermediate rescue guidance (after April, the senior only gave advanced guidance because of limited time, and the previous intermediate still enjoyed advanced guidance).
After the intervention, the senior didn't let him contact Sister Paper immediately, but according to the process, he first learned in detail the process of acquaintance, love and "killing each other" between him and Sister Paper, and combed the general process for him:
Disconnecting temporarily → learning the principle of attraction →→→→→→→ adjusting the mentality →→→→ understanding the differences between men and women →→→→→→→ learning how to grasp the minds of girls →→→→→→→→→→ training chatting thinking →→→ establishing a circle of friends (personal image) →→ establishing a circle of friends (personal image) →→ establishing contacts.
The first thing to do is to have a class, and take the attraction class first. Unexpectedly, this class touched him. After studying, he understood his own value and re-evaluated his own value. This is the foundation: value attraction, ideas determine routines. After class, continue to read the "Charm Attraction Tutorial" of seniors, and use it as a complete set (one-on-one guidance of seniors can be given away). The tutorial is very powerful while talking!
After the psychology class, he began to enter the state, and he began to reflect on the status quo. Why? I am a high-value boy, why did I fall to the point of kneeling and licking a girl who is not as valuable as myself? My focus is entirely on the advantages of the other party, and my understanding of her is very unclear, which leads to this upside-down situation! The senior adjusted his psychology for a month and let him turn around completely. During this period, he also questioned why the seniors did this, but he was persuaded by the seniors.
The senior explained the chat to him according to the process, guided him in actual combat, gave him comments, and also talked about the construction of personal style and circle of friends. It should be said that this series of courses is effective, and his execution is good and practical. He explained to the seniors very seriously! This implementation ensures subsequent success!
After a period of study and actual combat, he feels good and is ready to send a message to the other party, but he can't write.
So the senior first told her about the emotional changes of girls. After all, there has been no interaction for two months. What the other person is thinking and what his mood is now is completely unclear. So the senior talked with him a lot about the role and performance of girls' emotions, the description of girls' psychological changes, what else can be mentioned, what must be mentioned and what can't be mentioned, and all of them were analyzed in detail.
Then the students thought it was too long and asked if they didn't have to talk about it all. The senior gave eight words, "show temptation and hide the key points." Chatting with girls, just like a merchant selling goods, must show enough temptation, but it's not like pouring out beans, leaving room, otherwise where is your mystery? Is chatting with you as interesting as drinking boiled water?
The students are smart enough to understand the meaning of the seniors at once and list the general contents.
The senior commented on him: yes, there is a skeleton, but there is no sense of flesh.
The students are a little confused. Why?
Because the seniors have been guiding him to change his thinking and training him in actual combat, the result is still good. Senior students don't worry, especially at this critical moment, we must guide students to think seriously. Seniors will teach you routines, but more ideas. You will know after reading it.
Sure enough, after a while, the students wrote a rough information template and sent it to the seniors.
After reading it, the seniors gave three suggestions: 1. His invitation is too purposeful and will make the other person very uncomfortable. I haven't contacted him for a while, and I invited him as soon as I came up. Who are you?
2, girls chat, is emotional thinking, pay attention to the sharing of feelings, and students have a lot of feelings recently, why not share?
It's not appropriate to mention it at this time because of the cold war before. Sister paper is easy to think of bad pictures. This is a big no-no.
Call back and rewrite it! Nothing! The student was clever and wrote another version.
No, there are two versions.
After reading it, the senior knew that it was probably the best information he could write, so he stopped asking him to write it and sent it to him in a different version.
What's the difference? Of course there is!
First of all, I started with feelings. This is almost the same, except that the senior mentioned the following sentence: "He has gone through the mortgage formalities". This matter is very important, because they had already discussed the matter of buying a house before, but the students were slow to move. After the senior intervened, I realized that my sister-in-law had blamed him for his "saying no to practice", so I took out what I had already done.
Secondly, I will share my recent feelings, and I want to share my plans with her. At the same time, I suggest going out at once to give each other a sense of urgency.
Thirdly, seduce sister paper in the form of talking about the future.
You see, the whole thing is: "During this period, I was not depressed or idle. I am not only doing things seriously, but also thinking about our future. But next time, I can't think alone. Our future is shared by two people. " I sent her an invitation.
The last paragraph also provides an invitation place, which is not forced, but easy to cooperate with each other.
The students sent it, but they couldn't follow the table.
Send a message in the morning 1 1: 30, and in the afternoon 1, the students can't hold it! Because I didn't reply, I didn't have a bottom, so it was too early to discuss with my seniors.
After learning about it, the senior found that he had consulted a team's teacher (there was a mosaic here, but it was not exposed) and felt that the sister paper would definitely ignore himself because it was caught in an infinite loop.
The senior is very calm and doesn't panic at all. Instead, I care about my mentality, because the seniors with mentality feel that the training is good. How can this happen suddenly?
Then I found that he still trusted the teacher in that team, because the teacher accosted many women and had sex with them, so he thought what they said was right.
At this time, the seniors came to push and pull: then go to them, because the seniors are not suitable for guiding you.
In fact, seniors will know that they are "possessed" because the guidance has been going on for a long time, and many messages have been sent before receiving the guidance, and the other party has not replied. He was bitten once, twice shy, and someone was bothering him. Don't panic.
The senior deliberately took a step back and directly said that he would not guide him. The students will still calm down, but still order the seniors: Do you control your emotions every day?
Haha, the senior admitted that he was smiling at the mobile phone screen. Because my goal has been achieved, he is not so excited or so flustered.
Senior, this push-pull is useful. So don't underestimate push and pull. Picking up girls is not only useful, but also very powerful in interpersonal communication.
