First, don't do anything that makes you lower your price.
In view of the objective fact of breaking up, everyone's mentality will inevitably fluctuate. Some people can't get out of the shadow of breaking up from beginning to end, and choose some extreme methods to deal with emotional failure. It is common to kill couples for love or claiming their feelings. But is it really that terrible to break up? If you really want to save it, you need to bypass the following restricted areas.
If it can be redeemed, what can I say? Self-indulgence Some people feel that the whole world is going downhill after breaking up. What can they do to save their love? It seems that everything has lost its practical significance. Not only give up your daily life social circle, but also give up running yourself. Depressed, haggard, unable to extricate themselves. Although the pain after breaking up is inevitable, why does the other party want to be with you if you don't adjust your mentality immediately? On the contrary, you should enrich your daily life as much as possible and get rid of the pain. Mcgregor, a master of emotional reorganization, said, "After breaking up, both boys and girls will observe the dynamics of their ex-boyfriends, and the one who has done a good job in his infrastructure will always make the other party regret it." Your self-indulgence not only hurts yourself, but also is not conducive to recovery.
Evade responsibility. "He's too weak, he's too naive, she's too sensitive, she's too opinionated ..." This is what people often complain about after breaking up. They feel that the other person is not good enough for themselves, but they never change themselves. In fact, this question should be called "I'm too tough, I'm too serious, I'm too inconsiderate, and I don't want to guide her correctly ..." The compound premise is to know my own problems. If I keep putting my obligations and mistakes on the other side, I can't return to success. If you have been unwilling to deal with your own problems, you will still encounter the same situation in your subsequent emotional feelings. Why is emotion happy?
Extreme personal behavior. Refuse to accept the objective fact of breaking up, all walks of life are chasing after each other, want the other party's answer? I don't want it to be over. I cried and looked for each other. Can't bear the pain, hurt your body, or hurt the couple? This is all very irrational personal behavior. The other party immediately chooses to break up, indicating that your temptation has been reduced to a minimum. Your reckless search for a reply always makes the other person more resistant, and you will continue to feel too selfish. For breaking up, everyone must ease each other. The correct way is to give TA indoor space, which is also to create opportunities for yourself.
Second, improve the self-use value during refrigeration.
Generally speaking, when a woman breaks up with her boyfriend, she will start to cry, make trouble and hang herself. You may feel that if you only show your sadness, another convenience will pity you and change your decision to break up. In fact, what you have done will not only help to save _, but will destroy your own use value. There is only one way to really get men back together: to improve their use value.
The innovation of design. Maybe you think you are too self-righteous at the moment, and you don't need to make all the changes, but you must know that women must have a heart for perfection and beauty. If you don't want to go to the gym, you can practice yoga at home to lose weight, change a good-looking head shape, wear some clothes and pants that show your advantages, and try to choose appropriate clothes and pants. People are small animals with visual effects. According to this design, if you see his new upgrade next time, it will make him shine. Your change will let him know at a glance, and this improvement will help you save your feelings.
Essential renewal and transformation. Women's nature is easier to update and transform than men's, so you need to seize the opportunity to change your nature. Starting from today, you need to cultivate gentle, reasonable women who don't find fault with men and appreciate them. There are also many things that must be explored in the renewal and transformation of natural nature. You need patience to become a person who treats yourself well. You know, the renovation of design depends on the renovation of essence only when he first sees your change. The road to renovation is very long. You need to change while studying and training, so that you can become a more valuable person.
The structure of daily life. The method of saving boyfriends can also improve the use value from the structure of daily life. After breaking up, don't hide under the covers and cry. There are many happy things in daily life waiting for you to discover. You can make friends with high use value and expand your daily social circle. You need to let him know that you can make friends with people with high use value after breaking up, which will stimulate him and make him invest more money in you. You should be able to live a healthy daily life, such as learning cooking and floral art, which will help improve your use value, so don't lose heart from today, and hurry up!
Third, show a happy life in the WeChat circle of friends.
