In my workplace, there is a boy I admire very much. He doesn't have a girlfriend. ), but we don't have much interaction except our usual work. At most, friends have dinner together in the afternoon or sometimes have dinner after work. Although I find that he sometimes looks at me casually at work (maybe it's my illusion), I'm not sure whether he is interesting or not. Is there any way to detect whether he is interested in something? _ What can I do to attract him to invite me? I have read all your books, and I have enriched myself in the way you said, including reading more articles and signing up for speeches, but I really don't know how to attract M who is just entering the workplace while satisfying my beloved goals! Since I broke up with my boyfriend two years ago, my feelings have been empty for quite some time; Do you really want to have a good relationship now?
Seeing the letter from this female reader, I feel that she is really cute! I believe many girls must be confused, that is, although they read my book and know how to talk to boys, it is not easy or too difficult for girls to talk to boys, but they can't get through their inner levels from beginning to end, so even if they know more methods, it seems useless. At this point, I just need to remind you to prepare for the argument I often mention in this book, that is, the Kan Kan between girls and boys, that is, you talk to boys, not you talk to him; It is "you give them a chance to chase you", not you chase him; Even if you take the initiative to get to know him, it is "he will open his heart to him only if he grasps you with his heart." This mentality, I am the basic psychological construction that you should have when you get along with boys.
That is, readers ask girls how to charge and discharge boys, let boys take action, or how to show their beloved goals that they want to fall in love, so let's discuss what girls should do. What I must tell you first is that apart from correcting herself, having her own daily life, improving herself and releasing her sincerity to others, sometimes a girl has the opportunity to fall in love. In addition to these internal and external standards, it is also closely related to one thing, that is, have you released the message "I want to fall in love".
You have to be 100% girl to meet 100% boy.
Nowadays, in this period when feminism is on the rise, girls have the same cultural and educational opportunities as boys, and they also shape their ability to make money in daily life. They are constantly enriching themselves, learning and training new ideas all the time. Therefore, many high-quality girls, although looking forward to falling in love in their hearts, feel that they are not careful. It is really "I can live well alone, and it should be good to have feelings", and even completely destroy myself. It is precisely because of this idea in my heart that I will unconsciously show my pride of respecting randomness and indifference in my words, manners and eyes, and even a little domineering like "there are things I don't want to do in the world". There is nothing wrong with this, but it is really not the person that girls want to meet. She should mainly show her aura, because that will really discourage many boys. The most suitable idea for us is: I naturally have my own daily life, and I love my daily life. I have lived a life track of 100%, and I look forward to meeting a boy who also lived a life track of 100% and living a life track of 200% that belongs to everyone together.
Maybe some tough girls will want to say, "Oh, not bad! In short, I am looking for a boy who can appreciate me. If he is very capable of working, mainly showing a strong look, so that boys are discouraged because they feel that they can't control me, then it means that he is not a confident person, and I don't need a confident boy to chase me! " Yes, it seems generous and frank for a girl to say something like that heroically, but when it comes to generosity and frankness, I'm afraid your heart actually doesn't think so at all, even if the external performance is mainly tenacious. I look forward to a boy who can tell you the truth in the lonely midnight and let you be cute under the wronged circumstances. So, isn't it good to give yourself plenty of opportunities to know and attract these boys who are likely to appreciate you or have feelings for you?
I think it is everyone's expectation to find someone who understands everyone and wants to enjoy every bit with everyone. Due to the limitation of culture and art, everyone expects this person to be their close lover, which is a "tragedy" for girls, and most people must be played by men. After all, bisexuality only accounts for a very small proportion of the total population. Since you are a must-have man, let's scientifically study how to attract an idealized good man!
Men are a little simple and complicated animals. Some sex writers like to joke that men are not difficult to understand in order to make their writing more convenient. However, if you are wise and brave, do you really think men are simple and easy to understand after sorting out your feelings about love? I don't think so! Some parts of men are simple and some are complex, that is, there are both simple and complex, so use _ _ to describe point F in case you underestimate them and lead you to make an incorrect distinction. It is not very simple to charge and discharge a boy, let him approach you actively and sell cute and silly clothes at will. Especially when times have changed, many men appreciate girls who have the ability to work and ideas. They take good care of themselves and bring them to the stage. That's a truly elegant new woman.
Give men a moderate necessity and inspire real men's fighting spirit.
But on the whole, for many boys, a woman with high feeling quality will think that she really doesn't need a man if she has been mainly acting like she doesn't need a man, because she has been mainly showing that kind of perfection, and all her feelings and daily life are empty, which will make boys wonder if she has any requirements for him! For boys, no, it should be said that being needed by everyone is a very positive and attractive emotional element. When a man feels that he is not needed by his wife, he doesn't want to be with his wife; If a father doesn't feel that the child needs him, he doesn't want to see the child again; If you feel that there is nothing to teach your students, you will choose this paragraph between the teacher and the students. The irrationality that is needed is a valuable instinctive reaction of all people. Although sometimes being needed too much will make some men avoid it, moderate necessity will inspire everyone to be a real man.
Therefore, even if you are a lady with a high quality of daily life, if you are looking forward to a relationship and want to make a boyfriend, please try to show that "I really need it", "I really need some advice for me", "I'm a little lonely" and "I need someone to accompany me" at a moderate opportunity. Information. Even a very good girl, if she doesn't do that, the boy will think, "You probably won't fall in love!" " ""You're not interested in one thing ""Such a girl shouldn't have a crush on me ""Should I be unworthy of her "? With this mentality that boys can imagine in their minds through your external manifestations, even if a boy is interested in you at first, he will hesitate because everyone is afraid of failure! Even a love expert who has great feelings for love must feel some positive responses from women before he dares to let go more and more emotionally and become active again in action. Therefore, smart girls, don't block the motivation of boys crawling forward to you at the beginning!
Looking back, some girls whose external standards are not very good, although the innate standards are not attractive to boys, often show some "positive face" information, so the opposite sex is really good to a bad degree. Although this kind of information is varied, it clearly conveys a message, that is, "Iamavailable" (follow me! ) I want to fall in love. Some direct girls, in chatting with MSN, are likely to immediately express their feelings of wanting to fall in love, or expect to fall in love, or expect to be cared for by boys. They want to go to some areas by themselves, or they can go by themselves, but they are boys and will tell them that they want to go to some areas, but they can't find anyone to accompany them! At this time, boys usually receive information from girls and understand that girls should be invited, which is a typical girl making balls for boys to kill!
In addition, this kind of girl's invitation to friends of the opposite sex is not easy to think twice. She is also afraid of embarrassment, afraid that boys will think too much. If it is the goal she can still talk about, she wants to give each other a chance, even for fear of too few choices. She decisively changed the itinerary that should have been two people, and immediately expanded it into a fraternity of three or five friends, so that she would bring two people herself, but she would not be able to do it herself. They are always good at making new friends (but if they are naive and evil, they will be cut off), and they are also good at introducing their basin friends in detail, which of course leads to their full schedules and colorful leisure and entertainment daily life. A girl who is cheerful and wants to fall in love is the most elegant for boys.