The netizen wrote that my girlfriend and I have been in love for two years. I was born in 1988, two years older than her. She is still immature in character. She always likes watching Japanese anime, in other words, she likes two-dimensional things. Doing things often makes people feel meaningless, and then every time she speaks in public, she feels a little prickly. I don't care because I just like her generosity and frankness.
I asked her if she was ready to get married, and she said happily, no problem! But what I am worried about now is the situation on my parents' side, because I know my parents' personality too well. A very masculine father feels that he is the master and master of the family. As long as others don't follow him, he will be furious. My mother dotes on me a little, just like grabbing the role of husband with her daughter-in-law in TV series. Although she usually treats my girlfriend well, it is based on not living together. Once living together, my mother will definitely show the same-sex repulsion and criticize everywhere. When I was a child, my father invited four nannies to take me, but my mother drove them away because she suspected that they were with me. Regarding their personalities, I decided never to live with them after marriage.
At present, we have two suites in the city, one is allocated by my parents' unit, and the other is a self-built house where I live with my parents now. The suite is now plainclothes and rented to a leather bag construction company as an office. My idea is that my wife and I will live in that room after marriage. I think it is a very reasonable request, but my father doesn't allow it. I wonder if there is such a mentality. You said that if you can't see the children, can't you and your wife go to work? Why do you have to live together?
So I have been afraid to get married, and I have also communicated with my girlfriend. I won't consider getting married for the time being. We all work in public institutions, but they are not compiled and belong to contract workers. I want to coordinate these problems with my parents after I finish my career in two years. If we can't coordinate, I'll rent a house. For people like my dad who value face, I will see who can consume more energy in the future. But my girlfriend doesn't understand me, saying that the contradiction between daughter-in-law and in-law can be solved through communication, and she doesn't mind living with my parents. . . . Alas, annoying. Ask bloggers to enlighten me, or give me some advice on how to do it.
Pan Xiao answered your friend, Hello. Your worries and anxieties represent your maturity. But there is also a word called "much ado about nothing". As the saying goes, in times of peace, some things must be prepared for a rainy day. Now that you have sorted out the personalities of parents and girlfriends, once there are some unnecessary contradictions, you will know how to be a mediator. In other words, if you have to live with your parents, you must be prepared to act as a mediator in the family atmosphere.
You are worried about this because you are afraid of all kinds of contradictions between parents and girlfriends, which will affect marriage and life. Second, you are afraid that after the contradiction appears, you should try your best to resolve it and affect your mood. In fact, whether it is a couple, husband and wife, or in-laws, it takes a period of running-in to get along well. Although cohabitation has many inconveniences, everything has two sides, a good side and a bad side. After weighing the pros and cons, if you are a wise man, it depends on how you can be a qualified husband and son.
The netizen wrote that my husband and I have a good relationship. We've been married for ten years and hardly ever quarreled. My husband is honest, but he loves to drink, probably because he wants to go underground and always drinks to drive away the cold, so I don't blame him for anything. After the baby was born, I went to work on a big farm in the county. Because her husband is underground, the baby is taken care of by her in-laws.
On a Sunday in May this year, my husband went home and found some good friends to drink in the county. Then he went to the dormitory of the farm to find me drunk. At that time, I knew that he had gone home, so I asked for leave from my boss and drove home. However, my husband doesn't know about it. It was about ten o'clock in the evening, and he ran to my dormitory. Then something terrible happened, because our dormitory was a double room, and I lived with a sister from my hometown. That night, my husband mistook my sister for me and forced her to bed. The next morning, my husband woke up and found that he had made a mistake.
That elder sister is a widow in our village. After the incident, instead of flinching, she pestered my husband to do it at her house. So, in order not to let this matter leak out, her husband agreed to her request. It was not until yesterday that he could not resist the pressure in his heart and told me the whole thing. Now, I'm confused. I think of my honest husband and my shameless sister. I really don't know what to do.
Pan Xiao answered your friend, Hello. It is often said that drinking something is not good, but most men still disagree. It was not until the drunken promiscuity really happened that I tasted regret.
You and your husband have a good relationship. The reason why he hid the truth and went to the widow's house for the night was completely passive. The purpose of doing so was for you. So, on the bright side, your husband's personality is still good and he can be trusted. But in the face of threats, his ability to handle things is not good, which leads to the continuous deterioration of things.
Now that things have reached this point, it is no longer a rational choice to discuss who is right and who is wrong. At present, when your husband is frank and determined to escape from the widow's threat, you should try your best to do your sister's work well and not let her go public, so as not to ruin your husband's reputation and bring great influence to your family.