When you become stronger than before, how can you show yourself unconsciously? Wechat friends circle is the best way to show yourself. Some people will continue to release their negative emotions after breaking up and feel that the other person has missed you. Therefore, they reprimanded each other in the WeChat circle of friends, made their shortcomings public or pretended to be intimate, thinking that this was the case. Another convenience will accompany you. The other party won't break up with you for no reason. After breaking up, the first thing to do is to analyze the reasons for breaking up, think about your own problems and make changes to your differences.
As Save love guru McGregor said, "Everyone calls all the items published in a WeChat circle of friends preset items, that is, who the publisher has set in advance." Therefore, the content published in the WeChat circle of friends must be positive to the society, and you can let the other party know your own dynamics without actively contacting the other party. Just like correcting your own shortcomings, doing a good job of self-construction and happening in front of each other with a stronger posture; Do some fitness exercises that the other person likes, so that when they see your photos, they will make a * * * sound; Go to the area where you want to go on holiday, take beautiful photos and present yourself to each other better. Overthrow your previous brand image in his mind, attract his attention and attract him to be with you again.
Fourth, we can rebuild contacts in this way.
In many movie plots, after the hero of the boy and the heroine of the girl broke up, in a grand game place, the No.1 girl was gorgeously dressed in front of the man and many people, which aroused the complex impulse of the man and achieved success and happiness. Although you don't have a director to help you edit the story in real life, there is no film director to teach you how to act. However, there are several ways to teach you how to create an opportunity to meet and contact again.
With the assistance of pen friends, some parties came into being.
Although we broke up, we still have some friends among us. You can get rid of * * * friends to organize some theme activities and invite each other to participate. But this friend will definitely speak when he has mastered everyone's friends, which can prevent some unnecessary misunderstandings. Your friend can first expose each other, what theme activities he will participate in recently and where he will go, so that the probability of meeting by chance will be higher.
In the case of meeting, I can inadvertently meet his eyes and then greet him with a smile. Of course, Lu is kind to him and can communicate with him. There is no need to talk about the past. In the case of communication, he can relax and talk about some topics that can arouse his interests. For example, he likes watching football. You can talk to him about the recent developments of his favorite football team. Understand that satisfaction should not be overly anxious, and there is no need to show a psychological state that you want to save.
Give them a hint on dating software.
If you still have dating software in the crowd, you can't write some sad signatures and depressing trends, but show some interesting things around you and send some high-value content to attract his attention. For example, go climbing with some high-quality friends, send some beautiful scenery or take a happy selfie. When this high-value display lasts for two months, you can attract the other party to care about your daily life, and you can gradually give them a hint.
Be active in everyone's group, talk to other group friends about some interesting and positive topics, and let him notice you. I sometimes like it when I see him sending a WeChat circle of friends. In the case of Momo's live broadcast or QQ on mobile phone software, I can leave your impression while watching his dynamics, indicating that you are also paying attention to his daily life again. But you don't have to talk to him, and you don't have to give them work pressure. On the contrary, you can improve his sense of need and make him think. Do you care why he doesn't talk to him? Maybe one day he will be tempted to contact you.
Take the initiative to contact each other
Taking the initiative to contact each other is a relatively progressive personal behavior, but it must be refrigerated for a period of time before it can be adopted. When he gradually interacts with you on dating software, such as your dynamics, he is a bit awesome. Then at this time, everyone's contact is not so anxious, and the other party has not refuted you. You can make an excuse by phone to say that you want to return something to him, but don't say what it is. If he speaks well, you can also make an appointment to meet him. If he says there is no need to return it, you can say that you have sent it according to the courier company, and ask him to pay attention to the courier information. In fact, you don't have to send him, which will make him full of hope in the next few days and eventually cause frustration, so that he can take the initiative to contact and like you.
Emotional counseling, the above practical methods are all ways to actively create contact, but don't worry in the process of operation, understand your own requirements, and of course, deal with him calmly, don't quarrel, let alone talk about the past. Stay passionate and optimistic during the whole chat, and you can also feel his happy mood. Communicate like friends. When he learns to let his guard down, in addition, you can show your own style and attract each other again with value. That kind of redemption will be very easy to succeed.