Familiarity with people begins with communication and begins with small talk. In the conversation with your mother-in-law, you can know what she is interested in, her habits and values, so as to strengthen your understanding of her.
Second, replace trees with flowers.
A man should take the initiative to buy something for his mother, but tell her it's from his wife. Offer to buy something for your daughter-in-law, but say it's from your mother. Actively build this bridge between two women.
Third, I often perform "disgusting dramas" in front of my mother-in-law.
This is not to say that you and your husband should be too close in front of your mother-in-law. On the contrary, this is the most taboo for a wife! The "disgusting play" here refers to showing your love and care for your husband in front of your mother-in-law. For example, if you live with your mother-in-law, you can perform some plays with your husband in front of her mother-in-law, so that her mother-in-law can know that you have paid for her precious son and that you have not robbed him of delicious and useful things; You are busy doing everything at home and outside. At this point, it doesn't matter how disgusting and exaggerated you are. The important thing is to satisfy the mother-in-law's heart. You know, when mom is eccentric, it depends on how you hit it right!
Fourth, remember your role.
Although you are married, you should change your previous address from "aunt" to "mother", but don't think that you can treat your mother-in-law as your own mother. What I'm talking about here is not the difference in filial piety. Parents and families should treat filial piety equally. I mean, mother and daughter can be no big or small, whether it's a joke, a prank or an argument, after all, it won't really affect the blood relationship. But mother-in-law is different. You can be a little coquettish, but you must not be willful. Once there is a contradiction, it is likely that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will drop to freezing point. Even if the situation will ease with the passage of time, I don't know if the emotional rift can really be repaired.
Five, cultivate the mind, tolerance, education
Remind the mother-in-law more, educate the daughter-in-law more, and let them cultivate the habit of tolerance. When they let go, the contradiction will naturally disappear.