Students keep expressing their worries, and seniors think it's time to respond positively.
In addition to telling him to draw a frame and bottom line for himself, he also told him to continue at this time, because the seniors trust their own judgment.
Because the seniors decided that they had a chance from the beginning! I have done so many cases, not only to feel, but also to sort out the facts, not only to judge the students' situation, but also to judge my sister-in-law's mood and specific situation. The conclusion of the analysis is that my sister-in-law has him in her heart, but he has made too many mistakes! As long as he can correct these, there is no problem at all.
At this time, the seniors said a few more words and stepped on several teams. They used some "XXOO with several women" to induce some students. Yes, they know women to some extent, but they know what kind of girl they are. There is nothing wrong with having sex with some girls by some quick means. They use some data to support and some indicators to measure girls, but they lack a kind of "cognition", that is, high emotional intelligence in love! Emotionally aware of each other's emotional changes and emotional state changes! This thing, not sleeping with several women, was knocked down many times before it was discovered!
What they still lack is the ability to love someone, but they don't know how to love and maintain a long-term relationship. They don't see the inevitable ups and downs in a long-term relationship.
These are the so-called mentors. Can you teach them? They don't even know how to teach you.
At this time, the students also remembered. In fact, her mother revealed something similar in February. This is something that the student didn't tell me, and now she has told me. Isn't this just the judgment of the seniors?
Because the students have been very worried, the senior sent him a long joke after the afternoon meeting.
The original text is very long, so I won't repeat it here. Look at the screenshot of the chat.
The general idea is that the mentality should be balanced, don't chase girls to make choices, and pay attention to taking care of girls' emotions. If your attitude is not good enough, you can't grasp the change of mood, and you can't make the best response. The window of sister paper will naturally be wasted by you!
Therefore, mentality not only determines fate, but also determines romance and marriage!
The seniors are talking about the rise, and the students say "a miracle happened"! Because the other party replied to the message!
And explicitly agreed to the invitation, directly covering the only imperfect invitation request.
The senior originally wanted to say, "You haven't sent WeChat for two months, have you? How do you feel? " But calm down, now is not the time to celebrate, you should continue to calm down and see how to reply to the message and let him send the screenshot.
At the same time, seniors continue to guide students to think about how to reply to messages. In fact, the senior has long thought about it, but he just can't tell him directly. For students, this is the best training time!
You see, I haven't contacted my sister for two months, and she finally replied. You must be very excited. At this time, you can reply to the message calmly. Isn't this a kind of growth? Why not take advantage of such a good exercise opportunity?
The students soon began to express their ideas.
The seniors continue to take their time and ask the students directly what you want to express.
At this time, the students actually began to use routines, and it was very nervous to distinguish between initiative and passivity.
Angry at the seniors.
But also continue to analyze their own reasons, seniors think it's time for telephone communication, so let him calm down and call the seniors in five minutes. Because the subtext is that seniors feel that their answers are not good, but they have to think for themselves first.
The student called in ten minutes, and the senior talked with him for about 20 minutes, and then he continued to write materials.
In fact, what the senior wants to tell him is that the other party has actually given the window, so don't make it complicated. Although she said she was busy, she was really busy. You can also tell him in the message that you are busy at night and make an appointment again. First, you have something to do, don't wait for her appointment. Secondly, you gave her space, without coercion.
The students understood it and immediately drew up a message, which basically met the requirements of the seniors. The seniors only added a "good", indicating that they were certain of each other from the beginning, so it would be more comfortable to take care of each other's psychology.
However, the students are still very cautious. Finally, they asked if it was necessary to give students more guidance. The senior encouraged him to be good. This is a bonus item, and you can add it boldly. This was just sent.
The rhythm is comfortable and the direction is correct. Next, just follow this step.
The student was very happy, but the senior reminded him not to be too happy, not to be happy and sad because of the gains and losses of one city and one place, to seek the overall situation and to be calm.
If you write a message specially, the senior can help you finish it in minutes. There is no doubt about it. But what exercise can students get in this process? What can I learn? Learn some routines? So you don't understand anything as soon as the senior guidance is over?
Therefore, this is what seniors have been emphasizing. Senior not only teaches you routines, but also teaches you ideas, because ideas determine routines! Before you learn to run, the seniors will take you away and slowly let you learn to walk and run by yourself. There are always some roads to run by yourself, right?
One-on-one guidance is not only to help you attract the people you like, in fact, seniors have recently emphasized this point: from the perspective of picking up girls, we must understand that we should seduce her in the way that girls like, and finally let the girls we like like like themselves;
This process is not isolated, including the construction of mentality, the transformation of thinking, the training of chatting, the construction of display surface and so on. The most basic thing is to deal with the opposite sex and people, and finally realize self-improvement from the inside out.
Through this matter, you will find that picking up girls is closely related to your work and life. No one comes here to pick up girls, except us, ahem. Most people, in fact, in the process of improving themselves, just pick up girls conveniently. If a man wants to have his own career, it is absolutely comfortable to pick up girls.
What is the purpose of one-on-one guidance for seniors? Is it to make students fall in love? Save the ex? Maybe both, but the most important thing is that we need to help students improve their self-worth. To improve this, we must first realize inner enrichment! With our help, we will gradually set our own goals and arrange what we should do every day under the guidance of the goals. In this way, students can gain a sense of satisfaction and pride from their own achievements without obtaining external recognition at all, and then influence others and even society from the inside out.
Love | love
Value attraction,
Ideas determine routines.
Know how to love, learn to love, learn to love someone, instead of just courting, be an attractive man who has the ability to love himself and spare no effort to love others! This is the ultimate goal of one-on-one guidance for seniors! Don't you think so?
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